Philosophical Advice About The Friend Zone

In this article I explore the dynamics of the “friend zone” as it is typically described — involving heterosexual relationships where the man feels rejected as a romantic partner by the woman after a period of friendship. That being said, I personally know women and gay people who have experienced the same type of romantic rejection and unrequited love after developing a deep friendship with someone, so a lot of this analysis and advice is equally applicable to women and non-straight people. But I’m going to frame everything assuming a heterosexual narrative and focused on guys who feel “friend-zoned” because that’s where the controversies are typically focused.

This article has four main sections in case you want to read selectively.

The Heterosexual Friend Zoned Nice Guy Narrative
Humanizing Friend-Zoned Nice Guys
What’s Really Going Wrong For Friend-Zoned Nice Guys?
9 Tips For Staying Out of the Friend Zone and Finding Happiness Instead 
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How I Relate To People Socially

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RSA Animate Of Stephen Pinker, “Language As A Window Into Human Nature”

Fantastic, insightful, and intuitively correct stuff about why we bother to use innuendos and other forms of indirect language where the literal meaning of what we are saying is undisguisedly clear: Thanks to Shane. Your Thoughts? [Read more...]

The Meaning Of Life

Today I had the distinct pleasure of reconnecting with one of my closest friends and classmates from my college days for the first time in 6 years.  He’s a friend with whom I spent some of the most formative philosophical years of my life and who, as a result, I will always consider to be [Read More...]

The Complicated Relationship Of An Apostate To His Religious Friends And His Reilgious Past

In reply to this post from the other day and subsequent discussion in the comments section about the ways that religious belie can interfere with both reason and love, George writes, For the past year I have been trolling blogs and websites trying to wrap my brain around religion in general and evolution denial in [Read More...]


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