The Culture of Entitlement without Achievement

Holden Thorp resigned yesterday as Chancellor of my beloved alma mater UNC, and one can only speculate exactly why. I would suggest it might have something to do with the man’s integrity. After both athletic and academic scandals plaguing the university in the past several years, and academic scandals helping perpetuate athletic fraud I am not surprised that the man got discouraged and tired of dealing with the culture of entitlement without achievement.

What do I mean by that last phrase? Among other things I mean a culture, nurtured in many educational institutions in the land which suggests that academic rigor and integrity can be sacrificed for various ‘good causes’, causing varying from helping various sorts of students (in this case athletes, and more specifically athletes in the African American studies program at Carolina) graduate, to greasing the wheels of an athletic juggernaut out of control, and yet strangely in control, at the nation’s oldest state university (no rebuttals from dawgs in Georgia please. You had the land grant first, we taught the students first).

It’s not just that the athletic tail is wagging the dog (because after all, we are promised, the tail brings in all kinds of expensive puppy chow for the dog), though that often seems to be true. It’s that even our academic institutions are nurturing a culture of academic mediocrity in order to make sure no one fails, no child is left behind, and as a result no one ever really discovers what there true level of academic ability is. And the Carolina Blue skies are not cloudy all day.

Of course Carolina is not the only school doing this— it’s an epidemic. I witnessed it here in Lexington Ky. this past year where, with a straight face, people at U.K. actually called players like Anthony Davis student-athletes, even though they were brought in to the university with a one and done understanding from the get go… using the university as the diving board from which they bounce high into the NBA (with no intentions of getting a college degree).

And then someone suggested that the real solution would be to pay these one and done players to entertain us. That would be fine if they were performing in an NBA futures league. Not fine if we are talking about amateur athletics at a university, and athletes actually being expected to get a college degree. But this is only a small part of the problem which is perpetuating academic fraud at major universities.

No, a good deal of the source of the rot does not go back in the first instance to our schools which are called upon to coddle rather than challenge our precious offspring (and then someone over-reacts and comes to the absurd conclusion that teachers should be held responsible for the irresponsible behavior of students on standardized tests— see the mess in Chicago).

It goes back to our families which have cultivated an ethos of no accountability, of no disciplining of children, and of defending the bad behavior of one’s children simply because they are ‘my children’. When I was growing up, back at the dawn of time when the earth was still cooling, parents backed up the teachers and principals when they disciplined unruly, non-performing, disrespectful students. They didn’t back up bratty behavior by their little darlings. Indeed, the parents would often take their kids home and read ‘em the riot act, far more than the principal had done.

We are now living with the malaise created by a generation of students who think they are entitled to a degree, entitled to a good paying job, entitled to two cars in every garage, entitled to sex without consequences…. without ever earning any of it, or achieving much academically to merit it or without living a life of moral integrity which is the basis for marriage and appropriate sexual expression within marriage. We are reaping what we have sown in the last several decades, and it is producing a crop of bitter fruit, and even fruitcakes masquerading as college and graduate students.

Holden, I feel your pain. I too would have gotten discouraged if I had your job. The culture of entitlement without achievement, and being given college degrees without their being any moral integrity about whether they actually deserved those degrees or not, has overgrown the academic system like kudzu swallowing up a tall North Carolina pine tree, and it is smothering the institution, and sucking the life and light right out of it.

I understand that another part of the problem is the ever burgeoning competition of faceless online only institutions, producing people with apparent degrees with sterling grades, only to discover that the A’s earned at Chitlin Switch Online Tech is about equivalent to a C- at best at say, Duke, or Vanderbilt. And a further part of the problem is the inability to evaluate the merits of a transcript (or references) from a purely home schooled child who has never had to deal with a teacher other than their omniscient parents.

