How do I find a church?

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Many people love Jesus, but are less impressed with the church. If you are searching for a church but are unsure where to start, I hope this post may help you. If you are in a church, please think about how you can make it easier for people to find the right church for them and offer more tips below in the comments section. In the good old days if you were looking for a church you generally knew what kind of church you wanted by the denomination that you had grown up in. Today you could walk into a Baptist church in one town and it would have more in common with a Presbyterian church in the next one! So, selecting a church can pose something of a challenge. It is important to realize for those of us who are fortunate enough to live in either the USA or the UK that despite all the talk about declining church attendances we are usually spoilt for choice. There are many parts of the world where the challenge would not be “which of these 20 churches in my city should I join?” but instead finding a single church within less than a couple of hours of driving or more. I think there are a number of questions that you can ask yourself, and then ask a prospective church. You shouldn’t just ask all these questions, you should also think about which of them are most important to you. So after answering them, why not re-order the list in your own personal priority, and perhaps add a couple of others. Then, when you are checking out churches you can find out where there is a match or mismatch between you. Just like exploring a possible relationship, you should probably not ask every question on this list on or before your first “date”! I do think it is very important that you do not approach this too much like a consumer. It is almost certain that, just as in looking for a partner, you will not find the “perfect match.” But because you have written a list, you can think about whether or not the differences really matter to you after all. It is way more important that you go to a church than that you go to the “right” church!

  1. Do I want a traditional service or a more informal one? The worship wars may seem passé, and you may well be willing to compromise a bit on this, but if you are looking for all hymns, and all you get is country and western choruses you will struggle!
  2. Do I want a church where hand-raising and/or clapping is required, encouraged, tolerated, or frowned on? Obviously this is a challenge if you are on a very different perspective to the church on this point!
  3. Do I want a church where gifts of the Spirit are rejected as not for today, accepted in theory, or practiced regularly? If you are a raving charismatic like me, do bear in mind that the Sunday service may not be a good reflection of how charismatic a church really is. Ask them about their prayer meetings.
  4. What opportunities am I looking for to serve in a church? As not what your church can do for you but what you can do for your church!
  5. Do I want a church which baptizes believers only or which christens babies?
  6. Do I want to go to a church that is part of a traditional denomination, in a family of recently planted churches, or is totally independent. Try to ensure that the church at least has some good relationships with other churches and doesn’t think it is the best church in the world “What other churches are you similar to?” is a good question to ask.
  7. Do I want to attend a large church or a small one? It is important to be flexible on this, after all every large church once started as a small church, and isn’t the point of being a Christian to want to share the message with others? But, having said that, if you are used to being in either a very large church or a very small church it will take some adapting to make the transition. Be aware of this, and if you are trying out a much larger church than you are used to, make sure you join up with a small group early on and make every effort to actually connect with people (Even in the most welcoming large church you will be able to sneak in and out without anybody talking to you if you try hard, which is actually one reason many people like it!)
  8. Do I want a multicultural church or one where everybody is like me?
  9. Do I want a church that prefers John Piper or Rob Bell? (or add your own favorite well-known preachers here, this is probably one of the most revealing questions to ask!)
  10. Which version of the Bible do I want to hear read?
  11. What do I think about the important doctrinal debates of today? How much do I need to find a church that agrees with me on subjects like gender roles,homosexuality, the gifts of the Holy Spirit, Calvinism, hell and salvation, and evolution. You may well need to be prepared to compromise on some of these points.

Once you have an idea of what kind of church you are looking for, there are several ways to find one. 1. Ask a friend The best way of finding a church is one that you have probably already explored: word of mouth. There is nothing like a personal recommendation. Ask around, and ask your friends to ask around. If you have exhausted your offline and online social networks, I can offer the next best thing to someone you know helping you. I intend to keep this post available on the blog, so if you are looking for a church, why not add a comment below, who knows maybe I or one of my readers might be able to help you. To that end, if you are willing to help out people looking for a church please do check back here from time to time. In the not too distant future we should be able to subscribe to a comment feed, hopefully. If your comment here hasn’t had any replies in a few days, @ me on Twitter and I will retweet your request for a church recommendation. Of course, the only issue here is that the people offering you recommendations of churches might not have the same idea of church as you do. But, I suppose if you and the recomemnder are both readers of my blog or Twitter stream, you are more likely to be looking for similar things in churches than someone with whom you have nothing in common. 2. Check a list from a denomination or group of churches If you know what denomination or family of churches you are looking for you can visit the website and search for a church. Here are some examples. You might want to compare notes with searches suggested under point 3., especially if you are looking for an evangelical church. This is not a complete list, but feel free to let me know of major ones I have missed off: Denominations

