Same Sex Marriage
Editorial on Same-Sex Marriage
Jason Pitzl-Waters, writing for the Pagan tradition, agrees that designating marriage as strictly heterosexual unfairly privileges the perspectives of some religious traditions over others. "The melding of a civil contract and (mainly Christian) religious ceremony in America has created the erroneous idea that the State should have some role in defining and blessing (with legal benefits) which two consenting adults should be able to be joined before their god(s)." The government should either "get out of the marriage game" or treat all marriages in the same way.
Timothy Dalrymple presents an Evangelical counter-argument. After all, he claims, it is not "the government" but the American people themselves, through democratic and representative means, who choose to legalize same-sex marriage or not. Evangelicals, like other religious and non-religious groups, have every right to shape the moral culture and legal structures of the society in which they and their children live. When the founders separated church and state, they did not mean that voters had to leave their religious convictions outside the ballot box.
None of the authors in the Public Square develops the argument that the legalization of same-sex marriage would lead to harmful consequences. However, the negative effects of discrimination against gays are made clear. Rashi Kesarwani writes about Parvez Sharma's documentary, A Jihad for Love, which follows gay Muslims and their struggles "to reconcile their faith with their sexuality, often in places where the basic human right of sexual expression is under attack." Since gays in some Muslim nations can be severely punished, even executed, many have sought asylum in the West. Yet in America, Sharma says, "the evangelical right-wing is as shrill in its condemnation of homosexuality and in its opposition, for example, to gay marriage...as are many Muslim clerics. How are they different?"
The Pragmatics of Opposition and Support
On the question of whether gays are right to press for legalization and whether religious groups are right to oppose it, the Public Square presents several counter-intuitive positions.
According to Bob Ostertag, a prominent journalist and professor, marriage is the wrong "priority" for gays. "The non-normative, non-confirming beauty of LGBT culture" was once represented in its rejection of "the hegemony of the institution of marriage." Many in the younger generations of the gay community, he says, are unaware that their elders pressed for "rights" even as they spurned the need for "institutional acceptance." What must be recovered from this earlier period in the gay rights movement is the sense that no single form of relationship should be elevated over others as ideal and uniquely worthy of status and privilege.
On the other side, two writers maintain that religious conservatives are wrong to oppose gay marriage in the ways they have. Nate Oman notes that California's constitutional referendum only heightened tensions. Mormons would be wiser, he claims, to seek an amicable legislative compromise. "Legislation, produced as it is in the rough and tumble of partisan horse-trading, is unlikely to partake of the kind of total victory and total defeat represented by a court victory or a constitutional ban." Legislation also would not "enshrine the result in constitutional law, where it sits about as a possible counterweight to free speech or free exercise rights."
Likewise Tony Jones, a minister and popular writer in Evangelical circles, uses his article to upbraid Evangelicals for all the attention they devote to same-sex marriage. It has become another "shibboleth," he claims, "a particularly meaningless differentiator of persons." Opposition to same-sex marriage, though it is based on a mere seven verses in the Bible, has become the newest way for Evangelicals to define who belongs in their fold and who does not. Yet it is a "cultural" issue and not a matter of fundamental concern.
Finally, the same-sex marriage debate may be won not on the basis of arguments and tactics but on simple demographics. As Nicole Greenfield writes, underlying the polarized debate splashed across our broadsheets and television screens, the personal feelings of many of those affected are more subtle. "The general trend among younger, religiously conservative people [is] toward a greater acceptance of gay and lesbian people in their immediate social circles." These younger generations lack the "crusading ardor" of their parents when it comes to same-sex marriage, and are more likely to care about social inequalities and the environment. As she concludes, "All too often we only hear the voices of the most ardent supporters and the fiercest opponents of same-sex marriage, which means that other voices -- which are just as numerous -- tend to go unheard."
Timothy Dalrymple is the CEO and Chief Creative Officer of Polymath Innovations, a strategic storytelling agency that advances the good with visionary organizations and brands. He leads a unique team of communicators from around North America and across the creative spectrum, serving mission-driven businesses and nonprofits who need a partner to amplify their voice and good works.
Once a world-class gymnast whose career ended with a broken neck, Tim channeled his passions for faith and storytelling into his role as VP of Business Development for Patheos, helping to launch and grow the network into the world's largest religion website. He holds a Ph.D. in Religion from Harvard's Graduate School of Arts and Sciences. Tim blogs at Philosophical Fragments.