Over-protected, endlessly spoiled, over-praised children grow up into adults that take for granted ‘entitlement’ should come naturally, easily for… as Jim Morrison of the Doors once said ‘we want the world and we want it NOW!’ Why wait? Why struggle in obscurity for any length of time? Can’t I just buy it all online here and now? Including my education? If you have never heard about a student coming to a teacher and saying ‘look, I paid $3,000 for this course, I deserve an A’ then you have been living in a cave.

Well I have been an educator now for over 30 years, and when you begin to hear these things even in a seminary setting, you know it’s gotten bad in the general culture. When even Christian students act like spoiled brats who are entitled to the best of everything without any academic achievement to speak of, you know that education is on the road to Hades in a handbasket.

Of course the handbasket has the local school logo, and branding on it. You can accesorize and get matching earrings as well. Why not buy the T shirt too, to show your support for your school where you have loitered for several years expecting to march across the stage with highest honors?

If you think I am exaggerating the problem, I suggest you try the teaching profession for say— five years, and get back to me. You will discover that Pogo was right when he reported “I have seen the enemy, the enemy is us!’.

  • Michael Fox

    I’m grateful for a voice with authority in the world of education to have made this declaration. Many thanks.

  • http://phillipawunder@yahoo.com Phillip Wunder

    Very poignant. I taught medical students for over 20 years and was stunned how many wanted the title without the knowledge and expertise that required grueling work to obtain.

  • Wyatt E Fenno

    Unfortunately, it’s all true…the culture of entitlement without achievement.

  • Joel Adkins

    Great, with exception to one sentence that killed it for me,
    “And a further part of the problem is the inability to evaluate the merits of a transcript (or references) from a purely home schooled child who has never had to deal with a teacher other than their omniscient parents.”
    When homeschooling is the chosen path there are a variety of tools available to evaluate the merits of the student and their ability or lack thereof to attend a given institution. The fact that a student was “homeschooled” does not mean they were educated at all, and obviously you have had some experience with that. On the other hand, there are students who have been homeschooled who have excelled academically at many levels. Homeschooling requires a huge investment of time and treasure, as well as a commitment on the part of parents to do it right and in a way that produces a record of academic achievement, and not just an “omniscient” parent doodling down a homemade transcript.
    Too often, and possibly a majority of the time in some instances, a student is removed from a classroom for all of the wrong reasons and declared to be “homeschooled”. It is unfortunate for the student.
    At the same time, either due to circumstances or out of a genuine love and concern for the best interests of the child, a child is intentionally homeschooled and excels academically. And a majority of those children learn the real meaning of hard work with a payoff and reward for achievement.
    BTW- there is at least one misspelling and an incorrect word used in your article… but because of your past literary achievements, you are entitled to those this time.:)

  • Ben Witherington

    Thanks Joel. We didn’t even mention the other major problem with Christian home-schooling, namely the kids never learn how to interact with their peers who are not Christians. They are shuttled from home to church, to church related sports activities, being shielded all the way from the non-Christian world. No wonder they have such problems adjusting to society as they find it when they have to get a job outside the Christian bubble. BW3

  • Dave

    “No wonder they have such problems adjusting to society as they find it when they have to get a job outside the Christian bubble.”

    What is the evidential basis for this claim, other than anecdotes?

    Most home-schooled kids I know are more actively involved in the community at large than their public educated counterparts, whether Christian or not. They plan and participate in service projects, help with community events and are involved in activities that are not solely church-based (such as sports). (and I freely admit, this is also anecdotal, but it goes to show that we all have differing experiences.)

    IMO, this is a very tired complaint against home-schooling, and does little to actually engage in a discussion of the real costs and benefits involved.

  • Steve

    Some homeschooled kids have a hard time finding jobs outside the bubble; some don’t. Some public-schooled kids have a hard time finding jobs because of THEIR schooling environment, too.

    Some homeschoolers are in unstructured educational environments that are hard to evaluate. Others learn in rigorous environments and are tested yearly using nationally standardized tests by certified appraisers and are desirable to even Ivy League universities.