Families of churches

  • Newfrontiers. This is the group that I am a part of personally. It is a reformed charismatic group with a large number of churches in the UK and some scattered all over the world.
  • Acts 29 A ground of reformed churches, many of which are broadly charismatic. Originally founded by Mark Driscoll, all of which are relatively new churches.
  • Sovereign Grace Ministries Another reformed charismatic family of churches founded by C.J Mahaney.
  • Glocal Net A small sample of the many churches Bob Roberts has been involved in planting.
  • Redeemer City to City a group of churches founded by Tim Keller

3. Check a list of churches from different denominationsThere are several websites that have a list of different kinds of churches. If you are part of a church, I do encourage you to please ensure that your church is listed on as many of these sites as possible and relevant to you. Unfortunately, none of these sites have anything like a complete list, so if you know a great church and its missing from one of these lists add it even if you are not a member! Where allowed by the sites below, please also don’t be shy to share a review of any church you have attended. If you know of another helpful site that lists churches which I have missed, let me know.

Lists of Evangelical Churches

  • What is an evangelical? will help you decide if you are one yourself or not, but if you are then you will most-likely not be comfortable in a non-evangelical church.
  • If, like me, you like preachers like John Piper, D.A.Carson, Mark Driscoll, Matt Chandler, Lig Duncan, etc then you may well like to try the Gospel Coalition Church Directory. There are even some churches from other nations in this list.
  • In the UK the Evangelical Alliance and Affinity between them have almost every Evangelical church over here listed.

Before you visit a churchHopefully by now you have a short list of a few churches in your neighborhood to consider, it may be a good idea to do the following:.

  1. Visit their website, and see how much you can find out about them. You might be surprised how many of the questions above you can answer without even leaving your home.
  2. Call the church office and have a chat. Don’t give them an interrogation, but most of the time anyone answering the phone for a church should be more than happy to tell you a bit about it!
  3. Listen to an online sermon from the church if available.
  4. Check their reputation. Google the name of the church to see if there is anything online about them (beware that lies can be posted online, however!) and more importantly ask around what people think of the church if you know any Christians in the city.
On the day you visit
  • Arrive slightly early and observe the atmosphere of the church as people arrive
  • Be willing to talk with people. Feel free to ask some questions but don’t bombard the steward with complex theological issues!
  • Ask yourself if you feel comfortable here. If not, ask if that is necessarily a bad thing!
  • Can you imagine yourself growing as a Christian in this church and making friends here?
  • Beware of making a snap judgement. This Sunday may be far from typical. Generally it takes at least three test Sundays before you can really be sure if this is a good match.
  • Ask God if this is the church he is joining you to

There are some other articles thatgive advice about how to find a church, you might find some of them helpful:

Other people’s storiesHave you a story to tell of how you found a church? Blog about your own experiences, link back here, and we will add you to the list below:

About Adrian Warnock

Adrian Warnock is a medical doctor, a writer, and a member of Jubilee Church, London since 1995, where he serves as part of the leadership team alongside Tope Koleoso. Together they have written Hope Reborn - How to Become a Christian and Live for Jesus, published by Christian Focus. Adrian is also the author of Raised With Christ - How The Resurrection Changes Everything, published by Crossway. Read more about Adrian Warnock or connect with him on Twitter, Facebook or Google+.

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  • http://www.verifiedwriter.net/ The Believer

    Thanks for this post, very helpful to those who have just relocated and are indeed on the look out for a new church to attend and become a member of. If I may just add, most Statements of Faith and doctrines of at least some churches are also available on these churches’ website, so it might be wise to check on the church’s website, see what information you can get there, and even contact the church admin or pastor should you have other inquiries and concerns.

  • http://www.kellyjyoungblood.com Kelly J Youngblood

    I just went through this after we moved. It took us about six months to find a church (and I blogged about the process). Our search had a unique aspect to it in that we pretty much were only looking at one or two denominations (I won’t go into those reasons here but if you message me on FB I’ll tell you why). However, the number of churches in those denominations was pretty plentiful.

  • http://www.future-shape-of-church.org Edward Green (@EdwardBGreen)

    Good questions. I would avoid the term Christen as I tend to use it for the giving of the Christian name of a child rather than the act of pouring water in the name of the triune God. Baptism policy is a good place to start as infant baptists have different views.

    There is also the question of ow a church handles Community. Here the difference is big between urban and rural. Certainly here I enjoy fellowship with Christians as much at non church village events as at church events. This is a big culture shock for some urban Christians.

    Size is interesting. I care for 7 communities but see them as one church. The true size of the Church is not clear to visitors to one of the village gatherings.

