On Second Thought: Episode 4

Trust me, it’s crazy to see your life on television. That’s why every week, I’m going to do a blog posts called “On Second Thought.” These posts are where I will go over the episodes of my Lifetime show as I process the issues presented now that I’ve seen them aired.  I hope you’ll join me for these weekly posts – which will undoubtedly be part-confession, part-explanation, and part-celebration of my life right now!

Original Airdate: June 26, 2012

Fatherhood.

Just the word causes a little pang in my heart.

When I was skating with Tripp at the hockey rink in Episode 4, I said, “All men are dogs.”  On second thought, I shouldn’t have said that.  It’s not true in life generally and it’s not even true in my life specifically.  I have my dad, who’s one of the best people on the planet.  He can win the Iron Dog, braid Piper’s hair, catch salmon, teach me a life lesson, and make sure our truck engines don’t freeze overnight in the winter months.  Then, there’s Track, my brother who’s tormented his little sisters my entire life… and is still tormenting me as I wait for him to return from Afghanistan!  Of course, I also have my grandfathers who have held together our family with their character and strength.

I guess as I stood there trying to skate with Tripp, I was simply frustrated.  I never thought I’d be the one teaching Tripp to skate.  I always envisioned having a husband helping our son strap on the skates and glide over the ice.

And so, there’s a hole.  In my family.  In Tripp’s life.  In my heart.

Talking to Andy while we were stacking firewood was really poignant.  “I’ve seen my dad twice.  Once at a golf course and once after I turned 18,” he said.  “I’m fine.  I’m the person I am today, because my mom taught me everything.  My dad is just a name on a birth certificate to me.”

Of course, I think Andy’s great and his mom obviously did a great job.  However, I know it’s not God’s perfect plan for boys to be raised without dads… especially when the father lives down the street.  That’s why I said, in a previous episode, that I’d failed as a mom.  That’s why it hurts my heart so much to be in this situation.

As we drove to Anchorage, I was so nervous.  I didn’t want Tripp to be let down if Levi didn’t show.  Of course, if you saw the show you know Levi didn’t manage to make it.  Instead, I got an angry phone call from his girlfriend.

I never thought my life would be this way.  However, I’m thankful for all of the blessings that we have.  I’m thankful for all the wonderful men in my family and in my life.  Especially Tripp, who was really thankful I let him eat that icing right out of the can when we were baking.

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  • Pete

    Bristol you should be ashamed of yourself! If you did not want Tripp to be let down then you should not have promised him an outing with his father at Bouncin’ Bear, without first having confirmation that his father would be in attendance. You failed to confirm the appointment with Levi beforehand and you deliberately set your son up knowing that he would be hurt. I thought that was unnecessarily cruel on your part. It’s bad enough that Levi doesn’t have a more active role in Tripp’s life but you shouldn’t create more disappointment for your son just for the sake of your reality show. This was obvious to anyone who saw the show! If I were you, I would pray for cancellation because this reality show does not portray you in a positive way, you look like a horrible parent and a petty and shallow human being. This can’t be good for your image, which obviously means a great deal to you, hence all the cosmetic surgery and post show blog entries for damage control!

    • Emma Lora

      pete

      Do you hold mothers who raise their kids alone to be more responsible than the fathers for any situations that are less than perfect.
      Do you hold Levi any responsibility for not showing up, or expressing in reasonable time that he would not show up?? Was that unnecessarily cruel on his part??
      Levi not having a more active role is Levi’s choice. Dissapointments for Tripp not seeing this father is due to Levi’s choices to not appear. Why don’t you hold him responsible for his choices??
      You as a man seem to put all responsibilies on Bristol’s shoulder instead of any on Levi’s. Why is that??
      You are concerned about Bristol’s image????Most of us see her as the more responsible one. It is only a few of you “birds of the feather” who flock together sounding alike “obviously” wanting her to take on all the responsilities for Levi’s choices. All the men in my family would never think like this, so I really am not used to this attitude. your concern over her cosmetic surgery due to her self image is a statement that men I know would never make. Her blogs for “damage control” is merely what she said… “on second thot” which is something everyone can choose to do with their own comments or decisions especially those who overlook men’s irresponsibilites while expecting women to take all of the responsibilites. Why would some men choose to think that way?? Just asking.. Come to think of it some few women also do that. I wonder why that is… What do the “birds of the feather flocking together” have in common?? The one thing I see in common is the desire to manipulate her reputation instead of just going their way to another blog.

