I'm a parent of three children. I know what it feels like to be angry and hurt by a child and desperate to lay eyes on that child all at the same time, knowing that, if you ever do, you will give them the moon, never mind that they don't deserve it and that it may not be good for their character. As a parent, whatever struggle you are having with your child's growing pains, you cannot bear to hear a negative word about that child uttered by someone else! So I'm there with that father, running out to place himself, physically, if necessary, in between that boy and any insults that bystanders may fling at him as he makes his way home.

The father won't even let his son get through his carefully rehearsed speech before he begins issuing orders to the servants. He offers him a kiss (a sign of forgiveness, 2 Sam. 14:33), a robe (a mark of distinction), a signet ring (a sign of authority), and shoes (worn only by freemen). The father throws him a banquet, rejoicing in his son's return to his father's table. He wants to point out his honored status to his younger son, but also to the community (Boucher, 100-101).

The older son objects to the warm welcome and the gifts, the signs of honor. And he has a valid point. Isn't this celebrating excessive? This son of his father's (15:30) has squandered a third of the family property and now will be living off his share. He wonders if this is good parenting on his father's part. Where are the consequences? Isn't the father just enabling more irresponsible behavior on the boy's part? Where is the chore list? Where is the gradual repayment plan? His objection is a reminder that those who receive the free grace of God respond by bearing fruit.

And then there is the response of the father to the older son. His handling of the interchange with his older boy is parenting at its best. He does not condemn the older brother. He quietly assures him of his concern and love for him as well as his younger brother. He tells him of the course of action he has chosen and leaves it up to him to decide on his own. We are left, at the end of the parable, not sure whether or not he will go into the banquet hall.

We too are left, at the end of the parable, not sure whether or not we will go into the banquet hall. Maybe the affront to our sense of fairness will overpower our yearning for the forgiveness and joy that lies within the banquet hall. Maybe we will go off to the barn and fork some hay to work off our frustrations, while the sound of the festivities annoys our ears. Or maybe our yearning for the love that lies within the banquet hall will overcome all else, and we will enter into the joy of a God who rejoices over the return of every lost child.

Sources Consulted

Paul Duke, The Parables: A Preaching Commentary, The Great Texts Series (Nashville: Abingdon Press, 2005).

Alyce M. McKenzie, The Parables for Today (Westminster John Knox Press, 2007).

Brian C. Stiller, Preaching Parables to Postmoderns (Minneapolis: Fortress Press, 2005).