Marcus Aurelius argues that a moral wrongdoing done from desire is worse than one done from anger because it’s less “manly” to be mastered by pleasure than driven by anger (which he compares instead to a bodily convulsion). In this post I critically analyze his claim from numerous perspectives, from the Nietzschean to the feminist. [Read more…]
In this article I explore the dynamics of the “friend zone” as it is typically described — involving heterosexual relationships where the man feels rejected as a romantic partner by the woman after a period of friendship. That being said, I personally know women and gay people who have experienced the same type of romantic rejection and unrequited love after developing a deep friendship with someone, so a lot of this analysis and advice is equally applicable to women and non-straight people. But I’m going to frame everything assuming a heterosexual narrative and focused on guys who feel “friend-zoned” because that’s where the controversies are typically focused.
This article has four main sections in case you want to read selectively.
The Heterosexual Friend Zoned Nice Guy Narrative
Humanizing Friend-Zoned Nice Guys
What’s Really Going Wrong For Friend-Zoned Nice Guys?
9 Tips For Staying Out of the Friend Zone and Finding Happiness Instead
Monday, I wrote a post on Sam Harris’s controversial remarks about women quoted in The Washington Post. Moments after I posted, I was alerted to Sam’s explanation of himself. In this post, I give my thoughts about his follow up post. I was recently interviewed onstage at George Washington University by Michelle Boorstein, a religion reporter for the Washington [Read More…]
Below is a guest post from Lance Wisely, an alumnus of my online philosophy classes, reprinted with permission from his blog Heretic With A Heart. Many videos feature gratuitious, problematic objectification, but the video for Wrecking Ball is willing to be incongruous and senseless to do so. The video opens. Miley is crying. This song is [Read More…]
An entrepreneurial engineer has designed a fantastic looking toy for creating a love of building in girls. [Read more…]
This is the fifth interview and seventh overall post of my blogathon for the Secular Student Alliance. Please support the cause of freethinking in high schools and colleges.See links to the many diverse conversations from the blogathon, updated throughout the day, at the blogathon conversation table of contents. Vyckie Garrison, single mom of 7 kids, [Read More…]