      • John Jay

        Tripp thinks Bristol can “buy him a new daddy”- believe me, there has already been plenty of damage inflicted on Tripp’s psyche by the money-obsessed Palins. He has already been taught that money is the solution to his problems, rather than a healthy spiritual relationship with God. I see big problems in his future, and the blame will lie squarely with the hyper-materialistic Palins. Tripp needs both a new mommy and a new daddy- I hope Child Protective Services are watching “Life’s a Tripp”.

        • Emma Lora

          John Jay… are you, Patroit, Mr Peabody the same person with different names?

          You 3 have identical attitudes. Who is your biggest influence in your worldview? I’m assuming you all have the same sounce. It is amazing how identical you are.

          • John Jay

            Emma, if I had to take a wild guess, I could almost believe that youre Bristol, sock-puppeting on her own blog site. So, my advice to you is, “physician, heal thyself” : )

          • John Jay

            As much as Ive enjoyed this exchange, I cant very well continue it with Bristol censoring 80% of my posts, so I will wish you well and perhaps pick this conversation up another time when perhaps Bristol is in a more tolerant mood…

          • LMA

            Good point, John Jay. I also thought that maybe “Emma Lora” is actually Bristol. I mean, E.L. is almost incessant in her attempts to counter any and all critiques or criticisms. It’s as if she’s unhinged. Who besides Bristol (or an obsessed fan) would spend so much time doing that?

        • sodakhic

          Hey John Jay let’s go through Obamas old neighborhood and see what life is like for the single mothers. Most of them are on drugs, grandmother is watching the kids, the dad is in jail or been gunned down. I think Child Protective Services have their hands full in Chicago.

  • John Jay

    This Poster said an awful lot in very few words, and it really deserves a re-post. I hope you all will read this carefully. Especially you, Bristol-

    Bristol earns hundreds of thousands of dollars more than Levi does. She has turned her series into a revenge fest of the most childish and immature order. There is nothing uplifting and charming about shooting his book or Bristol shooting off her mouth all the time. The only message that would be inspirational would be for Bristol to find a way to resolve her anger issues and move on with her life. Bristol is posting on a religious website, but she seems to have forgotten the basic teachings of Christ to turn the other cheek. Do unto others that which you would want them to do unto you. Christianity is based on forgiveness. Bristol was sad that she hadn’t asked for God’s forgiveness the moment that she had slept with Levi. (We’ll forget the part about Bristol getting drunk and forgetting take her birth control pills. No one poured liquor down her throat and hid her pills. She was responsible for her own actions.) I forgive her; we all make mistakes. But it looks as if Bristol still cannot forgive herself, and she is unlikely to forgive Levi, even though she was 50% of the equation. The program is nothing more than a format for an emotionally immature person to vent their hatred in front of an innocent child. Bristol harms Tripp emotionally every time she does that.

    The proof to me that Bristol is still emotionally immature is that she has to explain what she really meant ot say each week. … Mature people, especially when being filmed for TV, think first.

    • Andy Sandoval

      She is working through what every woman goes through with this situation. This I is reality, unless you can’t see reality. unfortunatly thousands of women are in this same situation feeling the same emotions as Bristol is showing us. i think that is taking a lot of courage to do. Don’t you think this show may have had a different story line if one of the character had a different heart?
      And perhaps your post would have been different if you also had a different heart.

    • Emma Lora

      John Jay… I did read the post again and came to the same conclusion again.

