Some marriages are unsustainable. That’s obvious.
However, even in justifiable cases, a price is paid. And the failure to marry at all, especially when young children are involved, often incurs serious costs:
This is a principal justification for government policy that solid favors marriage. And it’s a principal reason why tinkering with the institution of marriage — an institution far older and far more basic than any modern law, including the Constitution of the United States — and even redefining it, ought to be approached with humility and extreme caution.
At the least, such matters deserve open and honest discussion. Bumper-sticker slogans, caricatures, and straw men don’t help much. Not really.