When a Man Dies Instead of You

 Looking for a powerful book to read? New York Times bestselling author Adam Makos and I have just released our new book. It’s titled VOICES OF THE PACIFIC—the long awaited oral-history project featuring untold stories from the Marine heroes of WWII. The stories are raw and often desperate, yet they provide a real life look [Read More...]

One Simple Switch that Guarantees Results

What’s the best way to ask somebody for something—a way that guarantees results?   It seldom works well to order, threaten, cajole, wheedle, or beg. Studies have shown that the best way to request things of people, inspire them, or motivate them to action is to ask honestly, directly, and clearly.   Could you please [Read More...]

How to Survive Intense Shelling

1.  Have you ever experienced intense shelling?   Shelling, in this case, is picture language for when life’s difficulties slam into you one right after another.   In seasons of intense shelling, the pressure never lets up, and the stress is relentless. You feel stuck in the battle, and the battle never seems to end. [Read More...]

How to Successfully Say No

Think of all the times when it would be swell to decline a request that comes your way.   Sure, sometimes you absolutely can’t say no. Like, when your boss dumps a mammoth-sized stack of paper on your desk and says get to work or you’ll be fired. Or when you’re watching football on TV [Read More...]

The 5 Most Important Dates to Have Before Getting Married

Gather ‘round boys, and listen in.   Some months back I introduced you to the wisdom of the late Crazy Ned Van der Meyer, an 88-year-old Holstein farmer living on a lushly plowed dirt patch in Custer, Washington.   Crazy Ned “dispensed advice to spare,” as folks say politely in these parts. Yet the bulk [Read More...]

Play the Tape Forward

Okay, you’re visual. Good.   Think of one behavior that’s harmful for you …   Maybe you like to lie around on the couch all day swilling chips and soda.   Or maybe you feel a pull to down the whole bottle of whiskey?   Or maybe you’re at risk to waste time with stupid [Read More...]

Who Do You Need to Thank?

This weekend marked the 85th Academy Awards, a time of pageantry and accomplishment, and I’m reminded of when Fred Rogers (1928-2003) won a Lifetime Achievement Award at the 1997 Daytime Emmys. His words shed light on the part of any awards show that’s most often rushed. The thank yous.   There was no soft-spoken sweater [Read More...]

How to Arrive at the Best Ideas Ever

You’re a brainstorming kind of a guy. I can see that about you.   You’re often in meetings where the boss says, “Okay team, let’s run this up the flagpole and see what we get.”   After that, everyone breaks loose with their ideas. Some strategic. Some idiotic. It typically takes a lot of the [Read More...]