    I’m sure you’ve surmised that my wife and I homeschool our children. You are correct. My wife has an undergraduate degree with honors and a graduate degree (from Asbury Theological Seminary, no less!). I have an undergraduate degree in education and an earned doctorate degree from a prestigious school. We’re not perfect teachers, but we’re pretty confident in our abilities to teach our children well. We have our children tested every year, and they always rank in 90+ percentiles in every category. My oldest, a junior in high school, is already starting college courses. I am confident colleges will have no problem evaluating the merits of my childrens’ educational portfolios.

    My homeschooled children play on a variety of community sports teams. They interact quite well with other children in their neighborhood and many other people outside the Christian bubble. Recently, my oldest daughter was pursued by an employing organization outside the Christian bubble because of her ability to interact with children, youth, and adults–particularly those with special needs. None of my children are perfect. Each of them, however, is well equipped to interact outside the bubble, live outside the bubble, and be a witness for Christ outside the bubble.

    I always read and appreciate your blog, Ben, and I’ve never commented before until now. I have no problem when you write on and on and on with passion and occasionally make unsubstantiated claims. I sometimes do the same in my own work. But I cannot let this one pass without saying “shame on you” for painting all homeschooled children with the same paintbrush. You should know better than that.

    BTW, you might prepare for an onslaught of comments, if a lot of homeschoolers read your blog. Homeschooling is growing by leaps and bounds because of the failures in some public school systems. You will find many homeschooling parents well-armed with actual–not anecdotal–evidence supporting the wisdom of their choice and sharing it with passion borne of frustration about the uninformed who paint with a wide paintbrush. Kinda like me.

  • Ben Witherington

    Yes Steve, and at what point do home schoolers ask themselves the question— how exactly are my children being salt and light in a dark world? By withdrawing from public education, Christians have helped insure the demise of the public school system in various ways. I’m not knocking all home schools, or all curriculums, but it is a sign of the withdrawal of Christians from society at large….. and then we wonder why society and public education is going bad. We, are partly to blame. BW3

  • Steve

    Agreed: We are partly to blame for the demise of public education. But I believe we must evaluate how much damage potentially could happen to our children, children entrusted to us by the Lord of all, when we thrust them into environments of substandard educational processes and standards, hyper-sexualized children, bullies, drug abuse, etc., and keep them there for 180 eight-hour days per year for twelve years.

    Yes, we must frequently ask ourselves, “How are my children learning to be salt and light in the world?” But who is more qualified to teach them how to be salt and light: peers in public school and public school teachers who are handcuffed when it comes to influencing children for Christ, or their parents and churches who have an eternal perspective and more vested interest in their children’s well-being, health, and education than anyone else on the planet?

    We’ve made our choice regarding our children’s education, and we completely respect and understand the many millions who choose otherwise. Public schools work wonderfully for many people, and I think most public school teachers are commendable public servants. Our local churches ought to commission their Christian public school teachers as missionaries at the start of every school year! But homeschooling can be a wonderful, healthy, productive, and godly option for some and therefore shouldn’t be universally denigrated as a non-missional choice. That’s why I don’t read much Tony Jones. I read you instead.

    You make some good points as always, and I don’t want to become a troll, so that’s probably enough from me. Thanks for responding to this passionate homeschool parent with grace.

  • Tim

    Back in the day, my wife and I both worked half time to equal one full time income. I spent many, many hours reading books aloud to my kids. Jim Trelease, of the Read Aloud Handbook, was my inspiration. Now my oldest started a PhD, my second is at an Ivie, and my youngest is number one in his high school class. I never once berated them or told them to study. All we did was have fun learning. We discovered joy in exploring many subjects. By the way, I was one of those average students in K-12 who then found things I wanted to learn.

    All this is to say is that the attitude of this post depressed me. Simply, the words “entitlement” and “achievement” make it sound like studying is a grind. Why not inspire people to joy, love, generosity, finding solutions to war and poverty, for example, because God’s heart is big. And we want what is life giving for others. I will tell you, just my reaction, the blame/shame expressed here makes me feel sad. And I say this as one who has raised “winners” so I’m not whining. And, if my kids have any success, but they do not have love, then Big Whoop.