      Bristol makes money (you don’t know how much) Levi does not make as much soo…..
      THERFORE HE IS NOT RESPONSIBLE TO HELP PROVIDE????
      You think she is about revenge because she thinks Levi should be responible, (Some go to jail for similar action)
      HE DOES NOT DO WHAT A FATHER SHOULD DO BUT HE DOES NOT NEED TO FEEL RESONSIBLE??
      You think Bristol should turn the other cheek and move on sooo….
      LEVI DOES NOT HAVE TO BE RESPONSIBLE SO HE CAN MOVE ON????
      You think Bristol is at fault for not using birth controL & drinking alcohol??…..
      BUT LEVI DOES NOT NEED TO FEEL RESPONSIBLE FOR NOT USING PROTECTION AND TAKING ADVANTAGE OF AN UNDERAGE GIRL WHO DRANK?????
      Bristol has learned from her mistake and wants other to learn from them but…
      LEVI HAS FATHERED ANOTHER CHILD AND YOU THINK THAT IS NOT IRRESPONSIBLE?????
      You think Bristol has vented hatred because Tripp may have heard her say…”he does not answer the phone” or “Levi may be at Bouncy Bear” (Levi did not say he would not be there until too late)
      LEVI DOES NOT VISIT HIS SON WHEN HE COULD AND DOES NOT PAY SUPPORT IS NOT EMOTIONAL ABUSE TO TRIPP AND THAT IS NOT IRRESPONSIBLE?????
      You think that when Bristol wants to learn from her experience by re-evaluating her comments that she is not gutsy and mature but….
      LEVI DOES NOT LEARN BECAUSE HE DOES NOT RE-EVALUTE HIS DECISIONS AND CONTINUES TO BE IRRESONSIBLE…. AND YOU ARE OK WITH THAT?????
      I’m curious John Jay… do you have similar problem of irresponsibilites and therefore sympathetic to Levi???
      JUST ASKING!!!

      • Mr. Peabody

        Both Bristol and Levi are responsible for how they handle any given situation. The subject of this column Bristol writes is how SHE reacts in specific situations. It is intellectually lazy to use Levi as the standard she should be measured against. The standard that has been set by the original poster ( I simply re-posted them) is one of Christian Love, Forgiveness and Compassion, and by those standards, he/she found Bristol to fall short on several counts. It’s not a matter of measuring her up against Levi, it’s a matter of asking her if she lives up to what she believes are Christian standards.

        • Emma Lora

          Mr. Peabody

          I just responded to your post to me and you revealed that your attempt at such a respectful?? tone here does not match your disrespectful tone on the other blog by referring to them as whores. So you see your assessment of Christian values lived by the Palins or anyone else is questionable.
          As a Christian I will continue to support a fellow Christian, no matter who they are. I would encourage you to search your own heart to see if you live by and love Christian standards in your own life before you evaluate another.

          • Mr. Peabody

            Once again, you are trying to measure Bristol’s actions against those of other people. To what end, I’m not sure, unless it is to draw attention away from the deplorable way Bristol is raising Tripp. No normal child asks a parent to “buy me a new daddy”. Only a child that has been taught from Day One that money is the end-all be-all thinks this way. With Bristol and Sarah as role models it is no wonder this is how he thinks. The question is, do you think that is a good thing?

          • Mr. Peabody

            Once again, you are trying to measure Bristol’s actions against those of other people. To what end, I’m not sure, unless it is to draw attention away from the deplorable way Bristol is raising Tripp. No normal child asks a parent to “buy me a new daddy”. Only a child that has been taught from Day One that money is the end-all be-all thinks this way. With Bristol and Sarah as role models it is no wonder this is how he thinks. The question is, do you think that is a good thing?

          • Procyon

            “As a Christian”, I would assume you would support any other human being, not just a “fellow Christian”.

      • joe

        So your interpretation of the Bible is to do unto others as you feel they have done to you?

        • Emma Lora

          Procyn, of coures I would not support just anyone else. I would want to help someone in need regardless but support just anyone who may be dangereous, evil (Hitler) or attempting to harm someone. Once again we are talking about choices. Choice to help a victim or a perpetrator. Perpetrators of evil, ugly behavior, manipulators, control freaks…etc… absolutely no support.

          Joe I don’t know if that was a ? for me. you misquoted the scripture on purpose…. no… revenge is not my suit. Treating others as I would want them to treat me or more important my grandchildren is a good guideline. Liberals are basically not fans of Christians so the context of the comments offered that perspective. I would support a Christian who is targeted by Liberals ( most are not pro christians) But P & J you knew that was the context… but happy to clarify anyway.

          • John Jay

            “Liberals are basically not fans of Christians…”

            WTF? Fans of Christians?
            You certainly have a unique way of phrasing things, Bristol.

    • Tim

      Sorry Levi, but why don’t you pay your child support? The judge ordered you to pay child support for your son Tripp. You make a baby, you pay for the baby’s upbringing.
      Other than cash in you never done anything for Bristol and your son Tripp.

      You made more than $1 million and squandered it on guns, boats and four-wheelers but not on your son Tripp!

