Mom’s Night Out

Our fabulous cast of local Catholic mothers is discussing a regular Mom’s Night Out for the first time ever. Count me in! We have a regular playgroup, but as families grow, the adult:child ratio is increasingly not in our favor, so conversations have become choppy and unsatisfying. There are fewer natural social outlets for moms than ever: most neighborhood mothers are at work, and immediate family members live far away. With a large family, it’s hard to get out much to see friends, and when we do go for it, someone usually gets injured or has an accident within 10 minutes, making me question why we ever leave home.

Enter Mom’s Night Out.

What has worked for you and your local friends? In particular:

(1)    How frequently do you have nights out?

(2)    Where do you go? Do you meet in each other’s homes and take turns hosting? Blow it out at a karaoke bar, or get tipsy and hilarious at a craft brewery? A reading group at your parish? Dress up and have fancy desserts at a restaurant? Crafting at a local pottery or art studio? Coffee and shopping?

Different personalities like different things. The karaoke bar might do a shy mother in permanently and doesn’t leave much space for conversation, but it sounds fun! Frilly hats and fancy desserts might not thrill the party-loving extrovert. So, what’s the best way for hard-working moms to be refreshed by fellowship while also cutting loose a little and forgetting about the guilt and laundry and stomach viruses for a few hours? Please tell!

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  • Katrina

    Mom’s Night Out is a great idea, especially if you have a consistent group of friends that could meet once a month (or more!) to really build friendships. I have a group of good friends from church that started out as a summer Bible study group – we have since just become great friends and get together to celebrate birthdays, new babies, or just a moms’ night out. We probably get to see each other as a group once every one or two months. Usually, we find a fun restaurant and have dinner and dessert – this allows us to talk and enjoy each other’s company, as well as some good food.

  • Queen B

    What are the needs in your group? A group of my mom friends has recently set out to do the same thing. Our littles were getting too numerous for one of us to host all of us together (what a good problem to have, but overwhelming nonetheless). We had varying financial circumstances, personality types and time constraints. For us, splurging the time and money on a sitter during the morning so we could go to coffee by ourselves was the way to go, because scheduling in the evening was too much juggling with family obligations. I have loved the coffee mornings when we have been able to gather “just us moms” after Mass. I hope you are able to gather together too, JM! Cultivating friendship in this way isn’t just a luxury; it is an education, self-preservation and witness opportunity that is needs to be prioritized.

  • Anna W

    What a great idea! I have a large group of moms from my alma mater that all live in the same area and we started out going out for each person’s birthday (or monthly, if there were multiple birthdays) and then it became a monthly thing. As the kids have grown and become move involved in evening activities, it’s been cut to bi-monthly (or whenever someone really needs a night out and suggests it!). We send out a When Is Good? email (whenisgood.net is great for coordination!), then the “birthday girls” pick a restaurant and we do dinner, drinks, dessert. We usually plan it for about 7:30 so husbands can get home, baths done, etc. And, if money is tight and you don’t want to eat, you can get a drink or dessert. We all love it and look forward to our nights out! Good luck!

  • Lisa

    I’m in a moms book club and the format works beautifully. It’s always the 1st Wednesday of the month and it rotates to various moms’ homes. Start time is after the host’s kids go to bed – usually 8 or 8:30pm. You’re able to help out with nighttime routines and get your kids to bed and then go and enjoy a great evening with friends. Meetings tend to go late – midnight even. It’s a really nice night out, and having a standing night and time works well. I love that it’s late enough that my husband is almost always able to be home for it, and the “cost” is just a treat or drink to share. Have fun with your moms night out!

  • Katrina

    Anna, thanks for mentioning the When is Good website, that sounds like a great resource!

  • Mary Alice

    I love the idea of a mom’s morning out, because I am finding that with activities and homework, my older kids really need for me to be home in the evenings, but I would still love to get together with friends sometimes. I am also thinking of inviting a different friend to join me from time to time for a pedicure — that is my favorite spa activity, and I would rather spend the money on that then drinks or dessert out, and it is a great time to catch up and chat with someone.

  • J’

    Our parish mom’s group does a once a month mom’s night out in addition to our fellowship meeting and play dates. The MNO’s are always different; ‘wine and painting’, dinner at a nicer restaurant, going to see a musical, etc.. The variety lends to different personalities participating, and the frequency is just about right in that you can miss one without feeling like there isn’t going to be another opportunity soon. We have a coordinator that switches every once in awhile and that keeps us on track.


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