For Lent I Gave Up Going to Church

We’re more than half way through Lent and I’m just starting it today. But, here's the thing, I want to admit upfront that Lent, Ash Wednesday, Easter, this entire season, is by far my least favorite of them all. They don’t remind me of  rebirth, redemption, or sacrifice, but instead they always come with a stale stench of death. As if it's that time of year in which we annually reopen a casket with nothing but dead dry bones in it. It leaves me with this overwhelming sense of emptiness. Not bec … [Read more...]

When You’re Failing at Life #Adulting

I've been pissed at myself as of late. You see, I'm a grown ass man, and I can’t seem to will myself into waking up when I so choose. For the past several months I’ve been trying to work myself towards getting up and out of bed at 5:00am. I mean, I’ve done it - woken at 5:00am; I just have yet to do it on a consistent basis. Doing this isn't a small change, it's a complete overhaul in one's lifestyle.And, lets be honest, it’s not just waking up when I so choose that I struggle with; it’s eati … [Read more...]

From Cathedrals to Movie Theaters: Past and Present Trends Impact on the Future of the Western Church

A little over 500 years ago we had Martin Luther, John Calvin, and Philip Melanchthon leading the reformation; fast forward, a bit, we see Billy Graham evangelizing to the masses in tent revivals; and soon thereafter there was, and still is, the progressive movement composed of evangelical leaders such as Tony Campolo, Brian McLaren, Jim Wallis, et al.; last but not least, we’ve seen our evangelical-esque, semi-bi-partisan, seeker sensitive model of church lead by guys such as Rick Warren, Andy S … [Read more...]

The Case for Serial Monogamy

Originally, I started off this post by rhetorically asking if you knew the difference between a married person’s love life and a non-married person’s love life[1]?I followed this by answering, “The difference is that when unmarried persons break up it won’t cost them $15,000, or the equivalent to what the married person paid for their wedding…”Admittedly, as a single person starting off a post on relationships, this came across a tad bitter.The longer I live, the more I realize, sadly … [Read more...]


Written by Christena Cleveland(Note: Since many pastors, church leaders, and readers of this blog are married, these tips are written for that audience. The irony that I’m writing a blog post about singleness for married people is not lost on me. :)) 1. Admit that singleness is complex and that you know little to nothing about it. A lot of people seem to think that singleness is to marriage as junior varsity is to varsity. As a result, married people sometimes mistakenly believe that … [Read more...]

Loneliness in the Age of Technology: We have hundreds of “friends,” why do we feel so alone?

A while back I met with a mentor to talk about a relationship I was in at the time. I remember telling him how afraid I was.Nothing was wrong with her or with our relationship. In fact, everything was good. Which is why I think I was so afraid—afraid that I’d get hurt.You see, within this relationship, I wasn’t relating so much as I was performing, working so hard at presenting the perfect, most ideal version of myself. I was afraid that eventually she might see me the way in which I then … [Read more...]

20 Signs You Were A Youth Group Kid In The 90s

Written by Rob Fee1. You attended multiple Acquire the Fire events. 2. The earliest you got up all year was for See You At The Pole day. 3. You and your friends made up motions to the chorus of “Big House” by Audio Adrenaline and thought it was the coolest thing ever. 4. The first tape you bought was more than likely Carman. It may have been Petra, but odds are, it was Carman. 5. Your youth group had matching t-shirts printed up, but one of the kid’s moms said she knew somewhere that woul … [Read more...]

Dealing With Doubt

20+ years... and I've never seen it.The supernatural. Healings, walking on water, people rising from the dead, the blind seeing, the lame walking...I know as a guy in ministry I'm supposed to pretend like I've seen it or tell stories that others have relayed to me... but the truth is, I've never experienced it first hand, and because of that, I'm skeptical.I've been to all types of churches, pentecostal, assemblies of god, nondenominational, baptist... etc.And I've been in … [Read more...]

Independents Are Larger than Either Political Party

I saw posted over on Twitter the other day that independents are larger than either political party. I found this interesting, believable, but was still a bit doubtful. So, I went and checked it out; here's what I found...Turns out, he wasn’t completely wrong. A recent Gallup Poll shows two interestingly relevant points:43% of Americans are registered as political independents. But, still yet, democrats maintain the the political weight.What does this mean? I think this shows, o … [Read more...]