Must complementarian moms stay home with the kids?

Well I am feeling a bit better, but still not really up to writing.  I was able, however, to update my list of Top Christian Blogs ranked by Twitter Followers. Do let me know if I have missed anyone.

As I mentioned earlier this week tomorrow on Premier Christian radio’s Unbelievable? show and online I will be in a discussion with Rachel Held Evans and Owen Strachan.  You can listen in online as it is broadcast at 2:30pm UK time or download it afterwards.

I thought I would introduce you today in continuation of our thoughts on the Complementarian-Egalitarian spectrum to something Owen Strachen recently wrote on whether being a stay home dad is consistent with a complementarian viewpoint. There is a range of views on this matter among complementarians, but in case anybody reading this is interested, at one point when our children were young I did go part time so I could share in the child care with my wife who also at that time was also working part-time.  Here is an extract from Owen’s article:

In a marriage, men fill this Christic role. We therefore have explicit textual reasons for calling men to be providers for their families, particularly when God gives the blessing of children, but we should not neglect the rich theme of Christ’s provision for his bride. Men who wish to be like Christ, in other words, do well to image his sacrificial labor by their own.

Does this mean, though, that if a man folds laundry he is some sort of spineless creature, giving up his God-given duties for work he should not countenance? Not at all. There is nothing biblically to indicate that it’s wrong for a man to pitch in where he can to help his wife. I do not think a husband is called to be a homemaker as a wife is, but neither do I experience personal internal conflict when I wash some dishes at night to help out my wife, who has been nurturing small children and executing countless household tasks all day while I’ve worked to provide. Complementarianism, with its connection between the husband’s work and Christ’s provision, sets the bar higher for men than the culture does. It’s not easier to be a godly man; you can’t claim the title “lord of the home” and then plop yourself into the easy chair to watch ESPN and lose yourself in your iPhone, leaving discipline and training and teaching to your wife. Contrary to what we see most everywhere in our society today, men are not called by God to tune out from the family and merely make money. No, men are sup- posed to lead in all areas, including training of the children, discipline, and opportunities for sacrifice.

As I said, in my home this means that I help out where I can with the kids and even a few chores. No one would confuse me for the homemaker; I’m frankly not and never will be. Much of what I do does not fall under that rubric. Neither, though, do I avoid serving my wife. In calling men to be “dad dads,” then, I’m not offering a summons from the Stone Age, but a call to show the world a new kind of manhood, a redeemed kind, a self-sacrificial, strong, bold, and loving kind.  READ MORE

About Adrian Warnock

Adrian Warnock is a medical doctor, a writer, and a member of Jubilee Church, London since 1995, where he serves as part of the leadership team alongside Tope Koleoso. Together they have written Hope Reborn - How to Become a Christian and Live for Jesus, published by Christian Focus. Adrian is also the author of Raised With Christ - How The Resurrection Changes Everything, published by Crossway. Read more about Adrian Warnock or connect with him on Twitter, Facebook or Google+.

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