    So what can we do to inspire people to learn?

    I’m just feeling sad.

  • Ben Witherington

    Thanks Tim: This post is not about the teaching itself, it is about the attitude of millions of students in America, and the narcissistic values that have been ingrained into them, sometimes even by Christians. Of course teachers should inspire their students to learn…. but this post is not about that. It’s about the cultivated culture of entitlement. BW3

  • Gary

    This is in reference to the comment that a main problem of Christian Home Schooling is that kids never learn how to interact with their peers who are not Christians. Beside the somewhat confusing nature of the statement (the ‘entitlement culture’ is prevalent in our society, but the attempt to prevent entitlement enculturation through homeschooling is a problem?), I must take exception to the stereo type.

    We homeschool, and I teach in the public schools. The public school student and teacher populations walk in ambiguity much of the time. The fear of litigation or political manipulation is everywhere in the atmosphere. Students and teachers are inundated not only by the culture of entitlement but also of power and sexuality. My sons are saved from much of this through home schooling. The ambiguities of public school are sacrificed in the home school for the value of love: love God and love others.

    Any peer interaction is a dance between who influences who. The one who holds love as the upmost value, can usually come away from any interaction knowing there was an attempt to be a blessing to another. I watch my sons in interaction with others. They usually try to ignore or challenge the misogynist, the tough guy, the druggie, etc.. Sometimes the encounter is not as positive as they would like, but most interactions are positive.

    In addition, my sons have to learn how to hear Holy Spirit. They cannot influence properly unless they can learn to flow with Spirit. Hearing the leadings of the Spirit in order to share a proper word in season allows someone to experience God personally rather than my boys trying to convey opinion or doctrine. There is not a whole lot of encouragement in public school to listen to Holy Spirit. The public school asks our students to listen to the voice in their heads. It doesn’t matter what confusions maybe meandering through the grey matter; “just listen to that voice in your head,” is what is encouraged. This is healthier than home schooling? Really?

    I have not witnessed this social integration problem you speak of – however, I have witnessed several problems in the hallways of the school in which I teach. While I usually hold your opinion in highest regard, this time I’ll place it in the “maybe I’ll understand it later in life” category :-)

  • Elizabeth Deviney

    In response to Tim, we do need to inspire our kids to do great things. We also need to teach them that great things require hard work and sacrifice (especially love, generosity, and finding solutions to war and poverty). The attitude of entitlement wants to achieve great things without doing all the work required and this attitude is extremely prevalent.

  • Elizabeth Deviney

    Also in reference to the comment regarding homeschooling, I really don’t see where you’re coming from. In regards to entitlement culture, it is much more prominent in public schools and even private schools than in homeschooling. I experienced all three types growing up, and from what I saw, most homeschool teachers demanded more from there students than teachers in a traditional class setting. Are there exceptions? Of course. Are there downsides to homeschooling? Well, yes, just like with everything else in life. But I wouldn’t dismiss it entirely.

  • Taylor

    I think you really hit it spot on. After I became Christian and got out of the euphoric stage, God’s Holy Spirit really began to press on me and illuminate sins I hadn’t even noticed I had. (If it wasn’t drinking, smoking, or sex, it wasn’t relevant) Growing up in the generation of participation ribbons, I found that what I really struggled with most was a lack of discipline.

    Our American society has grossly glorified laziness and a lack of responsibility. Walk into a movie theater and watch Knocked Up, Jeff who lives at Home, Step brothers, or any Adam Sandler movie. They all include grown men who won’t grow up. Men who won’t take responsibility for their own lives and futures. Men who won’t support their families. Check out the divorce rate. If marriage isn’t sunshine and cupcakes, it’s not worth it. I have cousins who are on their fourth child from their third marriage. People don’t seem to comprehend the difference between true love and infatuation and that marriage is work but can be rewarding if the couple just tries. Why should I put in the effort to exercise and eat well when I can get surgery to automatically fix it for me? Did you ever hear of those children who were given a birthday gift when it wasn’t their birthdays? Just to make everyone happy and to keep it “fair”?

