A spiritual response to these stories might be to turn away from the question of objective truth and focus instead on whether our lives reflect the essential messages of the stories.

Surrounded by the usual code words for these holidays—"freedom from slavery" for the first, "resurrection and new life" for the second—asking if Passover and Easter are celebrations of violence may seem at the least silly and at worst an exercise of blasphemous anti-religiosity. Yet it is actually a serious question.

Consider that while freeing the Jews, all, yes all, the Egyptians' first-born children—from that of the Pharaoh to the Pharaoh's servants to the Pharaoh's pet cat—had to die. And consider that Christianity seems to require the suffering and death of an innocent. That is why some people not under the spell of scriptural sanctity have had critical thoughts. Even as authentic member of the club as Holocaust survivor and extensive commentator on Jewish tradition, Elie Wiesel, was deeply pained that the liberation of the Jews required the slaughter of innocent Egyptians. And Matthew Fox, originally a Catholic priest and now an Episcopal one, asks comparable questions about what he considers his faith's over-emphasis on sin and death and lack of appreciation for creation and love. Not to mention radical Christian feminists who challenge what they think of as patriarchy's love affair with violence.

For my part I believe it is possible to use these stories for our own spiritual development, but that to do so we need what might be called a spiritual reading—one that takes the narratives very seriously, but not at all literally.

Passover celebrates the liberation of oppressed slaves from the most powerful nation on earth, in part through a series of punishments enacted not only on Egypt's rulers, but on the entire populace. Easter commemorates how a beloved, inspiring, and prophetic teacher is brutally put to death only to return to life two days later. Both stories are miraculous events which, if true, reveal the influence of a more-than-human power.

But rather than asking, "As contrary to the laws of nature as these events are, did they really happen?", a spiritual approach emphasizes psychological and moral dimensions—rather than metaphysical claims—about God.

In this view, the exodus becomes a metaphor for our own liberation from internal constraints of greed or fear. The courage the Jews needed to leave the security of Egypt and face the wilderness will be a model for the courage we too will need to face the inevitable pain and disorientation which comes with spiritual growth.

Keep in mind that even if God frees us from slavery, it still takes great courage to embrace that freedom. One midrash (interpretive biblical commentary) suggests that God's parting of the Red Sea only occurred after the first of the Israelites started to walk into the water. A contemporary writer (my daughter, Anna Gottlieb, at her Bat Mitzvah) tells us that "to make a miracle, it takes courage."  

As for the death of innocent Egyptians, in some ways the most painful part of the story—this becomes an image for what must be overcome, tossed aside, or even (metaphorically) killed in the process of liberation. Personally and socially when an oppressed group rebels, its oppressors are shocked, threatened (consider what happens to men when women demand equality!), and even devastated. Freedom's costs are real and often terribly painful—even, at times, to the innocent. Ultimately all of us should remember that if we keep slaves, eventually we ourselves will suffer terribly—and not in ways we can predict.