How Enneagram Type 2 Informs The False Core Pattern

How Enneagram Type 2 Informs The False Core Pattern February 25, 2015

In the Unique Self Coaching Process we use the Enneagram particularly because the “cognitive-emotional habit” of each type helps in the discovery of one’s False Core Belief. Each week we are exploring one of the Enneagram types in order to give you a sense of each type’s particular beliefs and mini practices to help you become more aware of your own pattern with the intent of beginning to unloosen the grip of your False Self Pattern.

Over the last three weeks, we had a detailed look at The Body Center Triad whichincludes types 8,9 and 1and we have seen how each of these points – although connected to the same center, are marked by a specific pattern of thinking and feeling – that is based on the motives behind a person’s priorities and preferences.

This week we start the exploration of the Feeling Center Triad, whichincludes types 2,3 and 4. The energy of these points is feminine, emotional, and interpersonal. People whose home base is at Point 2, 3, or 4 have the potential to be particularly attuned. The first point of this Triad is Enneatype 2.

The False Self contraction in Enneatype Twos is revealed in their need to become indispensable as the ultimate proof that they are receiving love from someone. Twos adopt a strategy that allows them to avoid acknowledging their own needs and feelings such that they can align with other’s needs and wants in order to gain their approval and love.

Here are the False Core Sentences/Beliefs followed by descriptions of patterns that are common to Twos.If one of these sentences, and/or pattern feels familiar to you, you might want to explore the practices that accompany the pattern. Each of these practices is geared towards creating more awareness of the ways into which you contract. Becoming more aware of these contractions is the first step towards dismantling your False Core Pattern. Practices are most effectively when used daily.

Common False Core Sentences:

     I’m unlovable

     I’m not enough

     I’m no good

Common Patterns:

Ignoring their needs and suppressing feelings as a way to connect more easily with others

Observation Practice: During the day, take a regular pause every now and then, and ask yourself what you are feeling and needing in the moment. Notice when        you don’t have a clue of the answer.

Daily journaling:

  • Did you identify some needs or emotions that might otherwise have passed unchecked?
  • What do you believe might happen if you asked for what you need?

Adjusting, merging, flattering, assisting, and changing their personality to please whomever they are seeking to connect with.

Observation Practice: Observe during the day how you seduce others by adjusting your personality to theirs.

Daily journaling:

  • What did you have to shut down inside you in order to merge with the other person?
  • What are you avoiding to experience in your search to be approved and accepted?

Avoiding being rejected through maintaining an aggrandized image of  themselves and avoiding conflict and boundarie

Observation Practice: Observe during the day when you say “yes” and would       rather say “no.” Are you stretching your boundaries to please       someone or to get   someone’s recognition or approval?

Daily journaling:

  • What do you fear would happen if you kept clear boundaries with people?
  • What are you avoiding experiencing in your drive to be approved and accepted?
  • What external evidence do you have that these fears would come true?

Next week, we’ll explore Enneatype Three, the second Point of the Feeling Center. In the meantime, and if you do not personally resonate with Type Two, we invite you to ask yourself who in your close surroundings might be a Type Two, and how does this description of their way of functioning in the world help you understand them better? If you think it’s appropriate, you might want to share this post with them.

If you are uncertain about your type and would like to take a free inventory we recommend either the Enneagram Institute or Enneagram Dimensions.

We are offering a Unique Self Coaching Process online called: Loosening the Grip Of Your False Core Pattern, which begins February 28. This six-session course will meet every other week so you’ll have time to engage fully in each practice. Visit our website at www.uniqueselfcoaching.com for more information and to register.

 

 


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