Stop Moralizing Shame, It’s Ruining Everyone’s Day

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As some criticism on my post on slut-shaming put it, the concept of shame as a protective feeling for the integrity of the entire person is "not even in the ballpark" of what shame really is. Shame is, in fact, "the negative judgment of the conscience directed towards ourselves...[it has] nothing to do with objectification or wholeness of person."Now while this seems to make shame something simple, useful, and necessary to the restoration of a moral world, it actually makes shame a senseless … [Read more...]

Rethinking Slut-shaming

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I do not operate, move, or control my body. I am my body. It is I who see, smell, touch and move. It is my spirit which lives in and through these fingertips and toes. I don't think "let's type the next letter" and then wrangle my finger into obedience -- I just type the next letter, my finger and internal intention in a beautiful, natural harmony.But let one become ashamed, let him break a vase or stand caught in some wrongdoing, and this felt unity of self and body dissolves. We become awar … [Read more...]

5 Things We Should Think About Before We Say “Slut-Shaming”

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Hyphenate the word "shaming," and boom, you've got a ready-made evil, a buzzword everyone on Facebook agrees is something Very Bad -- slut-shaming, body-shaming, single-shaming, fat-shaming, formula-shaming or, ah, sunscreen-shaming. I agree with Mark Peters, when he wrote for Slate that "shaming is probably already finished as a meaningful word," and even more so with Callie Beusman, when she wrote for Jezebel that "telling someone she's slut-shaming has mutated into a method of dismissing her a … [Read more...]

Objectifying Soccer Players Probably Won’t Help Fight Sexism

...Ronaldo, come on, you're embarrassing the Americans.

Amanda Hess' article for Slate, "Why it’s great to objectify World Cup players," is wonderful. In it, she argues that the hyperbolic and often hilarious "sexual gaze" at soccer players from Jezebel-esque journalists is calling out and offering a counter-balance to the over-sexualization of female athletes."These days, clicking through a slideshow of the world’s hottest female soccer players makes you look like a bit of a creep. But admiring the abdominals of male footballers? That just means … [Read more...]

Women Swiftly Running Out Of Things That Aren’t Sexy

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I expect the world to go about its regular denigration of women -- I just wish members of the Church would stop helping them.Let's start with the basics. Women, and I have this on strict authority, are people. As such, they are sexual beings -- but not merely.The problem with our culture is its tendency to view women as merely sexual beings, a fact made painfully obvious by our nation's general inability to see a breast as anything but an object of sexual arousal.The problem with out … [Read more...]

Why Religious People Are Ashamed of Porn

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One of the more exciting statistics used to denigrate religion is the fact that its followers seem to experience higher levels of guilt and shame regarding their sexual actions. Consider a headline from 2011, fairly bursting with its own conclusions: "Atheists have 'better sex lives than followers of religion who are plagued with guilt.'" This is brilliant stuff, destined for gleeful, bi-annual repetitions by the press, for there are few things more marvelous than sexuality, and few things that s … [Read more...]

Millennial Misery

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These are odd days. In 5 minutes I may come to know your appearance, birthdate, hometown, interests, likes and dislikes, favorite movies, recent thoughts, friends, family, acquaintances, occupations, and relationship status -- all without ever encountering you.These are delightful days wherein an Internet connection enables me and millions to observe a stranger's genitalia, days I may know the intimate details of another person to the point of their nakedness -- and never know them. I have … [Read more...]

Modesty Sets Fire

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What Pope Emeritus Benedict XVI said is true, and damn true: "The Catechism was not written to please you. It will not make life easy for you, because it demands of you a new life." Its teaching on modesty is so explosive that, would we believe and actualize it, we would convert. But I suspect we prefer monotony to metanoia, commentary to action, and porn to everything else. We'll enthusiastically "note" the demands of the universal Church as "interesting," and immediately -- go back to sleep. (W … [Read more...]

Modesty is Honesty

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You, dear reader, are the only person in existence who knows you are a subject, an I, an unique consciousness, and an individual perspective in the Cosmos. I do not know you are a subject, for to know that would be to experience your subjectivity, that is, to be you.Indeed, forgive me, how rarely I can even muster up the faith necessary to believe you are a subject! When I see you in the crowd, the car, the mall, the hall -- I see you as an object amongst many, not as a unique person. When I … [Read more...]

Things Modesty Hasn’t a Damn Thing to Do With

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Our sexless, sterile, intolerably flaccid, bored, addicted, all-but-objectified, whored-out, frigid, entirely depersonalized, anti-erotic culture wouldn't know modesty if she took her shirt off and flashed us in an episode of Girls With Low Self-Esteem. (Not that she would, being modest.) This seems apparent in our inability to articulate a definition or criticism of modesty that isn't immediately suspect.Mainstream feminists stumble through their obligatory vocabulary to tell an uncaring uni … [Read more...]


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