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Calah, that made me laugh,but I guess I am resigned to being a dirty commie forever. I hated having Santa Clause shoved down my throat as a kid; I never believed in him, even though everyone tried to get me to. And I will never tell me kids he exists. However, it's a personal choice. If you wanna do the Santa Clause thing, go for it!
Hahaha. That was too funny.I must join the ranks as well. We don't teach our children that Santa is real, but most certainly do not begrudge those who do! And, my girls know that they are not to talk about it with other children or adults who sweetly ask if they're "excited that Santa is coming!" I don't think people have poor intentions, on either side of the debate.
Ahhh! Guys! This is the one subject that I am obnoxiously pushy about. You don't want to breastfeed? No big deal. You like epidurals? Ok. You think trans fats are super yummy, love illegal immigration, think Obama is really neat and kinda wish Marxism would catch on in American politics? I may think you're an idiot, but I won't push you. But this, and abortion, really get me. Personally, I believe in Santa Claus, so maybe that clouds my judgment on the issue. But don't you think you should at least let your kids have the magic, the wonder and the joy of Santa visiting while they sleep fitfully the night before Christmas? I don't separate Santa from fairy tales and dragons and elves; it's all the same, the wonder of that invisible world we just can't quite see. Let them have it! It's only magical for a few short years; don't take the magic out of those years. I don't actually think you're a bad parent if you don't tell your kids that Santa is real, I just think the wonder and magic of childhood is so crucial and so fleeting that we should preserve every single part of it we can, for as long as we can. The stark reality of the world will rear it's head soon enough in their little lives.
I agree with you about the wonder and magic of childhood. In fact, I encourage my children to be imaginative, to pretend, to get involved in their fairy tales and invisible worlds. They are quite successful at this, while at the same time knowing its all pretend. They aren't jaded like adults, so they don't "know" like we know, they are so innocent.We play along with their pretend games, we celebrate St. Nicholas day and they awaken to treats and surprises on his feast day, along with many other special days of the year. They still go to sleep on those nights with wild anticipation, what will await them?! They don't think about it enough to worry about my staying up all night doing the preparations. They are just thrilled with the excitement of it all.There are so many beautiful feast days and celebrations to take part in during Advent and Christmas that I just don't feel that missing out on Santa on Christmas night has taken a toll on their imaginations, their innocence, or their excitement around the holiday at all. We don't harp on Santa not being real. We simply don't do it.
Also, to be sure, I am well aware of the division this can cause in people! We were almost excommunicated from my husband's family over this!But, here's the thing. A big fat man breaks and enters, sneaking into your house on Christmas night. He leaves toys just because you had nice behavior (or did you?). A bunny some how manages to drag 4 large Easter baskets into your house on Easter night. A fairy takes interest in your teeth and some how manages to pick up your pillow to leave you money for them. A man tells you that He is God, and that you need to eat his body and drink his blood. Oh, and by the way it looks like bread and wine (which you're not typically allowed to have). It can all appear to come from the same vein. Like I said, I have no issue with those who celebrate Christmas and include Santa. I have never tried to talk anyone out of it. However, for my family, my husband and I find it unnecessary, and potentially confusing for our children.
Andrea-I really want to continue this conversation, because I think there is so much to go into here. But I'm in TX right now and don't have the time to devote to thinking it over. I'll send you a facebook message and maybe we can keep it going after the New Year?
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