Marcus Aurelius argues that a moral wrongdoing done from desire is worse than one done from anger because it’s less “manly” to be mastered by pleasure than driven by anger (which he compares instead to a bodily convulsion). In this post I critically analyze his claim from numerous perspectives, from the Nietzschean to the feminist. [Read more…]
When you wake up in the morning say to yourself: There is a high likelihood that people will frustrate me today and, regardless of my best efforts to be thoughtful and cooperative, I will likely frustrate others as well. This is because no matter how good we are as people we will inevitably have differences of opinion, [Read More…]
This is the first of a series of posts I introduced last week wherein I will be critically reading Stoic writings that have bearing on ethics. In February 2016 I will also teach a one month long course on Stoic Ethics. Get more information here and write me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you want to sign up [Read More…]
My feelings towards the ancient Stoics have oscillated quite a bit over the years. I’ve never scoured their writings nor done scholarship on them but they’ve nonetheless had a big impact on me. In the immediate aftermath of my deconversion, during my years of peak Nietzsche enthusiasm, I reflexively sided with Nietzsche when he lobbed barbs at them, [Read More…]
Jonathan Dancy, the moral particularist who wrote Ethics without Principles, is the father of actor Hugh Dancy, who is married to the actress Claire Danes. This led to him getting to appear on The Late Late Show With Craig Ferguson: Your Thoughts? [Read more…]
In this article I explore the dynamics of the “friend zone” as it is typically described — involving heterosexual relationships where the man feels rejected as a romantic partner by the woman after a period of friendship. That being said, I personally know women and gay people who have experienced the same type of romantic rejection and unrequited love after developing a deep friendship with someone, so a lot of this analysis and advice is equally applicable to women and non-straight people. But I’m going to frame everything assuming a heterosexual narrative and focused on guys who feel “friend-zoned” because that’s where the controversies are typically focused.
This article has four main sections in case you want to read selectively.
The Heterosexual Friend Zoned Nice Guy Narrative
Humanizing Friend-Zoned Nice Guys
What’s Really Going Wrong For Friend-Zoned Nice Guys?
9 Tips For Staying Out of the Friend Zone and Finding Happiness Instead
Tonight I was on the the second half of tonight’s Atheist Analysis show, starting at the 57:15 mark of the video above, to talk about prospects for objective morality. I thought it went really well and I’m really grateful to the show’s hosts for giving me the latitude to make complex points and for asking [Read More…]
Michael Connell’s take on what Marcus Aurelius might be like as a stand up comedian cracks me up: For some of my own thinking that is either distinctly Stoic in character or in dialectical tension with Stoicism, check out any of these favorite posts of mine: How To Live Happily: Have No Expecations I Am [Read More…]
In a new Vanity Fair article, Jennifer Lawrence comments on how the recent release of her nude photos is a sex crime, how those viewing them without her permission are “perpetuating a sexual offense”, and how she has nothing to be ashamed of in taking the photos in the first place. I completely agree. She didn’t “deserve [Read More…]