20 Lessons

I’m turning 20 today, which is an interesting age, one where most people say, “One more year!” as if I’ve never had alcohol in my life. Though I am looking forward to next year, that has more to do with being able to buy alcoholic offerings (the ones I prefer to give) than with being able to consume.

A lot of my feelings about growing up are similar to this post (and also puts into words why I seriously distrust anyone that complains how this generation ‘just wants to go to college and get a useless degree’ – yes, tell me more about how wanting to be a paralegal is useless. Tell me more, please. I’m so interested. Please let me grovel for wanting a better life.) However, I’ll try to keep things positive, so here’s a list of 20 lessons I’ve learned throughout being alive.

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20. It is absolutely okay to be ridiculously happy and excited about something as ‘silly’ as a television show or a movie. You never know what amazing piece of artwork or creativity will come just because you enjoyed something so unapologetically.

19. Having liked something from the beginning is awesome, but don’t be rude about it. You can be involved in a movement or group for decades, but being inviting and listening to new ideas is something that earns the most respect and benefits you most.

18. You’re going to go through hell. You’re going to make it through. Never forget that.

17. Dream bigger and stranger each time you do. That’s where the magic is.

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16. The more dangerous people tell you something is, the more likely you are to do it – just to see. Personal experience is some of the best experience.

15. All the stories are true, except when they’re not.

14. Never get too caught up in yourself. You will make mistakes. You will touch the sky. You will do great deeds, but keep your feet on the ground. Be a bit humble. Always ask yourself ‘why’.

13. Be consistent – and don’t forget the milk.

“Birds born in a cage think flying is an illness.” – Alejandro Jodorowsky

from devotional work

12. A repetitive, simple phrase can work more wonders than an elaborate poem. Know where your strengths are and don’t shame yourself for not being good at everything. Do what works.

11. People keep telling you to meditate, but remember that you do great with just sitting on the porch watching the world.

10. Love is a verb. Don’t content yourself with thinking. Do. Always do something.

9. Keep going.

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8. Ask questions. Don’t be content with the first answer you give. Improve. Learn. Be constant in your education of yourself, and remember that you don’t need a degree to have a voice.

7. Build a healthy ego, and don’t let it eat you.

6. Choose your battles, and be honest about them too. Don’t play the victim when you’re not. Take responsibility for your actions, and learn to be a better you.

5. There is so much love and possibility and chance and creativity in the world and you are alive at an incredible time. Never say you’re not important. Remember that resurrection is a hobby.

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4. Sometimes it takes years to understand you’ve been hurt. You’re going to be more scared to admit you have been hurt than anything else. It is okay to have been hurt. It is okay to still be hurting. What we do is keep going and pushing forward.

3. There are dreams that aren’t going to come to fruition and holding onto them sobbing is going to do less good then kicking your butt into gear and chasing an unexpected, adventurous, incredible future.

2. Everyone has something to say about how you’re living your life. Stop caring. (Be Luna Lovegood.)

1. Don’t regret. Be.

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About Aine

Aine Llewellyn is a 20 year old girl creature currently mucking about in southern Arizona. She enjoys the winters and rain but can’t stand the heat. She is a difficult polytheist that natters on and on about her faith.

  • http://goat-willow.com Urban-Pooka

    Happy birthday. This is one of the most amazing posts you’ve ever written, and you are one of the most amazing people I’ve ever met.

    • http://daoineile.com Aine

      Thank you <3

  • http://aediculaantinoi.wordpress.com P. Sufenas Virius Lupus

    Felix Natalis Tibi, et Multiqueeeeee!

    May you have three times three as many such days in the future, and may I be there to see as many of them as possible!

    [And, in case you didn't catch it, that means "may you have 180 more birthdays," not "may you live to be 29"!]

    You have the same birthday as one of my siblings, it turns out! (But, as I have six of those, it’s all the more likely that anyone’s birthday is also the birthday of one of my siblings, I guess…!?!)

    Excellent pieces of wisdom, though! I hope your day is enjoyable!

    • http://daoineile.com Aine

      Thank you!

  • http://www.christinehoffkraemer.com Christine Kraemer

    Happy birthday!

  • Ken

    Happy Birthday, may you have many more!

    • http://daoineile.com Aine

      Thanks!

  • Teka Lynn

    Happy birthday and many more!
    Thank you for your wonderful column.

  • Kilmrnock

    Happy Birthday , young buck ………………………..and please remember you are a young buck . Keep your eyes , ears , mind , and heart cautiously open . There are still many life leasons to be learned . Kilm


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