Since creating Building Cathedrals over 7 years ago, we have had several conversations about screen time. Each of our families has worked hard to find the balance that works best for our particular situations; our decisions have involved factors such as the ages and the personalities of our children, our own comfort levels with technology, sibling dynamics, housing situations, etc. Currently, my children are 10 (boy), 6 (girl), and 4 (girl), and our baby is due in September.
We have typically been comfortable letting our children watch certain videos or shows on PBS Kids, but decided a couple of years ago to stop our cable subscription. This decision was based mainly on two factors: our discomfort with some of the programming on “child-friendly” channels, and our unwillingness to pay extra for cable. While this has been a bummer for my husband because he can no longer watch many sporting events, and for me because I lost the Food Network and HGTV, it really has not been that big of a deal for us. It may be more of an issue in the future, and we regularly re-evaluate our decision, but that is where we currently stand. We do have a subscription to Netflix which allows us to access many shows instantly, and we also receive movies in the mail through Netflix, and from the local library.
In terms of the amount of TV that our kids watch, I would say that we are pretty normal. During the week, my older children sometimes watch 30 minutes of TV, and sometimes none, depending on after-school activities and homework. My youngest is home three days during the week, so she will usually watch about an hour during the day, but sometimes more or less. On days like today, when I had things that needed to be done at home, she had closer to two hours of screen time in total. During the hot Texas summer, when we are often stuck at home because of the oppressive heat, my children will watch closer to 1-2 hours of videos on days when they are not in camp. I imagine that the scenario is similar during the winter months in northern climates.
We have passwords on our TV, iPhones, and computers, so our children can only access these if we allow them to, and we do not own any other personal electronic devices at the moment. A few months ago, a co-worker generously gifted us her Wii, which is comical because my husband and I have spent years agonizing over whether to purchase a gaming system. Quite honestly, we have not used the Wii as often as I would have thought, but when we have it has been great fun. Watching the kids dance along to “Just Dance” is quite entertaining, and the sports games are fun, although frustrating for our 4 year-old. Our other two games are MarioKart and Mario, and really the only one able to enjoy these games at the moment is the 10 year-old.
Some of the downsides of the Wii: 1) Some of the games are frustrating for younger kids, who lack coordination and skill. 2) Some of the games can be addictive and/or mindless.
As with any parenting topic, we are continually re-evaluating our decisions regarding our children’s exposure to media and technology. My husband and I balance each other out quite well, and it is helpful for me to hear his perspective as a man. We have also found it necessary to adapt our rules to our changing family dynamics, while not compromising any of our core values. I would love to hear your thoughts!
Mary, Seat of Wisdom, pray for us!