Philosophical Advice About The Friend Zone

In this article I explore the dynamics of the “friend zone” as it is typically described — involving heterosexual relationships where the man feels rejected as a romantic partner by the woman after a period of friendship. That being said, I personally know women and gay people who have experienced the same type of romantic rejection and unrequited love after developing a deep friendship with someone, so a lot of this analysis and advice is equally applicable to women and non-straight people. But I’m going to frame everything assuming a heterosexual narrative and focused on guys who feel “friend-zoned” because that’s where the controversies are typically focused.

This article has four main sections in case you want to read selectively.

The Heterosexual Friend Zoned Nice Guy Narrative
Humanizing Friend-Zoned Nice Guys
What’s Really Going Wrong For Friend-Zoned Nice Guys?
9 Tips For Staying Out of the Friend Zone and Finding Happiness Instead 
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Philosophical Advice For Someone Losing That Loving Feeling

A reader in his first successful love relationship is worried because the spark feels like it’s gone. [Read more...]

Of Nihilists Mourning Their Christian Soul Mates

I think I’ve hit on an ideal analogy for explaining a core reason why I, following Nietzsche before me, reject nihilism about meaning, values, truth, purpose, and love.

This is going to be a key go-to post for me from now on both for explaining my views when asked about nihilism in general or specifically about how atheists can have meaning, value, purpose, truth, and love. [Read more...]

Christian Patriarchy and Emotional Incest

Libby Anne has a fascinating and troubling series on emotional incest and how Christian patriarchy actively cultivates it. The whole thing is must read. Here are a few key selections: [Read more...]

Is Belief In Love Like Belief In God?

Roger Friedland finds an interesting correlation between the two kinds of belief and examines its possible causes and implications: We found that belief in God has no impact on young people’s sex lives. College virgins are no more likely to believe in God than non-virgins. Even those who took a virginity pledge are not sexually [Read More...]


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