      Shame on you Levi.

      http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2148850/Levi-Johnston-penniless-living-mother-squandering-1million-hes-guns-boats.html

      • Emma Lora

        John Jay,
        I noticed that my style of expressing my comments is too confusing for you. I am soryy I don’t think of you when I am writing but I will be glad to help you… “Liberals are not fans of Christians” means Liberals often ridicule or put down and even express hatred for Christians. Hope that helps you.

        • John Jay

          “I noticed that my style of expressing my comments is too confusing for you. ”
          People who speak in blanket generalizations arent confusing.
          I think “amusing” is more the word for it.

          • Emma Lora

            well good… glad to offer amusement… I think of you as vulnerable, easlily upset, so that is why I wanted to claify just for you even if I do write in “generalization” as you put it. Let me know if you need more help, I will be glad to help.

  • Brenda

    Why do you cut down your son’s father in front of him and in this “keepsake” of a show when you were supposedly so hurt and appalled by that guy in the bull bar cutting down your mom? How is it any different? Anyone? What am I missing here, I don’t get it.

    • Emma Lora

      Brenda… saying things like he doesn’t answer the phone or he won’t show up is merely dealing with reality. I personally think when he is older (teens or older) he will see that shooting a book filled with lies and negative comments about Tripp’s grandparents and mom is a statement of rejections for those lies. Do you not see the emotional abuse is the rejection by Levi? Do you put “he doesn’t answer the phone” and “your mother is a whore” and the nasty comment about Bristol on the same par of verbal abuse. If the same thing happens to you do you take full responsibilty of the other person’s behavior. I hope not… those are the tactics of an abuser. People should reject those tactics and get away from them. Take care of yourself Brenda and learn the difference from an abuser and an abuser’s prey. Lots of them out there.

      • Mr. Peabody

        “If the same thing happens to you do you take full responsibilty of the other person’s behavior. I hope not…”

        Nor should you use one person’s actions to justify those of another. Shooting holes in Levi’s book is not only childish, it refelects extremely poor problem-solving skills, something which impacts Tripp directly. I hope Child Protective Services is watching and reflecting on this…

      • http://yaho0 millie

        Emma,
        Very good reply and good points to!!!

        Mr Peabody,
        Shooting holes in a book written by your ex-bf/baby daddy that you feel is full of untruths
        about you is call anger management!!!! Not childish, on the contrary it is pretty smart thinking!!
        She is not taking the anger out on somebody verbally like you are doing, she is taking her
        anger out on the object and releasing her anger. I would say that is pretty smart don’t you think???

  • K

    Bristol, I really hope you and your mom will try to educate the idiots that support Obamacare! Because of precious Trig, your family has a strong voice to help explain why forcing insurance coverage for people with pre-existing conditions down our throats is bad for businesses AND taxpayers! As much as your family loves Trig and advocates in so many ways for people with disabilities, you know better than most that taxpayers cannot be expected to foot the medical bills for everyone like him whose health is likely to be bad! It’s just a heartbreaking fact that some people are going to be sicker than others (like people with Down Syndrome, sadly) but that doesn’t mean Americans should be stupid enough to let those at higher risk of health problems expect to get insurance like normal healthy people!!! Google says there are 35 MILLION people in this country who are uninsured and have pre-existing conditions! Anyone with common sense can understand that covering the cost of health care for all of those people will break the bank!!!!! Only bleeding heart liberals would think that is a good idea because it would destroy our economy (which is exactly what they hope to do)! Please, please, please let the Palin family be the voice and the face of keeping people with pre-existing conditions from ruining our economy under Obamacare!!!!!

    • Mr. Peabody

      “It’s just a heartbreaking fact that some people are going to be sicker than others (like people with Down Syndrome, sadly) but that doesn’t mean Americans should be stupid enough to let those at higher risk of health problems expect to get insurance like normal healthy people!!! ”

      You have absolutely no idea of how health insurance works, do you? Youve never heard of a “risk pool”, have you? Please read up on the subject before posting again- you clearly dont have enough information to speak intelligently on the subject.

      • Emma Lora

        mr peabody ?

        Your talent at being condecending is quite profound. If you really are intelligent about anything you don’t need to be condescending. Most American do not like Obamacare… but you think you are the smart one??? yes you do think that……

        • Mr. Peabody

          Based on what this person has said, do you think they have a sufficient grasp of how health insurance works to speak intelligently on it? A simple yes or no will suffice.

