Secret #7 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Sign Language to Reconnect

Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. In Secret #7 to a highly happy marriage, the happiest spouses I researched identified a secret signal or language [Read More…]

Secret #5 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Boss Your Feelings

Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. In Secret #5 to a highly happy marriage, author Shaunti Feldhahn explains how happy couples talk themselves out of [Read More…]

Secret #4 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Keep Score

Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. Most of us just naturally remember the ‘wrongs’ against us, but highly happy couples intentionally focus more on the [Read More…]

Believing the Best Isn’t Letting Him Off the Hook

Dear Shaunti, In one of your books, you say it’s important to believe the best of your spouse’s intentions.  But all that does is give your spouse license to hurt you again and again without consequences.  Who cares what their intentions are, if the result is pain?  My husband says things that are harsh to [Read More…]

Realistic Tips for Reeling Him Back In

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been married 22 years and I love him, but we’ve been arguing a lot lately.  We both work a lot and have two children busy with extracurricular activities, so we spend a good bit of time apart. I tend to be a control freak and, as my husband [Read More…]

Time to Hang up the Hurt, Hang out Together, and Hang On

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been married for 20 years. I still care for my husband, but for the most part, I avoid him. I find him difficult to be around. I really don’t enjoy his company. I have felt hurt, disrespected and uncared for so many times that I have up some [Read More…]

Does being “all-in” mean not having boundaries?

Dear Shaunti, I just finished your book The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages, and learned a lot.  But I also noticed that one of your research findings is the importance of not holding anything back emotionally.  Yet I’m also reading Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud. It feels like a tension there between his [Read More…]


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