Obama Supporter Regrets Her Abortion

Many people are beginning to question their pro-choice positions.  In fact, with new medical technology, even people who identify as Democrats are becoming more pro-life.  Over on The Homeschool Chronicles, Tara Edelschick describes herself as “a feminist who is against the death penalty, voted for Ralph Nader every time that was an option, and supported Obama in each of the last two elections.”  In fact, she doesn’t call herself pro-life. But here’s part of a blog post she wrote about an abortion she had in college…  and how her Christianity gave her  a change of heart on the matter:

I wrote yesterday that I had an abortion in college, so you might wonder if I came to my anti-choice stance because of the horrors of abortion that I experienced first hand.  But that’s not how I experienced it.  I have heard and read the stories of many women who have had abortions, women who were physically, emotionally and/or spiritually traumatized by the experience.  Their anti-choice position was borne from their experience.  Mine wasn’t.

I didn’t experience the abortion as traumatic.  Perhaps you think I should have.  Maybe you think I’m cold, or emotionally cut off from the horror of what I did.  And perhaps you are right.  But that simply wasn’t my experience.  I was nineteen and I didn’t want to be pregnant.  I had no sense that the decision was anyone but my own.  I had no desire to be a mother at that point, didn’t want to disappoint my parents, and didn’t want to take a semester off to have a baby and give it up for adoption.  So I had an abortion.  I missed a day of class, went home, had dinner, went to bed, and got up the next day like nothing happened.  And I never had another moment’s regret about it.  That’s my story.

Years later, though, I found myself weeping.  Not because I missed my baby.  I didn’t.  And not because I felt bad that I had robbed a child of life or a family of a child to adopt.  I didn’t.  I was weeping because I felt for the first time the deep selfishness that controlled my life.  I had been a Christian for two years, and was in my room praying, when out of nowhere I felt a deep sense of remorse.  I was aware, for the first time, that I had never once asked God what he might have wanted of that child.  I had never once considered that my body was not mine to do with as I pleased.  That the zygote/fetus/baby (call it what you will) living and growing inside my body might not be mine to dispose of as I chose was utterly shocking.  I was weeping because I became aware for the first time that my life had a claim on it, a claim I had not acknowledged.

It’s as though I realized that I had killed not my child, because the truth is that I felt no connection to that child, but God’s child – and I had a deep connection to God.  What if I had stolen one of God’s children?  How would I feel if I had accidentally run over and killed a friend’s child?  Of course I would feel sad about the child who died.  But I would also feel awful that I taken my friend’s baby away.  How would I feel if I had gotten drunk and hit a pregnant woman while driving my car, after which she miscarried?  That’s how I felt about having killed God’s baby.

Now that might sound like sentimental crap to you.  Especially if you don’t believe in God.  Or if your understanding of God is less personal than mine.  But that experience started me down a path that led me to decide that, in general, women should not be able to choose to end their pregnancies.

Read her entire article here.

It’s crazy (and a little sad) how her feelings about abortion didn’t stop her from supporting the most pro-abortion President in history.  But, I’m thrilled people of all political persuasions are coming to see the value of life.

Thanks, Tara, for sharing your thoughts and experiences!

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  • Sharon

    Thank you for sharing. I am praying that many others will also realize what abortion is.

  • Liz

    I have never thought of abortion that way. I always only thought of it as robbing the life of a child. Thanks for sharing, truly amazing article.

  • Ishamael

    Where are your statistics that more Democrats are becoming pro-life? Do you really just want to come on here and make up anything you like and expect people to believe it? Of course the brain dead conservatives will but the rest of us having thinking, critical minds.

    • Paul

      http://www.gallup.com/poll/118399/more-americans-pro-life-than-pro-choice-first-time.aspx

      Here you go, and this is from Gallup – not exactly a conservative push-poll group by any means.

      • MiddleRoader

        The article you cited above states, “The percentage of Republicans (including independents who lean Republican) calling themselves “pro-life” rose by 10 points over the past year, from 60% to 70%, while there has been essentially no change in the views of Democrats and Democratic leaners.” But I would argue that unless you’re a political operative, who cares? My party affiliation doesn’t dictate all of my political and moral views. Being a Democrat doesn’t necessarily mean you’re pro-choice, and being Republican doesn’t necessarily mean you’re pro-life. As an example, I found this post interesting: http://www.patheos.com/blogs/faithfuldemocrats/2012/09/if-you-are-truly-pro-life-youd-vote-democrat/

    • melory

      You need to do some real critical thinking like your fellow Democrat in this article. Up to now the only solution your “critical mind” could come up with is to declare the unborn baby non-human in order to justify taking his/her life. Actually, some sick liberal lunatic came up with that solution, and brain dead liberals just accepted it without questioning, while hating those who dare to differ.