          • Emma Lora

            I don’t know if you meant that for me… Mr Peabody… there are so many people who are so much more knowledgeable then either you or I or anyone else on this blogsight. To presume you will educate any of us I will take as humor. People in DC, medical field, finances, law are debating this issue. Of course I don’t know and if you think you do then I need to let you know…. I will not seek your “expertise” on this issue.

        • Mr. Peabody

          “Most American do not like Obamacare…”

          You might wish to educate yourself on that subject a bit more-

          Yup: Public opinion remains deeply conflicted on health reform
          http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/plum-line/post/yup-public-opinion-remains-deeply-conflicted-on-health-reform/2012/07/02/gJQANigUIW_blog.html

        • LMA

          Emma Lora, you’ve been had! K’s posts are all snark (and they’re funny, too). Reading comprehension isn’t your strong suit, is it? As long as any post offers even one snarky word that fits your viewpoint, you’re all for it. Read K’s post again, and then let us know if you still feel that Mr. Peabody deserves your weak rebuke.

          • otlset

            “K” wrote the truth. Mr. Peabody apparently wants to throw everybody with pre-existing conditions into the ‘risk pool’ then tax people like me forced by big government to be in the pool who are not so much of a risk to pay for them. The whole country will be pulled underwater in Mr.Peabody’s (and Obama’s) risk pool.

          • Patriot

            LMA. They aren’t smart enough to realize that k is making fun of them while making a point about their hypocrisy at the same time. Simple minds.

          • Emma Lora

            LMA I did not read K… I was responding to Peabody’s style of response!! Silly
            It doesn’t matter to me if people are playing word games, trickery… trying to be funny… or just attempting to feel superior… The attitude of not being supportive on this blog and prefering to put down or abusive to Bristol on her blog is a sign of an abusive personality. Corrective input is one thing but destructive input is another. There are motivations that encourage and build and there are motivations to tear down and destroy. Those that choose to tear down and destroy are lightweight and a waste of time to spend to much energy on.

    • http://yaho0 millie

      K,
      But there are some people like yourself that is stupid enough to believe that these little ones
      do not have the same rights as you do. As I have said who are you to assess that Trig will
      have more health problems than you. You can’t with certainty. It appalls me to some peoples
      way of thinking that they are the only ones that count and will put themselves above all others.
      Your post is one of the most self-centered post I have ever read.

      And what will happen to all of the pre-existing who are left hanging out to possibly die? It could be
      your Mother, daughter, father , son, husband and even you that will in up in this category? You
      might want to re-think all of this.

  • blackbird

    I have not seen your show Bristol but reading this post I will make an effort to watch the next one.

  • http://www.bertasue.blogspot.com Roberta Stark-Monahan

    Bristol, While I am glad you are proving to people that you have been attempting to invite Levi to be part of his son’s life, at the same time I wonder why you speak negatively about Levi in the presence of his son? And why when talking to Tripp do you refer to his dad by “Levi” rather than “your dad”? You had an issue with Tripp referring to Sunni as “mommy” and rightfully so. But how would you like Levi and Sunni to refer to you as “Bristol” instead of “mommy” when speaking to your son about you? I’m not sure if your public showing of you wanting Levi to be a part of Tripp’s life is really genuine or just for show. Why…because you speak so derogatorily about Levi in front of your son and instead of referring to Levi as “daddy” you call him by his first name.

    Have you ever heard of “parental alienation”? It’s a form of emotional/mental child abuse; the poisoning an innocent child’s mind against the other half of who they are. Like it or not, but Tripp is the spitting imagine his father. A quite handsome little guy I might say. Gino may have been there for you and Tripp, but his is NOT Tripp’s father and never will be. No one can ever replace a child’s real parents. And children deserve BOTH their parents and it’s a parent’s constitutional right to be able to parent their children. Stop making child support an issue, because it’s a separate issue. Nothing can replace the emotional and physical support of a boy’s father! It’s obvious that Tripp is not deprived of anything. Tripp deserves both his parents! I hope you will genuinely keep trying to give Tripp an opportunity to have a relationship with his father.

    I felt really bad for Tripp when you and Willow were leaving Anchorage. He said, “I don’t want to come back here”, because he was disappointed that his dad didn’t show up. Levi never confirmed he would be there. You are the one who got Tripp’s hopes up, yet Levi is the one made out to be the bad guy. You own a part of Tripp’s disappointment. Perhaps Levi had another commitment and he couldn’t make it. And for whatever reason, Sunni phoned Willow not you and when you took the phone from Willow, Sunni hung up on you. The childlessness needs to stop and you need to focus on what’s in Tripp’s best interest! You of all people, coming from a large family, should know that everyone in the village is important to the overall product of the child.

