Not So Nice: on the subject of tone policing

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 When I am ruthlessly mocking my husband, his usual playful response is “that’s not nice.” To which, I reply, “The last thing I would ever want to be known for is being nice.” There is a little truth behind that statement. Sure, I want to be compassionate and empathetic. But, being nice has always struck me as false politeness for the sake of being liked. If I have to choose, I would always prefer authenticity over just being nice.My husband would never foolishly demand my niceness i … [Read more...]

The Dance of Power: navigating privilege and marginalization.

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 Being a Black Wiccan Woman navigating mostly White spaces has fostered interesting experiences in privilege and power. Those terms are not easily understood even when you are facing multiple oppressions or have taken many diversity classes. In my experience, diversity trainings rarely prepare anyone for the real world of privilege, relative privilege and intersectionality. People who can afford the time and/or money for trainings are usually operating in similar spheres of class … [Read more...]

Call for Writers– Bringing Race to the Table: An Exploration of Racism in the Pagan Community

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Very excited to announce this new writing opportunity to the community. This book will expand beyond the personal stories of the Shades of Faith series and into the voices of the community (not just Pagans of color) and into the realm of the academic. Please spread the word, pass it along, and consider writing for this incredible anthology in the making!  Call for Writers– Bringing Race to the Table: An Exploration of Racism in the Pagan Communit  Email f … [Read more...]

Being an Ally versus Being a Nice Person

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I recently had a conversation where a friend asked whether or not it was important for people to speak up when they witness someone saying something ignorant or derogatory about a group of which they (the witness) are not a member. I stated that I believe that it is very important because when we are speaking on our own behalf, we also have to contend with possbile feelings of hurt and anger and pain at the burden of the entire issue. Another woman participating in that conversation took … [Read more...]


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