    What about love? If you believe in inclusiveness, you believe in love. If you believe in the Coexist movement, you believe in love. Of course this also means, if you exclude others (regardless of logic), you perpetuate hate. If you find truth in your faith, you perpetuate hate. If you disagree with me, you’re hateful, ignorant, and close-minded. This type of kindergarten-esque argumentative style is so exhausting. It still shows how we can’t seem to grow up.

    Unfortunately, this has bled over into our church and our faith. “As a member of a church, I’m entitled not only to an opinion or a vote, but actual authority in determining doctrine as if God personally values my opinion and works from it.” “Yes, I know the Bible says otherwise, but this is what I’m saying is true.” This entitlement has even shifted to apathy. “I know everything there is to know about Christianity. I’ve grown up in the church. I don’t need to go to Bible Study/Small Group/Church. I don’t need to read my Bible. God and I are so close that I don’t need to pray. I do so much for this church that I don’t need to tithe. ”

    I could list more examples, but hopefully you get the point.

    It’s scary to think that this unBiblical approach to responsibility/accountability/discipline in our culture is only growing and growing. I would say its an issue we as Christians should remain actively aware of and help our brothers and sisters to understand true Bibilical accountability.

  • mba1225

    While the world of scholar-athletes is unimpressive in most places, I have to note that it is possible to do it better. I graduated from Duke and have retained a life-long appreciation and admiration for Coach K and the Duke Basketball Team. Those guys & girls usually graduate from college and earn their academic entrance into Duke, which isn’t easy.

  • Luke

    Regarding the comments about home schooling: One of the problems with the criticism between the home school versus public school debate is that people rarely consider that the differences between school districts, parents, and children all of which are factors that need to be considered before choosing to home-school or not. We need to stop thinking of this as a universal binary choice.

  • http://www.benwitherington.com ben Witherington

    To the Duke graduate, I would say you are right, but the problem is there aren’t enough athletes of Duke’s academic caliber who can make Duke like entrance standards to fill up all the Division One schools. There just aren’t. BW3

  • Ben Witherington

    Elizabeth what you say is sometimes true, and sometimes does happen. The problem is, there is some faulty theology behind the whole assumption that we should extremely shield our children from the world. Wrong. They should be in the world, and learn how to be in the world, without being of the world. And then there is the further problem that either you believe ‘greater is he who is in us, than any of the forces of the world’ or you don’t. And then on top of that, you assume ‘my children’ are ‘my children’ and I’ll do with them what I think best. Actually, they are not your children in the proper sense. They belong to, and are a gift from God. They come through you, but don’t actually belong to you. And as Christian parents we are accountable for our theological assumptions which guide our actions with our children. There is a reasonable approach to protecting children from worldly influences, and then there is an extreme approach— namely take them out of the world. The reasonable approach is cautious but teaches values and critical thinking so a child can live in the world without being of it. The extreme approach is like the Amish— withdraw from society, and of course there is a whole spectrum of approaches in between. BW3

  • Robert Rogers

    Indeed, Elizabeth! We do demand more from our children. This year my 17 year old daughter is involved in Latin, Greek, classic literature, creative writing, logic, philosophy, rhetoric, public speaking and debate, history, world religions, physics, calculus, piano, violin, and dance. One just does not get to this level through low expectations. Already she has her eyes set on graduate school. Indeed, some home school parents actually produce over-acheivers.

  • JR

    Well, an A at Duke isn’t that hard to achieve these days. Grade inflation seems to be a big problem at Duke and other American universities:

    http://fortyquestions.blogspot.com/2009/03/grade-inflation-at-my-old-stomping.html

  • Ben Witherington

    Yes and No, but even if it’s only partially true, it’s depressing in seven languages. BW3

  • Dave

    “and at what point do home schoolers ask themselves the question— how exactly are my children being salt and light in a dark world? By withdrawing from public education, Christians have helped insure the demise of the public school system in various ways. I’m not knocking all home schools, or all curriculums, but it is a sign of the withdrawal of Christians from society at large….. and then we wonder why society and public education is going bad. We, are partly to blame.”