    While it would be nice to see Levi step-up and attempt to co-parent with you, it’s not fair for you to make him out to be the bad guy like you did in Episode 4. I hope he will begin to communicate with you better and will make an effort to parent his son. Both of you are very young and some people or more mature than others. Perhaps Levi doesn’t want to be on your reality show? Only he knows his reasoning behind why he won’t answer your calls and why he refuses to co-parent with you. But you don’t have to answer for him, only for yourself. I hope you will continue to encourage a father/son relationship for Tripp because it’s the right thing to do. And I hope that you will stop referring to Levi by his first name when talking to Tripp and that you will be more conscience when talking negatively about Levi that it’s not in Tripp’s presence. No child wants to hear someone talk bad about their mom or dad. I hope you will reflect upon what I have said here.

    • Tim

      Levi has never done anything for Bristol and his son Tripp.
      He went on shows and trashed Bristol and the Palin family many times and telling lies about them.
      He made more than $1 million and squandered it on guns, boats and four-wheelers but not on his son Tripp.

      http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2148850/Levi-Johnston-penniless-living-mother-squandering-1million-hes-guns-boats.html

    • Emma Lora

      Roberta… to keep it simple… he does not want to be a part of Tripp’s life. That rejecton may be painful for Tripp and maybe not but it is Levi’s choice Bristol does not have to feel guilty or responsible for Levi’s choice. That is Levi’s responsibility. Why not hold him responsible (bad guy was your words) roberta?
      To call him dad instead of Levi would be cruel since he does not want to be around. A dad is a dad of the heart not DNA.

      Sitting in your chair feeling sorry for Levi while he is with another girl… he also fathered another baby and is acting irresponsible seems very strange to me. I can’t help but wonder why you have the perspective you do.

      • http://ussharedparenting.com/ Roberta Stark-Monahan

        Emma Lora, Am I to assume you know Levi personally since you stated the fact that Levi does not want to be part of Tripp’s life? As far as you giving Bristol permission to not feel guilty or responsible for Levi’s choice, bravo! Bristol set her son up to be disappointed by telling him that “Levi” as she refers to her son’s father, would be there when she had no idea whether he would be or not. Why do you hold Levi responsible for that? He may not even listened to the message until AFTER Bristol took Tripp to this outing. And I used the word “bad guy” because that is the way Bristol is portraying Levi on her reality show. And please tell me how Bristol referring to Levi as “Dad” to his son is cruel and that you know for a FACT that Levi does not want to have a relationship with his son? Emma Lora, do your research and become familiar with the form of child abuse called “parental alienation”. Sounds like you have practiced it yet don’t have a clue what it is! I never said I felt sorry for Levi…I am standing up for children’s rights. Tripp has a right to have a relationship with BOTH his parents. Children can’t speak for themselves. It is our job to protect the children and their rights. I hope you better understand my perspective now.

        • Emma Lora

          I hope you are right…roberta. I hope Levi does want to be responsible… I hope he will start paying child support… I hope he will make plans to see Tripp.

          Are you saying that Bristol’s lack of not make sure Levi will be at B.B is equivalent to Levi not visiting Tripp or Paying child support? Remember Levi did not answer many of her text.

          I hope you are right.. I hope Levi will be daddy to Tripp in heart and soul… but so far he is not living up to the daddy name.

          Do you know him personally? Did you see him on Dr. Phil? Did you read his book? Did you see the Playboy issue? Tripp has a loving mother, grandparents, great grand parents aunts and uncles and large extended family. All these good people and good experiences with them far outweigh a failed connection at Bouncy Bear, or hearing that Levi does not answer the phone or calling him Levi instead of daddy. Levi can come around often and teach him to say daddy. All the things you want for Levi … Levi can make happen.

  • http://www.bertasue.blogspot.com Roberta Stark-Monahan

    Bristol, While I am glad you are proving to people that you have been attempting to invite Levi to be part of his son’s life, at the same time I wonder why you speak negatively about Levi in the presence of his son? And why when talking to Tripp do you refer to his dad by “Levi” rather than “your dad”? You had an issue with Tripp referring to Sunni as “mommy” and rightfully so. But how would you like Levi and Sunni to refer to you as “Bristol” instead of “mommy” when speaking to your son about you? I’m not sure if your public showing of you wanting Levi to be a part of Tripp’s life is really genuine or just for show. Why…because you speak so derogatorily about Levi in front of your son and instead of referring to Levi as “daddy” you call him by his first name.

