Hate in the Name of Love, Bullying in the Name of Tolerance

Well, I stirred up a hornet’s nest.  You know you’ve struck a nerve when even J-Woww tweets insults at you.  But the thing that most amazes me is how few people actually addressed the points I made in my recent blog post.  They were pretty simple.  Conservative women like my mom get grief because people think they can’t make decisions without their husband, but Barack Obama gets applauded for changing his mind on a huge issue after consulting his wife and young daughters. The double standard amazes me.

Oh, and in that post I also said generally kids do better with mother/father families – the kind of family I’d like to have for Tripp one day.

That’s it.  That’s pretty much the post.  (Yes, I made a little joke about Swiper the Fox, but anyone with a brain would know that wasn’t serious.)  You see arguments like that all the time in political magazines.  It’s not a big deal, and the people who make arguments like that don’t stir up much controversy.

But I’m not a pundit.  I’m just a mom made famous in one of the most intense and embarrassing ways possible – by having your teen pregnancy announced in the middle of a presidential campaign.  Oh, and I was a finalist on Dancing with the Stars, one of the most-watched shows on TV.  But all that means I’m more a part of pop culture, the culture that creates the television we watch and the music we listen to.  When real pundits write blog posts, they don’t pop up in Us Weekly… but mine do.

And I’m glad.  Why?  Because pop culture needs a little bit of debate.  It needs a little bit of disagreement.  Because not everyone who watches their shows or listens to their music thinks the way the directors, producers, and actors think.  When you’re in Hollywood you’ll meet some great people, some terrible people, and many somewhere in between.  In other words, they’re people just like everyone else.  But what you won’t find is any disagreement about things like gay marriage or abortion.  For those folks, there’s one way to think, and anyone who disagrees is stupid, hypocritical, hateful, or bigoted.  (Of course, I’m not the only one facing the wrath of the Hollywood-type sheeple – there are some celebrities bold enough to speak out, and they get attacked and ostracized too.)

If you read the almost 3,000 comments after my controversial post, or read the entertainment magazines, you’ll see some of the most terrible words against me, my mom, and my entire family.

You’ll see hate in the name of love. People claim they’re just trying to protect the right of two people to love each other – a right I don’t contest, by the way – and then spew the worst words imaginable at someone they disagree with.  If the agenda is love, why do you hate so intensely?

You’ll see bullying in the name of tolerance. Bullying is in the news lately, for good reason.  It’s horrifying to see stories of young people taking their own lives because they can’t see past the hate of others.  Around Hollywood, there’s lots of concern and great initiatives to try to encourage more kindness in this world.  Then why do I get so many messages telling me I should die?  Here’s a sampling that we didn’t put up on the blog:

 

And if you read the comments we let through, the only word that really sums them up is “bullying.”  They treat me as if I’m not human, as if they are somehow proving how great they are by (always anonymously, the cowards) tearing me apart with their words.

Here’s the thing.  In the articles and comments, I saw a lot of hate and a lot of bullying, but you know what I didn’t see much of?  Arguments.  In fact, this reminds me a little bit of the incident in an L.A. bar that went viral several months ago and will be shown in its entirety in my upcoming new reality tv show.  There, a guy started yelling at me and called my mom terrible names, but couldn’t tell me one decent reason why he was filled with so much hate.

Here’s a news flash, guys.  Your hate and bullying don’t work.  People see through it, and they don’t like to be pushed around.  You think it’s completely obvious that you’re right, but this younger generation is more pro-life than their parents, and voters just keep defending traditional marriage.  Why?  Why would we if you’ve been telling us what to think for all these years?

Because we think for ourselves.  And we’ll keep thinking for ourselves no matter what you call us.  So keep sending the hate, but realize that hate doesn’t win arguments.
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  • Joe

    Oh the irony. So it’s okay for you and your family to “bully” homosexuals by telling them how wrong they are for who they are, but when someone criticizes you for your views, they are the real bullies. Of course it’s okay because you believe you are right. Your bible tells you what to think and your parents and church guide your moral beliefs. Yet, you have no solid stance for why your beliefs are right. In fact, of the many homosexuals I have known in my life, most have been a better role model than you will ever be. They have been successful in their lives and provided good homes and have good families without having to exploit their children or the media (hint, hint). They don’t need to go on DWTS to do good in the world or be plastered all over magazine covers to get a message out or be successful or do good in this world. They do it by leading successful lives and proving that many gays can be better than their right wing, conservative counterparts. The lashing out against you has nothing to do people bullying you over your comments about how Obama consulted his children (something you took out of context anyway). It has everything to do with the fact that a teenage mother whose father is no longer in the picture had the audacity to make a moral judgement call for other people while not abiding to the same moral regulations. Get it through your head: someone in your position has no right to tell other people how to live. Ever. Forever and ever. The best thing you can do for people is to shut your mouth and step out of the way.

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  • One Helluva Conservative

    Thanks Bristol! We are America and founded on being different. Different beliefs, opinions, and views are what makes us better. You are right about Pop culture. Either you are on their bus or you are somehow a hater, homophobe, hypocrite, or the one I like most is “uneducated”. Most of Hollywood are uneducated, but speak of “right” from their perspective, not the common American. How can you speak of an opinion about common Americans when you make several million dollars a year and live the high life?? They can’t. Thanks for speaking your mind as every American should….

  • One Helluva Conservative

    Thanks Bristol! We are America and founded on being different. Different beliefs, opinions, and views are what makes us better. You are right about Pop culture. Either you are on their bus or you are somehow a hater, homophobe, hypocrite, or the one I like most is “uneducated”. Most of Hollywood are uneducated, but speak of “right” from their perspective, not the common American. How can you speak of an opinion about common Americans when you make several million dollars a year and live the high life?? They can’t. Thanks for speaking your mind as every American should….