    I think arguments like these confuse our duty to be missional by extending it to our children. I think that children are minors and by extension we adults are the “majors” and thus are responsible for living and showing the missional life to our kids. It is not yet the children’s responsibility to be missional when they are often not mature enough to have made decisions on these things for themselves, much less able to explain and defend it to their peers.

    I think looking at it in terms of missional put the maturity cart before the horse and it is much more appropriate to frame the discussion in terms of who get to train your children how to be missional, you or the gov’t.

    I would also argue that public schools were never “good” to begin with. Certainly, they were better than now when more people approached life with something resembling a Christian view of morality (I’m not saying we were necessarily a “Christian nation,” just that Biblical morality was more influential in the past than now). The philosophy behind the establishment of public education in the US, however, was anything but good or moral. I would suggest reading “The Theory of Education in the United States” by Albert Nock and “Education: Free and Cumpulsory” by Murray Rothbard. You may not agree with their Libertarian (but NOT Randian) leanings, but its hard to argue with the history presented.

    FWIW, I haven’t developed a fully formed opinion of homeschooling, so I am neither for or against it. I am, however, highly skeptical of the motives behind our public education system.

  • http://www.chrissmithtopher.com Chris Smith

    It’s unfortunate that this post on academic entitlement and it’s cultural roots has been obfuscated by one throw-away sentence on homeschooling, but that in itself reveals more about our culture of entitlement than anything else that has been said.

    The almost instantaneous firestorm of offense and anger generated by a fairly benign comment by Dr. Witherington shows that we – even in the highly educated (judging by the abundance of credentials being dragged out in comments), Christian sub-culture have entitlement issues. We are entitled to have our beliefs and practices go unquestioned and to not be offended by someone who holds a different opinion – whether we believe that they are justified or not. Especially when that area of practice and belief has to do with our children and our parenting methods.

    In reality, homeschooling is so diverse in it’s application and it’s reasons for existence that it’s difficult to judge the movement as a whole. I’m sure we all can produce anecdotal evidence to support our positions pro or contra homeschooling. Sometimes children who are home schooled end up being excellent students, other times they are woefully unprepared for the world outside of mom and dad’s tightly walled garden of learning; sometimes they are very well socialized, other times they are socially inept (and in this I don’t mean simply spiritually unprepared for life in a post-Christian world); sometimes parents pull their kids out of the Public School system because the system is failing their kids, and other times parents fail the system by pulling their kids out. It’s a thoroughly mixed bag. Dr. Witherington’s experience with home schooled students may not reflect fully your experiences but they are no less true because they don’t.

    For me the biggest issue is the polarization between public schooling and home schooling from a missional context. We tend to see one as withdrawal from the world (HS) and the other as bad parenting, abandoning our kids to the perils of secular education (PS). Neither of those two have to be the case. I have heard in my lifetime, plenty of homeschooling parents rebut the argument of unbiblical withdrawal from the world with caveats that they are intentional about getting their kids involved in the larger culture through extra-curriculars – which is fantastic, but I rarely hear from public schooling advocates the matching defense for their position – namely that as parents they work extra hard to supplement the secular teaching of the public school system by being actively engaged in their child’s education from the sidelines. Parents can have an enormous impact on their child’s education in the public school system by being involved in it through helping their kids with homework, volunteering at the school, getting to know their kid’s teachers and many other avenues. Remaining in the public school system no more guarantees that children are left to the wolves of secular education anymore than homeschooling guarantees that they have no witness to the world. So from both a spiritual and from a parenting perspective I see the two options on equal footing (potentially).