    Have you ever heard of “parental alienation”? It’s a form of emotional/mental child abuse; the poisoning an innocent child’s mind against the other half of who they are. Like it or not, but Tripp is the spitting imagine his father. A quite handsome little guy I might say. Gino may have been there for you and Tripp, but he is NOT Tripp’s father and never will be. No one can ever replace a child’s real parents. And children deserve BOTH their parents and it’s a parent’s constitutional right to be able to parent their children. Stop making child support an issue, because it’s a separate issue. Nothing can replace the emotional and physical support of a boy’s father! It’s obvious that Tripp is not deprived of anything. Tripp deserves both his parents! I hope you will genuinely keep trying to give Tripp an opportunity to have a relationship with his father.

    I felt really bad for Tripp when you and Willow were leaving Anchorage. He said, “I don’t want to come back here,” because he was disappointed that his dad didn’t show up. Levi never confirmed he would be there. You are the one who got Tripp’s hopes up, yet Levi is the one made out to be the bad guy. You own a part of Tripp’s disappointment. Perhaps Levi had another commitment and he couldn’t make it. And for whatever reason, Sunni phoned Willow not you and when you took the phone from Willow, Sunni hung up on you. The childishness needs to stop and you need to focus on what’s in Tripp’s best interest! You of all people, coming from a large family, should know that everyone in the village is important to the overall product of the child.

    While it would be nice to see Levi step-up and attempt to co-parent with you, it’s not fair for you to make him out to be the bad guy like you did in Episode 4. I hope he will begin to communicate with you better and will make an effort to parent his son. Both of you are very young and some people or more mature than others. Perhaps Levi doesn’t want to be on your reality show? Only he knows his reasoning behind why he won’t answer your calls and why he refuses to co-parent with you. But you don’t have to answer for him, only for yourself. I hope you will continue to encourage a father/son relationship for Tripp because it’s the right thing to do. And I hope that you will stop referring to Levi by his first name when talking to Tripp and that you will be more conscience when talking negatively about Levi that it’s not in Tripp’s presence. No child wants to hear someone talk bad about their mom or dad. I hope you will reflect upon what I have said here.

    • http://yahoo millie

      Roberta Stark-Monahan
      Just what would you purpose Bristol to do to get Levi to be a part of Tripp’s life, take a club
      and hit him over the head and drag him into to the cave where Tripp is?????? IMO Levi does
      not want to get involved at all because he does not want to pay child support for his own child..
      As someone else has said, sometimes a child is better off not being involved with his real father
      when the father doesn’t want to be a part of his life. Why keep subjecting Tripp to being with
      someone who doesn’t want to be a part of his life. At this point Bristol needs to back off and
      move on. She proved in this last episode that it is Levi that doesn’t want to be a part of Tripp’s
      life and not Br istol keeping Levi from seeing Tripp.

      • http://www.splitntwo.com/ Roberta Stark-Monahan

        Millie, I assume you meant “propose” instead of “purpose”? I don’t find your sarcasm funny. This situation is not a laughing matter or one to make jokes about! Am I to assume you know Levi personally since you state he doesn’t want to pay child support? I agree, there are times children are better off not having certain parents in their life whether that be a mother or a father. But I don’t think we’ve seen anything in this situation that warrants Levi losing his parental rights. Tripp doesn’t have to be subjected to being with someone who doesn’t want to be part of his life. Tripp’s mother obviously has total control over his life and has demonstrated her disappointment in Levi in her son’s presence. So it is Bristol who is subjecting her son to disappointment. What do you mean that Bristol needs to back off and move on……move on to finding Tripp another father? She didn’t prove anything in Episode 4 that Levi doesn’t want to be part of Tripp’s life. All she proved is that she is promoting a relationship between her son and his father.

