1. So I thought this was really interesting —
More or less every week, a stranger informs me that I’m a “hero” for taking care of my kids while their mother, my wife, is at work making the money that we require to continue living in the manner to which we are accustomed.
Never in my life has anyone put the word “hero” anywhere near my name, and at first I was delighted that all these people were so impressed with me. Then I noticed that a lot of people also often referred to me baby-sitting my kids, too. The implication was that it was baby-sitting when I had the kids, but when Jen had them she was merely being a mother.
It goes without saying that when Jen was with the kids for her six months, no one ever stopped her in the grocery store to tell her she was a hero.
The author seems to think which parent stays home is just about economics, and I disagree with that. I think it is part of the equation, but not the entire picture. Men and women are unique, and each marriage will work differently with regard to what child-care and career choices the family makes. Economics will be a part of this decision, but it isn’t the sole concern, and sometimes isn’t even the primary concern. But otherwise, I thought this was very interesting, and really highlights that the mommy wars are really about the choices moms are making, and how no matter what we choose, in the eyes of others, it can be a lose/lose. I think we all need to stop caring so much about what other people think and start just doing what is best for our kids and our family.
(A)s a parent, it begins with me. I set the limits. The tooth fairy only brings a quarter. There is no adjustment for inflation. Your birthday cake will probably always come from the store, as will your Valentine’s cards for school…Your food won’t be all organic. Yes, I used formula. Walk to school. There is no second breakfast or special dinner for you. I don’t do grocery cart covers or antiseptic wipes. I don’t care if that kid took your toy, get it back yourself, that’s street justice. I don’t care if the neighbor sneezed on you, the flu happens. Time out occurs at anytime or anywhere, so be on alert. This is where we begin.
Brilliant! I’m not sure how I missed this back in May, but it was a very enjoyable read. Enjoy!