    I applaud your Charismatic comments. Just because I lead liturgical worship with hymns doesn’t mean there are not Charismatic expressions in other places. Indeed my sermon may well have been inspired by the sharing of gifts.

    I would add something about sacraments. Mark Driscoll is very strong on regular communion following Calvin, but not all congregations have weekly celebration of the Lord’s Supper. This would be a deal breaker for me.

  • http://www.delemares.wordpress.com sandra delemare

    ■Ask God if this is the church he is joining you to
    I’m glad you added that.
    This may be a bit off-topic – God found my church for me. I’d been out of fellowship for years, had an amazing experience of God’s acceptance and almost immediately wanted to find a church. God said, ‘You carry on looking after your family and the new baby, and I’ll find you a church.’ and he did. The minute I walked through the doors, I felt at home (comparing notes later, many others in our church said that they felt the same). That was over 26 years ago – and I’m still very happy with my church family.
    I write more on my story on my blog.
    Don’t leave God out of the equation!
    btw anyone living on the Waterside, New Forest East (or further afield) is very welcome to join us at: http://www.lighthousecommunitychurch.co.uk/index.html (there’s a potted version of my testimony there).
    We are in fellowship with the Assemblies of God.

  • Steve

    In America, we’re used to choosing between different competitive brands for everything. But I’ve always found the idea of “Church shopping” to be a bit… well… I don’t think the consumer mindset and worship should go together.

    If I was looking for a Church, my question would not be, “Which one matches what I believe and suits my personal style.” My question is this: Which Christian tradition is the most accurate expression of the faith and practices left to us by Jesus Christ?

    It’s not about searching for what is “right for me” – it’s about searching for the truth.

    • http://whataboutseo.com The Believer

      Steve,

      I got your point there, but on the other hand, isn’t the search for “what’s right for me” should be, at best and by God’s enabling grace, be patterned on the “truth”? For our attempt to form our beliefs, our preferred styles, should be hand in hand geared towards our earnest search for the truth.

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  • Tim

    Having gone through this process a few times in my life. I have to say that in the list 4 should be the highest and perhaps reworded to ask “Where does God think my gifts would be best used?”. The first rule is that Church is a place to be used by God. Of course we need to receive and be nurtured to give, but it’s his priorities we need to follow.

    The most effective way I found of finding a church was to look for two or three churches in the area that might fit the bill, and write to the ministers describing myself (warts and all) and asking if they could give advice and see how I might fit in. In one case, a minister could see straightaway that I wouldn’t be right for his church, but passed my details on to another pastor in the denomination who wrote back a very affirming letter. I spent several happy and productive years in his Church before I moved cities. I did the same thing when I moved again, and this time the response from one minister was enough for me to realise his church wasn’t where God wanted me, and I spent a few months elsewhere before moving across town, near another church that would become home for several years.

    The difficulty in church shopping is that you can only see a church as it is – not where it is going. In one case the move from traditional hymns to a mix of traditional and modern choruses was lack of a guitarist not motivation. Within a month I was involved in leading worship (having never done it outside youth meetings before!). What was missing was me.

    I’d also add be wary of church websites. Often, they are the pet project of one or two members of the congregation (esp. in smaller churches) and reflect their own biases – the church they think it should be (or once was) rather than the church that is now. A church may well lovingly accept that gift because they value the individual more than they worry about the website!

  • http://www.1800churches.com Mosongo Osong

    I had been in many situations where I was searching for a church online but was kind of hard to find one
    on google and other church directories. Some had a few listings but not much. Others had more but the information were not up to date so I decided to create a new website that will actually solve this problem. http://www.1800churches.com is a great place to find a church. It was previously churchedin but the new name is 1800churches. Check it out if you ever need help finding a church. All the best. God bless.

  • http://www.1800churches.com Anthony D’Ambrosio

    Hey Adrian, I just stumbled on your blog post, “How do I find a church?” Good stuff there man. I am the social media guy for 1-800-churches (previously named churched in, which you mentioned in your blog!). I just wanted to thank you for including us in your post. We are always looking for guest bloggers so if you would ever like to blog for us, let me know.
    God Bless

  • http://mychurchmatch.com MyChurchMatch

    Adrian,

    I know this is an older post however it is still very relevant. It can be so discouraging to know that there are so many people actually looking for churches but really have no way of determining where to start. I have heard so many stories of people trying a few and then giving up. At the risk of being flagged for self promoting we have created a church matching website to help people hear from real people about their church culture. This is not just another church directory it is a community for people to talk about their church. Not to be crass but someone described it “like a church dating site”.

    Anyway, thanks again for the great post. We would love any feedback you have about our site.

    Alex at MyChurchMatch.com


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