      We can respect differences of opinion, but if your opinion is that it is a mother’s right to murder an innocent baby if she so chooses – don’t expect sane people to respect that.

      More people are starting to believe that those who claim that liberalism is a mental disorder are right.

      • MiddleRoader

        So you respect differences of opinion as long as they don’t come from liberals?

        • melory

          No. Read what I said. I don’t respect your opinion if that opinion is that it is ok to murder defenseless babies in the womb. If you really are deceived into thinking it is not a human life, I pray your eyes will be opened as happened with the girl in this article.

          But judging by their own words, many liberals know it is a human life and still is of the opinion that the mother can take that life if she so chooses. That is evil. If you support that kind of evil, it is your choice, just don’t demand respect for that kind of choice.

          • melory

            Hitler also thought he could decide who lives and who dies – I hope I am not expected to respect his opinion.

          • MiddleRoader

            No need to bring Hitler into it. Of course you shouldn’t respect his opinion. But where we disagree is that I don’t believe a young fetus is a human life. I believe it gradually develops into a baby. I have not been deceived into this position. I respect your opposing view.

        • melory

          So you choose to ignore what science says about the beginning of human life?

          “The science of embryology tells us that human beings develop rapidly after fertilization of the egg. In fact, since the heart of the fetus begins to beat by 24 days, virtually all abortions (other than “emergency contraception”) stop a beating heart. In fact, since most abortion occur between 4-6 weeks, they also destroy a functioning brain. Even modern embryology textbooks agree that human life begins at conception.”

          “Medical science already refers to a spontaneous heart rhythm and the presence of brain waves to determine whether someone is alive at the other spectrum of human existence. In simplistic terms, if an organ donor is in an automobile accident and is on life support in a hospital, the physician cannot “pull the plug” and donate the patient’s organs to others unless the patient is “brain dead” and his heart is not beating on its own. If the medical community maintained consistency with this generally-accepted medical definition of human life, then we would condemn every abortion after the time when the average woman discovers she is pregnant. Every abortion, by the generally-accepted standards of medical science, aborts an innocent human life.”

        • melory

          I can understand how some may be offended when Hitler is brought into the discussion, but Hitler serves as a reminder as to what happen when we humans decide not all human life is equal.

          My last post on the matter. I leave you with a thought-provoking post from Rat’s Right:

          “So, how does Williams reconcile her belief that a fetus is indeed a human life with having no conscience about ending that life? How did Hitler justify it? How did George Orwell justify it? Simple. All life is not equal:

          “Here’s the complicated reality in which we live: All life is not equal. That’s a difficult thing for liberals like me to talk about, lest we wind up looking like death-panel-loving, kill-your-grandma-and-your-precious-baby storm troopers.

          Yet a fetus can be a human life without having the same rights as the woman in whose body it resides. She’s the boss. Her life and what is right for her circumstances and her health should automatically trump the rights of the non-autonomous entity inside of her. Always.”

          So, let me get this straight, Mary Elizabeth: You’re saying that based on one’s residence, he or she might not have the same rights as his or her host, correct? Kinda like the slaves in the Old South or the Jews in WWII Germany, right? Got it.”
          http://mikesright.wordpress.com/2013/01/31/abortion-advocate-so-what-if-abortion-ends-life/

  • Joanne Mayo

    I had an abortion while a Christian, and while with my then boyfriend, who is now my husband. The sorrow I felt was deep and immense but as I prayed for forgiveness, I felt His presence and healing. There is no excuse for what I did, I’m an example of Gods’s unfathomable grace. That was many years ago, and I don’t flash this around like a neon sign, but I will share and pray for others when given the opportunity.

  • Tara Edelschick

    Hi Bristol,
    Thanks for sharing my piece. I appreciate the support.
    Since you mentioned it at the end, I thought I’d share a tiny bit of my perspective on how I can support a pro-choice candidate. It may not be convincing, but it might help you understand my thinking.

    I don’t think abortion is a battle we can win legally. There are plenty of times when legal measures are the only solution to evil. But I think that even if we end up overturning Roe v Wade, we are still going to have thousands of abortions every year, both legal and illegal. This is because overturning Roe v. Wade would only turn the decision back to the states, and nearly all of the states will keep it legal. And women will cross state lines to have abortions banned in their own states. We have to win the moral argument with our friends and neighbors. My friend and conservative legal scholar wrote a piece before his death that influenced me in this regard. You can check it out here: https://www.law.upenn.edu/blogs/dskeel/archives/2008/04/prohibition_and_abortionstuntz.html

    I have other reasons that I think that many Democratic policies are more likely to lower the abortion rate than Republican policies, but this is the primary one.

    What do you think, Bristol? Does that make sense? Even without agreeing with me, I hope it sheds some light on why some anti-choice people may end up staying in Democratic party.

