A Novena for Parents who have Lost a Child

There is nothing we can say that will make things easier for a parent who lost a child; but perhaps there is something we can pray. [Read more…]

See It All Around You, Good Lovin’ Gone Bad

You can participate in this corporal work of mercy by helping this couple salvage their marriage. [Read more…]

Forgiveness doesn’t Preclude Justice.

We must forgive. In fact, in the Lord’s Prayer our own forgiveness is tied to how well we forgive: “Forgive us our trespasses as [in the same way] we forgive those who trespass against us.”

But too often we conflate forgiveness with mercy, passivity, and reconciliation. [Read more…]

‘Don’t Talk About the Baby’ #ShatterTheStigma

That first night, when I went to bless my children, and I came to where her name was supposed to be, I broke down in heaving sobs. The only other time in my life that I’ve wept with such intensity was 17 years earlier on the day I signed away my rights to my eldest daughter, giving her up for adoption. I lost my child, and nothing could be done about it. [Read more…]

The Sea of Grief and the Ship of Belief

You never really get over the loss of a child. The grief doesn’t ever work itself out; it just hibernates for a while. And it only takes one misstep from someone who doesn’t understand, some transgression from a friend of family member, to plunge you back into the depths of that sorrow. Tonight, I had to explain to my children why their dad was shouting words-that-they’ve-never-heard-in-their-short-little-lives during nap time. [Read more…]