  • JSW

    “In fact, this reminds me a little bit of the incident in an L.A. bar that went viral several months ago and will be shown in its entirety in my upcoming new reality tv show.”

    Aaaaand, the entire point for this post. ^
    Bristol, I’m sure it must be upsetting to say hypocritical things and then have people point them out. It must be so hard to live a life that is completely opposite of what you apparently “believe” in.

  • G.A.W

    This post is effectively an act of bullying, and you’re complaining about bullying. Hello Pot, meet Kettle, he’s black, but you shouldn’t call him that because you’re black, too.

    What you failed to do with this post is actually defend your arguments with further arguments. All you did was state how you, as a conservative, are breaking the apparent ‘norm’ of questioning those like Obama who have changes of heart regarding an issue; that issue being gay marriage and the right of gay people to get married. Well that’s not a good argument to make, since it carries no water whatsoever but only serves the purpose of self-aggrandisement.

    I suggest you try again, but really, I think you and your family has had too much fame in the past several years to tolerate. Not to mention, it’s all been flat-out stupid fame as well. Do or say something worth a damn and I will give such, but this only perpetuates the somewhat negative limelight you and your family are in.

    When you make a post about Obama changing his mind on the issue of gay marriage, which he previously stated he personally disagreed with (but left out of his political machinations, which is appropriate), yet you also bring up how someone like Michelle Bachmann being asked if she would be submissive to her husband (in reality, it’s the other way around, in their case) as if its a relevant analogy, you have failed. That was, unfortunately for your original post on this matter, the only tidbit that resembled anything considered an argument. At the same time, it was an allegation, a quotation without ANY source whatsoever! Debate class would laugh you out of the room with that mistake.

    To finish, maybe its just that I dislike the corporatist media at large (CNN, CBS, [MS]NBC, FOX, ABC, and so on & so forth) and take what ANY of them say with a grain of salt, but I have never heard of anyone suggesting that your mother listening to your father too much was somehow a bad thing for your mother & her political credibility. Was that really quipped by someone in the “liberal” media (source, please) or is that just another failed attempt at an argument?

    Hell, what do I know, I’m just “bullying” you with counter-arguments that you neglected to address. I am never impressed by people who cry victim because of their own mistakes; celebrity or not, you are not above criticism and since this is the internet, you should be ready to see an onslaught of trolling & other, nastier material. Have a gut day.

  • lawlinglibertarian

    Here’s an “argument” for you, Bristol.

    1) Support of legal recognition of same-sex relationships continues to increase rapidly, and conservatives risk marginalizing themselves by basing their platforms around denial of equal rights to gay couples. Disagree? Let’s see the data.
    2) America is continuing to become less religious and more secular at an increasingly rapid pace. “No religion” has been the fastest growing population for the past 30 years. By catering to far-right evangelical Christians that discriminate against gays, Republicans alienate independent and moderate conservatives, and risk becoming a fringe party. Even top Republican strategists realize this: look at this week’s news.
    3) Evangelical culture wars issues don’t even resonate *with Evangelicals*. Evangelicals get divorced at the SAME RATE as the general population. Religious Americans/conservatives massively engage in: MASTURBATION, SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE, COHABITATION. These aren’t arguments you will *win* among an increasingly open-minded, secular population when you can’t even convince your *own* group–see BRISTOL PALIN as an example–to follow your moral tenets. All evangelical culture does is encourage hypocrisy–people who claim to be pious, “godly,” and then scramble to apologize and make amends when they’re exposed as hypocrites. See BRISTOL PALIN as an example.

    Christianity is a relic of the Bronze age, when people invented supernatural explanations to explain mundane phenomena, when people mistook the mentally ill’s demented visions as “prophetic,” and whose governments were highly vested in having their population’s believe that “God” wanted them to be in power.

    People were waking up on their own, but the vehement and vitriolic hatred and discrimination of gays by evangelicals is only serving to drive young people away from the church more quickly–wasting what little political capital the church has left.

    AMAZING PREDICTION: Bristol Palin will NOT be calling my response in her NEXT blog post.

    • Mike Jones

      1) Support of homosexual behavior is growing in *your* world, not the real world. So far, 31 of 31 states have approved the definition of marriage being between one man and one woman.
      2) You are correct, but that has no bearing on truth. Truth is immutable.
      3) Also correct, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t a God who created the world in six ordinary days about 6,000 years ago has He said He did. Regarding your definition of Christianity, you no nothing of what you are talking about. Read ‘Evidence that Demands a Verdict’. I’ve read your materials, you read mine.
      Summary, you provided very weak arguments based on wishful thinking and repetitions of what you’ve heard. Come on, be bold and investigate God for yourself. Don’t be a sheep.

  • MrG

    I certainly don’t agree with anyone wishing you or your family harm. But Bristol, you have to realize your hate speech has consequence. And YOUR words cause real hurt to people.
    Those comments were wrong, but you shouldn’t be surprised that hate begets hate. You shouldn’t say something so hateful in a public forum and then be surprised when you get a hateful reaction.

  • Paul McMichael

    Bristol, no one should be using those kind of words. it goes without saying. Anonymous message board does not constitute anything like the bullying meted out to gay kids by their peers or the harsh words of Pastor Harris, ‘give him a good punch’ in the name of religion.

    Your arguments would merit debate if they were supported by evidence. They aren’t. What you cite, (kids do better with a mom and a dad) are, in the vast proportion, studies that compare marriage with single parenthood. Your persistence with such a mis-leading falsehood makes it difficult to debate anything.
    http://www.livescience.com/6073-children-raised-lesbians-fine-studies-show.html


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