    Where I see the scales tipping though in favour of engaged parenting in the public school system over intentional socializing with homeschooling is the implicit social contract that we have with society. We do not live in isolation, either as a nuclear family or as a religious community – for better or worse we are a part of larger society. Now my perspective on this as a Canadian might be a little different than some of you, my brothers and sisters south of the 49th parallel, because we don’t have the same values of political autonomy as you do – but as a part of society we have an implicit responsibility to participate in that society and to improve it by our participation. This is where I have issues with homeschooling – because I see parents who pull kids out of the school system that we all share (whether for homeschooling, private schooling or simply moving their kids to a more favorable school or district) as failing all the other families in that school who don’t have the same options available to them. It affects things economically, educationally and even spiritually. For even as I have earlier conceded that home schooled children can develop a witness to the world through intentional extra-curriculars, so that THEY learn how to be salt and light, who is being salt and light to the kids and the teachers and the families in the school they abandon for alternative education? We treat witnessing and engagement with the culture as if it was for our benefit – but what about my neighbour? How will they hear, see, experience the Gospel if we and our kids abandon them to be salt and light somewhere else that makes us feel better about the experience?

    To me that is still an unanswered question – we owe our neighbours more than we give them when we pull our kids out of the public school system.

  • Zach

    their>there (in bold). it’s a good point though about grade inflation

  • Tim

    My kids work hard. They sacrifice. But they don’t do it because their parents warned them about entitlement and responsibility. They saw joy and fun in making a difference. Please don’t take the inspiration out of it. Dave Daubert’s blog on hope and accomplishment is good. We need to see that what we do makes a difference. And we need to have hope that what we do will matter.

    As a feeling person, with the strength and weakness of temperament, I can tell you that this talk leads me toward more sadness than joy. That is data from one person. That’s how it strikes me. Right now I’m not on board with the approach taken. Nevertheless, love to all! I’ve been wrong before

  • Tim

    Look. I see kids not into school. They just want to jump through the hoops. They are bored. They don’t have hope. To them, it doesn’t matter. Everyone and everything is a commodity. When love gets a price tag, then we have narcissism, entitlement and everything else. Where is the passion? Where is the love?

    No child left behind was well meaning. Now I hear parents blame teachers. I have seniors whine about kids today. Everyone feels out on an island. What have you done for me? What do I get out of it? That is the depression of someone who has not been loved. No role models. No significant adults who push them, let them fall, continue to love, then help kids gain internal rather than external motivation.

    C’mon, man! Love each other. See the Face of God, in your brother, in your sister. Let’s see some passion!

  • Ben Witherington

    Hi Tim: I don’t disagree with your panegyric here. But narcissism is different from lack of love. Unfortunately, a lot of well loved kids still think they are entitled to everything under the sun. I see them regularly. And I’ve given my whole career to inspiring them to follow the better angels of their nature, not the way of all flesh and entitlement. BW3

  • rvs

    Three things:

    1. I have taught many home schooled students, and most (80%) are intelligent and well- adjusted to society. Some–however–are dysfunctional. I can say the same about my other types of students. Christian college students who know how to laugh at The Trailer Park Boys are better equipped than Christian students who have never seen the Simpsons. –A general rule of thumb.

    2. Perhaps universities are not suppose to be places of academic achievement in the old sense of the idea (absurdly hierarchical; unhealthy in modes of competition; unfairly weighted; etc.–see Ken Robinson’s talk on Changing Educational Paradigms, for example, if you want to imagine the future of the university).

    3. Universities that see themselves as vibrant coffee shops are wiser than universities that see themselves as gates with gate keepers and grumpy old men shaking their fists and standing on their lawns. –Same rule hold true for churches, as it turns out.

  • http://www.piouseye.com David M. Hodges

    Typo notice: “there true level of academic ability” should be “their true level of academic ability.” No need to pass this comment through moderation; better just to correct the typo. Otherwise, some wag is going to suggest your blog editor lacks the academic ability for his assigned task. (Given my own propensity for typos, I’d hate to see that happen.)