Pick the Pain You’d Rather Have–You’ve Gotta Choose One

  A despised word nowadays is discipline. Yet that’s a word that needs to live. Its fuller definition involves much more than putting a child in a timeout or sending a teen to the principal’s office. Discipline, in its truest form, is an activity that improves a skill. Success in business requires discipline. A gold [Read More...]

The Incredible Power of Sacrifice

  As a prisoner of the Imperial Japanese Army in the jungles of Thailand during WWII, Ernest Gordon, a commander in a Scottish infantry battalion, saw firsthand the depths of depravity that can happen when man sinks to his lowest. At age 24, Gordon was captured while escaping from Sumatra after the fall of Singapore. [Read More...]

Are You TOO Nice?

  Years ago I worked alongside a difficult co-worker. This young man seldom had anything good to say to anybody. He was affable when he wanted to be. But he often interacted with people using sarcasm or putdowns. His favorite salutation, one used co-workers and even sometimes customers, was, “How’s Dummy today?” For the first [Read More...]

How to Be a Man of Awe

  “Dad,” said my 9-year-old daughter, Addy. “Some kid in the park asked me if you’re a celebrity. Are you?” “What did you say?” I asked, curious about how she answered the question. “That you sign autographs, speak all over the place, and write all those boring books for grownups. So I guess that makes [Read More...]

What Does a Man Look Like?

Last week we talked about young men thinking that they didn’t feel like men.  My advice to them was if they wanted to feel like a man they had to act like a man.  And the natural question that follows is, “What does a man act like?”  The following touches on just one example of [Read More...]

Whatever Happened to Hank Hill Masculinity? Part 1

While most TV sit-coms make fun of men or make them look like bumbling idiots (i.e. – The Simpsons, Family Guy, Everybody Loves Raymond, Two and a Half Men, etc.), the long running animated television show King of the Hill was slightly different. The show revolved around Hank Hill, a middle-class, red-necked, middle-aged white guy [Read More...]

Boundaries Make Boys into Men

This past season, several high-profile college head football and basketball coaches have been vilified and lost their jobs due to the perception that they harshly enforced disciplinary methods upon a player or players in their program. I’m not defending these coaches’ methods as I do not know the situation, but here’s what I do know. [Read More...]

Can a man love God but hate churchgoing?

More than half of the committed Christian men I talk to, when asked, will tell me they do not like going to church. [Read more...]