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Challenges on the path

I am ten days into Project Ashram. Some aspects of this project are very challenging, other aspects seems to flow.

The biggest challenge for me is vegetarianism. I only started last weekend and I’ve already unconsciously and deliberately eaten meat and consumed wine. I feel a very strong resistance to this aspect of the project. I’ve been vegetarian in the past and enjoyed it. When factory farmed meat is my only option I choose to eat vegetarian. Many of the reasons given for a vegetarian diet are good ones: less suffering, less environmental impact, limited exposure to antibiotic and other husbandry drugs, etc. But many of those can be more or less reduced or eliminated with organic, sustainable farming and husbandry methods. We are lucky that the meat at the butcher in my pocket of Wales is organic and grass fed from small farms (our butchers raise almost all of their own meat). Some of the health claims of vegetarianism are dubious, though. In May, my husband and I moved more towards a paleolithic style diet. It’s basically like the Atkins diet. I won’t go into all the pros and cons of it, except to say: wow, we have been really impressed with how we feel. Giving up wine and alcohol is a bummer, but not a big deal. However, I am deeply reluctant to go back to vegetarianism. It’s not because I can’t cook that way, or don’t have access to vegetables and grains, or because it’s such a huge shift in my thinking. I am pretty certain it’s because my body has taken a shine to the paleo diet, and it keeps choosing the meat and fish.

Do I stick with vegetarianism, hating it the whole time, because it’s a general rule? With this project I intend to be as ‘full on’ in each tradition as I can be. I know that when I sort out when I can go to the nearby(ish) Hindu temple I will need to abstain from meat for 3 days prior. In three months time I am going to go back to the paleo-style diet. I don’t have the ethical, health or spiritual qualms that yogis and some Hindus have. Won’t hating every moment of an exercise counteract any positive benefit of that act?

The tantric view-point is far less ascetic, preferring to view wholeness, as opposed to renunciation, as the ideal. And yet I recognize that abstention can be a very good thing, particularly in my world of abundance. Perhaps a better sacrifice for me would be to fast periodically. I am going to sit with that.

Clearly, going vegetarian (or not) is my biggest personal challenge. Whether or not I stick to being vegetarian (and I probably won’t, if I’m being honest), I will continue to eschew beef and save wine for celebrations.

The other, less dramatic challenge is getting up in the wee hours of the morning for my devotions. I am naturally a morning person; this helps. But after a night when the baby nurses multiple times or my son has bad dreams or growing pains – oh that 5 am wake up is brutal! This is the struggle of trying to be a holy homemaker! How does one keep the practice going when Life gets in the way?

How I’ve coped is to choose to sleep in. I forfeit asana (yoga postures) and meditation, and just do my devotions (prayers and offerings at the altar). The devotions can be done with children and morning routines in the background. What’s curious is that some mornings, when I’m finding it particularly difficult to get out of bed, my son will call out for me right at 5 or, like this morning, at 4.55, or the baby will need a big nurse at 4.45, finishing just as the alarm is ready to go off. It’s like my children are conspiring to get me out of bed. I actually quite appreciate those moments!

On those mornings when I get the whole practice in I feel so grounded and refreshed. I also get the benefit of a quiet house all to myself. In that hour or thirty minutes or some days only an extra fifteen minutes, I really do feel like I’m in my own ashram.

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  • Genevieve

    Here’s the link again to Sean’s article on why he eats meat in case you didn’t see my last post

    http://greenmanramblings.blogspot.com/2010/10/why-i-eat-meat.html

    within Sean’s article there’s a link to another site that speak of Paleo being one of the best choices and would explain why you and your husband feel good on this diet.

  • http://www.patheos.com/blogs/awitchsashram myownashram

    I just bookmarked the site to read later! Thank you.

  • http://iris365.wordpress.com Rebecka

    I’ve said it before- I think you need to build your own ashram. There’s certainly benefits to doing things you’re resistant to but unless you’re open to those messages at the time it might as well be a lost cause. Do what works, leave the rest.

    In my blog/project meanderings, and while glimpsing into the projects that were inspired by my own blogging, I’ve noticed that unless you can make it your own, it’s really hard to stick with it. Motivation has to come from somewhere and when you’ve got a million other things calling for your attention and care, unless your soul is REALLY in it you won’t grow from the experience.

    Keep it up, Niki. Keep thinking.

    • http://www.patheos.com/blogs/awitchsashram myownashram

      I am so glad I just re-read my post and fixed all the typos!

      I am building my own ashram, piece by piece. I don’t want to hate any part of this process – being uncomfortable is okay. Loathing, though, is not a good thing, I think. That level of resistance doesn’t allow for the lessons to sink in. Thanks for your encouragement, Rebecka!

  • Sarah K-D

    You probably know where it’s from, but I like thinking of this when my 2 kids & Life (including dissertation writing too) gets in the way… “Before enlightenment: chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment: chop wood, carry water.” Sometimes practicing mindfulness gets me through my day when I’d rather be spiritually connected in a different way.

    Also, I find that an alarm ruins any hope for me of a peaceful morning. It’s pretty rough getting up early, but waking up to some more peaceful cue can help start your day in the quiet place you were wanting. I used to sleep in a room filled with morning light, and I never slept or woke up more easily than when I lived there. Changing the mundane things in your life can help focus your vision where you want it too :)

  • http://www.patheos.com/blogs/awitchsashram myownashram

    I have long wanted a different alarm! This morning, if I didn’t have it though I would have slept for another hour – at least! – and not have gotten my asana and meditation time. Perhaps once the kids are reliable sleepers I’ll be able to set my own sleeping patterns.

    ‘Chop wood, carry water’ is such a true sentiment. I sometimes find that the act of nursing functions as a great mindfulness exercise, especially when I’d rather being doing something else. But no, I sit and breathe and get present with my daughter. In the end, that is far more important than whatever else I felt like doing.

    • Sarah K-D

      Oh, I know about the alarm being necessary! I wish I had one of those chime alarms- the cell phone chime doesn’t have quite the same effect. And as for kids being reliable sleepers… hehe. If I set any kind of alarm, though, my boys (3yo and 9mo) wake up with me anyway, so I don’t have space for a morning devotional. That’s actually what I’d been trying to do. For me, I think I just need to go to sleep when they do, and my body will naturally wake up earlier than them. I hope.

      I can get so restless while nursing that it’s definitely a good time to remember to be still. I have trouble getting away from media, though, when I’m nursing- blogs, cell phone, books, … I have to really make a decision to put it all aside.

      I meant to say too that I’m looking forward to following what you have to say about your journey!

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