One Simple Switch that Guarantees Results

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What’s the best way to ask somebody for something—a way that guarantees results?   It seldom works well to order, threaten, cajole, wheedle, or beg. Studies have shown that the best way to request things of people, inspire them, or motivate them to action is to ask honestly, directly, and clearly.   Could you please [Read More...]

How to Get More Sex From Your Marriage

Becoming Your Spouses Other Half

I was recently asked to speak at a large men’s conference. Besides speaking from the main stage I was scheduled to give two breakout sessions. One of the breakout sessions was on the topic of my newest book, Becoming Your Spouse’s Better Half. Upon arriving at the venue I discovered from the participant guide that [Read More...]

Help me reinvent men’s ministry

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Almost every church that launches a men’s program meets with failure. There’s clearly room for a new approach to men’s ministry – or perhaps an ancient one. [Read more...]

Hello from the new kid on the blog…

Goofy-Dave

About a decade ago I noticed something that had been hidden in plain sight: there were always more women than men in church. [Read more...]

How Hunting Teaches Boys Compassion

That's My Teenage Son

Surprisingly, one activity that is very healthy in the emotional development of boys is hunting. Societal wisdom might suggest that killing an animal (hunting) breeds violence and cruelty in males. But research suggests just the opposite is true. Hunting in fact actually develops respect and reverence for life and other universal virtues in males such [Read More...]

Play the Tape Forward

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Okay, you’re visual. Good.   Think of one behavior that’s harmful for you …   Maybe you like to lie around on the couch all day swilling chips and soda.   Or maybe you feel a pull to down the whole bottle of whiskey?   Or maybe you’re at risk to waste time with stupid [Read More...]

Who Do You Need to Thank?

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This weekend marked the 85th Academy Awards, a time of pageantry and accomplishment, and I’m reminded of when Fred Rogers (1928-2003) won a Lifetime Achievement Award at the 1997 Daytime Emmys. His words shed light on the part of any awards show that’s most often rushed. The thank yous.   There was no soft-spoken sweater [Read More...]

Why Men Need to Teach Boys Perseverance

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Life is difficult. And the things that mean the most in life are the hardest. In fact, anything worth doing is difficult. There’s just no way around it. Unfortunately, quitting is an easily learned habit by young males. We learn early in life to take the easiest route and avoid anything unpleasant. Boys who are [Read More...]

Girls…and Boys on Hormones!

That's My Teenage Son

By the time a young man has entered puberty he is well aware of the female of our species.  He is aware of the young women around him with every aspect of his consciousness.  He is alert to how everything he does and says reflects in the perception that females have of him.  He is [Read More...]

The Power of Fathers

That's My Teenage Son

One way to judge the degree of power or influence that something has is to observe what happens when it is absent.  God has given men, especially fathers, tremendous power to influence the lives of those around them.  In particular the lives of women and children are hugely impacted by what a man does or [Read More...]