    Blessings, Tara

    • MiddleRoader

      Tara, I know your post was addressed to Brstol, but I just thought I’d throw in my two cents as well. I know it’s easy for me to say, since I’m (moderately) pro-choice, but even if I weren’t, I wouldn’t cast my Presidential vote based on either candidate’s view on abortion. I agree with with you that as it stands now, it’s a state’s issue. The President can tinker on the edges, and possibly appoint Supreme Court judges sympathetic to whichever side, but he can’t sign an Executive Order outlawing abortion. As my screen name indicates, I’m all about trying to find common ground in all political area, but in abortion it’s really hard. I even struggle to find a compromise in my head. I don’t think a woman should make the decision lightly, but in the end it is her decision. The closest I can get to common ground is to work together so that fewer women need to make that decision.

  • MiddleRoader

    Tara’s article was very thought-provoking, although it’s a bit unfortunate that Bristol put such a political spin on it by saying it’s crazy and sad that in spite of her abortion beliefs, Tara supported Obama. The President can’t directly outlaw abortion. But leaving that aside—Tara, like me, is somewhat conflicted and nuanced. In her article she says, “I understand that there are times when an abortion may in fact be permitted by a loving God, and I don’t come by my anti-choice position lightly.” She came to her decision based on her faith: “…I had never once asked God what he might have wanted of that child.” There is nothing wrong with that, but I don’t think that is a valid legal/Constitutional reason against abortion (and Tara may agree: Responding to comments on her article, she says, “So I am torn about legislating abortion” and “I would like to note that I never mentioned anything about making abortion illegal. I have very mixed feelings about that.”) I do too. But I do have an issue with her statement, “I do believe that there is no ontological difference between a five-month-old fetus and a five-month-old child. I always believed that, as do most of the people I know who are pro-choice.” ( I admit, I had to look up ontological- it has to do with the nature of being.) And while I can’t speak for all pro-choice folks, for me that is the crux of the matter. I’m not sure about a five-month fetus, which is why I believe late-term abortions should be illegal, but a five-day fetus, to me, is definitely not the same as an infant. But like Tara, I don’t like the pro-life/pro-choice labels. I may be pro-choice, but it’s a lousy choice. The goal for both sides should be, through education, abstinence, birth control, and self-control, to not get to the point where a woman has to make that difficult choice.

  • Julia

    It’s crazy (and a little sad) that you can’t understand why someone could be personally against abortion, yet still be in favor of a progressive tax code, equal pay for women, affordable health care for all and a serious stance on climate change. Really Bristol, laws are not the best weapons in your crusade against abortion, anyway. I’m sure this woman understands that, as it was her heart that was changed, not the law.

    • melory

      Bristol is right, it is sad, when Obama refused medical care for certain infants – and argued that they be left to die – cause it would be too much trouble to provide them medical care – don’t want to involve another doctor, etc. Also Obama worried about the issue of personhood – apparently the baby is not born a person, some liberal decide when a baby becomes a person – evil.

      It is possible that some liberals don’t really know Obama’s words and record on the matter, so I can understand that they still support him. But if they know and still support him – there is no excuse and it is indeed crazy and sad.

      Liberals who want to see for themselves, hear Obama in his own words on the Born Alive Act, can click on this link and get the facts. In the comment section of this article you will also find youtube links to more of Obama’s arguments during Born Alive Act discussions. If you really want to find out the truth, you will check them out.
      http://townhall.com/tipsheet/katiepavlich/2012/08/24/listen_barack_obama_calls_newborn_baby_a_fetus_outside_of_the_womb

  • David

    I think that the decision should be made by the woman – no one else – especially the Federal Government.
    —- When does life begin? Does life begin a conception? Or does life begin later?
    —- I have always heard/read that every Human has a Soul/Spirit, and when a person dies, their Soul/Spirit leaves their body…. I wonder … at what point does the Soul/Spirit enter a Baby’s body … is it after the Baby has developed to the point where the Baby could survive outside the Mother’s body … that would mean that there would be two (2) Souls/Spirits inside the Mother’s body at the same time … is that possible …. or …. does the Soul/Spirit enter the Baby’s body after the Baby is born – the Doctor slaps its behind and the Baby cries – taking its first breath on its own – “the breath of life”.
    —– I know – I’m probably “Opening a Can of Worms” (that is what someone told me years ago), but
    I am still curious about this subject.
    Bristol, if you delete this – I will understand.

  • Thomas Hubbard

    I wonder how many Democratic voters would remain being Dem.s if they new the History of the party and the hidden higharchy’s within it. As Alexander Hamilton stated to much Democracy will lead to a Monarchy and history has proven him to be correct. On the matter of abortion it should of never become a political issue with man wanting to play God, bottom line it is a Moral issue.

  • melory

    “Abortion is advocated only by persons who have themselves been born.”
    Ronald Reagan


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