“You Can’t Stop Teenagers From Having Sex”

Don’t say “You can’t stop teenagers from having sex”. It’s not true. You can stop some of them. (I held out! And I know plenty of others who did too.) You just can’t stop enough of them with abstinence-only stuff and you just shouldn’t AIM to stop all of them with repressive anti-sex messaging. And you shouldn’t send the message to teenagers that every teenager has sex. That just says “everyone is doing it”, which pressures them to do it and makes them feel bad about themselves when they can’t find a partner or don’t want one. [Read more...]

When All That Abstinence Fetishism Goes Too Far…

Did you hear about this young evangelical couple in Topeka?? Jon and Darla Crocker, who dutifully abstained from sex during their 14-month courtship, have remained abstinent after marriage and plan to do so indefinitely. “If it was holy before, it must be double-holy afterwards,” Darla says. They have now completed 25 months of marriage without [Read More...]

Talking About Gay Marriage and Prostitution on The Ashley F. Miller Show

Ashely F. Miller of the blog Ashley F. Miller hosted her inaugural episode of The Ashley F. Miller Show and Mavaddat Javid and I were her guests. First we speculated about the prospects for this week’s Supreme Court rulings on Proposition 8 and the Defense of Marriage Act. Then we talked about themes brought up in [Read More...]

Hot, Passionate, Rational Sex

I posted to Facebook what I thought was a very interesting article about consent that argued it should be about asking a sexual partner whether they want something so that they have the chance to say “yes” rather than only pushing their boundaries until they say “no”. The idea was to look at consent as [Read More...]

What Constitutes Cheating In Your Romantic Relationship?

Freethought Blogs’ newest blogger talks about the secret to figure out what counts as cheating in a relationship. [Read more...]

Study Finds That Free Birth Control Leads To Fewer Abortions

A question for Catholics: even if you think that it is less than ideal that people have sex that deliberately is not aimed at children, do you think that this supposed evil is actually so important an evil to prevent at all costs such that you would risk more abortions (which you think are murders) than permit it or at least accept public support for it? [Read more...]

The Problems With The Ways Evangelicals Celebrate Sex

Evangelicals are not as anti-sex as outsiders think. There is a lot of pro-sex messaging that one can find in evangelical communities. But the ways that evangelicals praise idealize sex are often as problematic as the ways they infamously demonize it. [Read more...]

Fifty Shades of Grey Related to the Ethics of Romanticizing Abusiveness for the Sake of Fantasy

According to Laci Green, the book Fifty Shades of Grey celebrates an abusive relationship rather than healthy BDSM practices. This raises many questions for me about the ethics of art that eroticizes literal abusiveness. Is it bad in itself to enjoy the idea of abusiveness? Is it bad only if it creates, contributes to, or reinforces unhealthy attitudes, whether in oneself or in one’s broader culture? Can we indulge our dark sides at all morally through roleplaying? Can we indulge them even more in art than even through roleplaying? I have lots of questions. I need Your Thoughts. [Read more...]

The Brothel Next Door

So, last night there were news trucks on my block as I arrived home. Turns out that a few doors down a woman was running a brothel. I had no idea. [Read more...]


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