Say This To Your Wife

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Dear Shaunti, I’m in deep soup with my wife, and I don’t know why. We went out for a really nice dinner last night – an actual date without the kids. We were both excited about it beforehand, but by the time we got in the car, it was obvious she was bummed. At the [Read More...]

Her obsessive behavior is driving me crazy!


Dear Shaunti, I love my wife, but it drives me crazy when she obsesses over something minor, like whether she forgot to send in the money for our son’s field trip, or whether her friend is mad at her because she didn’t return a call. I’ve tried to get her to see that it is [Read More...]

Why does my husband insist on praise for basic chores?


Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been getting irritated with each other lately. He said that I don’t appreciate him, which is ridiculous because I do! But he said that I never thank him for things like taking out the trash or mowing the lawn. Why should I thank him for doing something that’s [Read More...]

Why doesn’t my husband appreciate my work?

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Dear Shaunti, I’m a working mom with two kids. We have a comfortable lifestyle, no major financial problems — just the typical mortgage and monthly bills — and I just got a big raise at work. Still, my husband seems stressed about work and frequently mentions his worries about layoffs. I don’t understand why he’s [Read More...]

Disappointed on Valentine’s Day


Dear Shaunti, I was really looking forward to our second Valentine’s Day together, until I unwrapped my present.  A blender.  He knows that I like jewelry, and he’s the one who likes smoothies. I got upset that he was being selfish, and then he got upset and said he had seen me looking at that [Read More...]

My wife is unenthusiastic about sex – and I’m frustrated!

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Dear Shaunti, It seems like I am always the one to initiate sex. Even when I do, my wife sometimes seems less than enthusiastic.  In other ways, we have a great relationship, but this is a big deal for me and it really bums me out. What can I do so that she finds me [Read More...]