        • http://yaho0 millie

          roberta,
          Thanks for the spell corrections. I am in agreement with you on the fact that
          this is not a laughing matter. My sarcasm is directed at the fact that you keep saying
          that Bristol needs to let Levi be a part of Tripps life. While I agree with you that Levi
          needs to be a part of Tripp’s life, Bristol cannot make it happen. Levi has to want to
          be a part of that little boys life. He has not stepped up to the plate in quite some time.
          And it has seemingly been alot less with the new girlfriend and a new baby on the way.
          He and sunni has accused Bristol of not allowing him to see his son. Bristol has said
          from the time he first accused her that she is not keeping Tripp from see his father.
          Bristol in my opinion is like alot of other mother’s that are in this situation is carrying
          alot of guilt because she blame herself that Tripp is in this situation. She blame herself
          that Tripp does not have a father. She needs to realize that the only mistake that she
          made is having sex before marriage. The person that is to blame that Tripp does not
          have a father is Levi and the choises he has made, not Bristol.

          • http://yaho0 millie

            correction, choice. Typo

          • http://www.amyjlbaker.com/ Roberta Stark-Monahan

            Millie,
            If there’s one thing I have learned about life is, that you can’t make a relationship with someone who doesn’t want to have one with you. So I’ll agree with you there. My concern is that Bristol’s bad-mouthing Levi in front of Tripp will alienate him from his father. I know how much it hurts as a mother to have a father who walks away from his responsibility and shows absolutely no interest in his child. But no matter how much we want to spill to beans to our children and expose the truth, we can’t. We have to allow the child to find this out by themselves. It’s a very delicate situation and it’s hard because we want to protect our children from being hurt. I did everything I could to try and get my child’s father to be a part of her life, but he just walked away as if she didn’t exist. After my failed attempts to get him to step up to the plate and be a father, I gave up and went on with my life. I remarried and after a year of marriage my new husband adopted her. However, at about 15, she decided to seek out her real father. I allowed it, I even sent her there to live with him. It only took her a few weeks for her to see him for who he really was. She couldn’t get back home fast enough. He hurt her so bad emotionally, she never wants to see or talk to him again. So I didn’t have to bad-mouth him all her life. She found out for herself and doesn’t hate me or blame me for keeping her from him because she discovered the truth on her own.
            On the other hand, there are fathers out there who don’t know how to fight situations like this. They want to see their child, but they decide the hassel just isn’t worth it or they don’t have the money for an attorney. Levi is very young and he’s involved with someone who is surrounded by public scrutiny. Maybe he’s just taking the easy way out and has decided he loves his son but he just can’t take all the drama and he’s just going to move on with a new family. I’m not saying that’s right, but that happens more times than not. There are a lot of father’s who put their past behind them and start a new life because they just don’t know how to fight or they don’t have what it takes to fight and they just give up. My concern is, that in some cases, the person who really loses out is the child. I don’t know if that’s the case here, but I do know that in a couple of months Tripp will have a sister, a sister that he has a right to know. What will happen then? Will Bristol support that? Will she be jealous that Levi has another child? And if Levi and his sister are kept from knowing each other, who will that hurt? Will Tripp have a say in this? Does he have a voice?

    • http://yaho0 millie

      roberta,
      No one can make Levi out to be the bad guy, only Levi can do that and that he has done all by
      himself. If he had chosen to be a part of Tripps life then no one could make him out to be a
      bad guy/father. If a father chooses not to be a part of his son life then he has chosen to be a
      father only in DNA.

      What is so sad is that what can happen is the father that didn’t want to be there in the beginning
      of his son’s life will sometime late in life want to be a part of and in some cases it is to late. The
      child has maybe been raised by another man who gave him love and then he becomes the father
      and then the father /son relationship with the real father who rejected the son will not be the same.

      • http://www.splitntwo.com Roberta Stark-Monahan

        Millie,
        I’m so sorry you are blind. That is the one sense I would hate to lose. It must be awful to go through life not being able to see.

        • http://www.splitntwo.com Roberta Stark-Monahan

          Millie,
          Where did you get your crystal ball from? I want one!

  • tom stewart

    Hi Bristol – I heard they moved your show next week? Will it be on an hour later, so they can show another re-run of Dance Moms? I’m not supposed to stay up that late, but want to see it. Can you give us an update? I hate when they move my TV shows.

  • jane

    How interesting to read that Levi”s manager (counsellor ?) counciled him to not respond to Bristol’s request.
    It seemed to me to be very credible that she was doing this to provide a story line….nothing more, nothing less. Perhaps Ms. Palin’s time in the sun is done……Move on little lady……..move on.


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