Jubilee Church St. Louis – A Home Away From Home

One of the joys of being a Christian is that we have brothers and sisters all over the world. One of the delights in being in a family of churches like Newfrontiers, which has a strong set of core values and a shared story, is that such ties are even stronger. Call it shared DNA, call it living in the shadow of Terry Virgo, whose example permeates the movement, or call it whatever you want, it is certainly very tangible.  From the moment I arrived in town and was met by a regular member who had … [Read more...]

St. Joseph, Jeff Gates, and Micah Fries

I have had a great time here in St. Joseph, Missouri.  I traveled down with two men who I now call dear friends, Jeff Gates, the pastor at Living Hope Church, St. Joseph and Ben Roed, who with his lovely wife Peggy, are serving in Living Hope and are being well trained by Jeff. It was wonderful to see how clearly Peggy and Ben complement each other. They are relatively newly married, but it was obvious to see how much of a support Peggy is to him, and how her strengths will continue to … [Read more...]

Gossip vs. Flattery

R. Kent Hughes: Gossip involves saying behind a person’s back what you would never say to his or her face. Flattery means saying to a person’s face what you would never say behind his or her back. Disciplines of a Godly Man, p. 139 via Justin Taylor. … [Read more...]

Matt Chandler On The Role Of Men

I recently listened to these three talks from Chandler about how us men should be. As Matt puts it himself, in these talks he is "going after" us. If you are a woman, suggest your husband listens to these but don't nag him about it.  If you are a man, stop what you are doing and prepare to be as challenged as I was. May God help us all to live in the good of this message and make us better husbands and fathers: Defining Masculinity (transcript) Men as Husbands (transcript) Men as Fathers … [Read more...]

The Effects of Pornography – EdStetzer.com

I do love it when a scientific study shows us what we all thought likely to be the case.  When will society take note that this massive market is degrading to women and men alike? # Pornography is addictive, and neuroscientists are beginning to map the biological substrate of this addiction. # Users tend to become desensitized to the type of pornorgraphy they use, become bored with it, and then seek more perverse forms of pornography. # Married men who are involved in pornography feel less … [Read more...]

Conflict Resolution Requires Spirit-Filling

Today's quote from the Doctor is on the subject of conflict resolution. Writing about Ephesians 5, Lloyd-Jones stresses the source of the only true solution for human conflicts:The world is characterized by divisions, by clashes, everybody wanting to be first, everybody wanting to be important. That is, of course, the main cause of all the problems and the difficulties that are confronting the world at this present time. Now the Apostle’s statement asserts that there is really only one … [Read more...]

What Would The Doctor Have Thought Of Sex Education?

The Doctor makes a strong point below, but I wonder if he might think differently in this society where our kids will learn about sex at school, and unless we are eternally vigilant, on TV. I do want my children to learn about these things form me and Andree, but at the same time I want to talk about it in a way that they are neither encouraged to sin, nor given the idea that sex is dirty and sinful. For more about sex and marriage, see Tope's recent sermon series which is ongoing. The Doctor's … [Read more...]

Rebuilding Marriages – Following the Manual

This sermon is a real treat to watch. So much Christian teaching on marriage is based purely on human wisdom, and amounts to repacked psychological insights. Actually, I have no problem with us learning from such thoughts--since after all if Proverbs tells us to learn from the ants, we can with discernment learn from anywhere. BUT, we must first get our foundations right before we learn the superficial principles. As such, I commend this sermon from my friend and pastor, Tope Koleoso. In it … [Read more...]

Don't Try And Marry The Church, She's Already Taken.

This is a note especially to all you pastors out there, but also to many keen church members. Are you married to your ministry job? Are you married to your church? Well, if you are, do you realize that Jesus is your rival? The church is pledged to be married to him. And you have probably already been married to another woman yourself, in any case. Have you ever considered that it is possible to commit spiritual adultery by neglecting your bride in favor of Christ's? You are not so foolish as … [Read more...]

Matt And Lou's Wedding

This morning it was my delight to be involved in the marriage of my good friends Matt and Lou. They chose to create their own vows based quite closely on the ones my own wife and I wrote back in 1995. So, the following words brought back good memories:Before God and before this congregation, I will ask you to declare your freedom and readiness to enter into the covenant of marriage. I will also ask your families and this congregation to affirm their willingness to support you today and in the … [Read more...]