Bursting out of the broom closet!

I have been actively “out of the broom closet” with many of my friends and neighbors for about a year now. It happened in small ways — a question about which church my kids would be going through to do their first communions (“Well, we aren’t exactly Catholic….” (much of our area is).

Or there was the time that my (then) 7 year old explained to her teacher (the other students, the teacher’s aid…) how her mommy is a witch.

For the most part, all of my neighbors know what I’m about. And it isn’t that I’m hiding it. I wear shirts that say “Neighborhood Witch” (looks like a “neighborhood watch” sign, given to me by a neighbor!), just plain “Witch”, “I might be a witch, wanna try me?”. People think they are clever ways to say I’m bitchy. No one ever asks.

And that’s what it comes down to. People don’t ask about religion that much, so I have no reason to explain it to them. Who, no matter what religion, introduces themselves as “Hi! I’m Kris! I’m a Pagan!/Catholic!/Jew!/Buddhist!”? That’s right, no one. So most people don’t know. If they asked, I would be happy to tell them. If they had questions, I’d be happy to answer.

And I’m thinking now that there might be questions on the way. See, one of the things that inspired this blog is an article that came out in the Star Ledger, NJ’s most read newspaper. You can read it here. Basically, it’s an article about Beltane, and how paganism is becoming increasingly more “out”. I loved that the paper had a pagan themed article that was not Halloween based. So I wrote them a letter of praise. And today, it was printed in the editorial page, with my full name and town. I would guess that the majority of the people in my area either subscribe or pick up this paper. Who knows how many actually read the opinion page. But it’s there for all to see.

And, not to sound full of myself, there are many, many people who know my name and town in the area. The youth group I lead was in several newspapers lately for their work creating the gardens I talked about in a previous post. I have worked with the city council on various activities. I accepted an award on behalf of my group at a recent city council meeting. My kids go to three different schools, and I’m pretty active in two of them (the third is in high school and would be mortified!). I’m certainly not, on any level, a “big name” in town, but my name is fairly recognizable in certain groups.

So now it is what it is. People will either see it or they won’t. They will either recognize the name, or they won’t. They will be appalled or not suprised, or both! I am, I admit, a bit freaked out. There is always that fear that this could bring negativity with it. That someone will keep their kid away from mine because of this. That some crazy could come burn a cross in my yard. It’s not unheard of, that’s for sure. But we shall see.

I couldn’t find the editorials on line from the paper, but I here’s a copy of what I wrote to the paper:

I was so pleased to see your article “Going back to nature worship.” How refreshing to see a positive article on paganism instead of a stereotypical October “Let’s meet a real witch!” fluff piece.

As a practicing pagan, it’s wonderful to see how the pagan culture is starting to “come out of the broom closet” and take it’s place with more mainstream religions. As you mention, many pagans are environmentalists. We are also your PTO moms, youth group leaders, lawyers, firemen, clerks, policemen, reporters and soldiers. There are estimated to be as many pagans in the United States as there are firemen, paid and volunteer. You probably know one or two, even if they haven’t “come out” to you.

It is finally time for pagans to take back their image. We are not devil worshipers (the devil is a Christian belief that many pagans don’t accept). We don’t sacrifice babies or pets. Life to us is sacred, as are death, deity and this earth.

Thank you for helping to show the pagan community in a positive light. Let’s hope that it won’t be the last article you do on the subject.

Comments

  1. Nydia says:

    I just read their article. It’s a good surprise indeed to see a serious article on a non-pagan paper. And also read your response to them: I’d sign under your name.I’d live my life as usual, If I were you, and wouldn’t think about the impact of your name being openly out of the closet. That’s what I do, and I agree that no one goes saying to which religion they’re part of. This is something so personal, but still so delicate. Here in Rio my son’s teacher knows I’m a witch and she respects it. Thankfuly it’s a school with kids raised under different religions, so they respect the Constitution. I’m not sure how it will be in the near future, as he grows up, but I am very firm on my rights, and he knows about it. My friends and family knows about myself too, and life goes on ok, although my family still makes some “jokes” about it – it’s a long story. I’m planning to print the correct things about Wicca for them for good. The fact is that this is too intimate to be imposed, and I love my path, so… :) Kisses again. Thanks for your sweet words on my bech ritual post!

  2. im so notorious in my little town that if I said I was actually an alien they wouldn’t bat an eye..there are still some christians that blanch and gasp when I tell them I’m a pagan…they do a lot of chest grasping and hand to the mouth..but then you can see them thinking..’wait, this is jackie, why am I so surprised.’…but every now and then some good soul will grab my arm and ask me if I’ve found Jesus, and you can see all the people around me madly shaking their head, going’no no..don’t ask her that question’….and I just act shocked and say.’shit!…is he lost again?…I didn’t know it was my turn to watch him, should I send out the Texas Rangers and have them hunt him down?…’ by then the woman has passed out from shock and every one else is grinning from ear to ear..that’ll teach them…haha

  3. Dragonstar says:

    We used to be very “out” until we moved into this town in a very Catholic country. Two of our boys have ladies, and one is from a very Catholic family (granny is terrified that the girl might marry a protestant!) Don’t want to rock their boat.

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