Porn and the Bible

Last night, I was watching the History Channel miniseries, “The Bible”, which retold the epic story of King David. He was a great and mighty king who got tripped up by an ancient version of pornography which led to lust which led to adultery which led to murder and ultimately led to chaos in his life. I believe that there is much we can learn from his story about the importance of protecting our purity and our marriages.

The story from the Bible is found in 1 Samuel where King David goes looking someplace he never should have been looking…

“One evening David got up from his bed and walked around on the roof of the palace. From the roof he saw a woman bathing. The woman was very beautiful, and David sent someone to find out about her. The man said, “She is Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam and the wife of Uriah the Hittite.” Then David sent messengers to get her. She came to him, and he slept with her.” 1 Samuel 11:2-4

Adultery never starts in the bedroom; it always starts in the mind.

Porn is a daily struggle for millions (if not billions) of men around the world. God wired us up to be visual creatures and with the pervasiveness and availability of pornography on the internet, many men have fallen into a destructive cycle, but God wants to set you free. Sin always leads to more sin and more destruction until it is stopped. If you’re one of the many who are caught up in Porn, please know a few important Biblical principles.

1. Porn is sin.

Jesus said in Matthew Chapter 5 that “…to even look lustfully at a woman you’ve already committed adultery with her in your heart.” Call it what it is. It’s sin. It’s wrong. It’s destructive.

2. Freedom starts with Confession.

“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sings and purify us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1:9…Confess to God for forgiveness and confess to a trusted friend (or your wife if you’re married) for accountability. You don’t need to fight this battle alone!

3. You can be Free!

The Bible says, “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free so don’t let yourself be enslaved by sin anymore.” Do whatever you have to do to live in that freedom. It might mean drastic steps like cutting off your internet or putting in an internet filter. Do whatever you have to do to live in the sweet freedom Jesus died to give you!

Final Note: There are great Christian resources available for anyone struggling with porn at http://www.XXXChurch.com

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  • Crystal Grier

    Very good information

  • manuel hurd

    Im so glad I found you guys on fb… You guys are helping with my marraige… And now this.. This is something I struggle with… I jus ask you keep me in prayer. I wanna run from it and I do try its jus hard sometimes. Thx

  • no name

    its not just men that struggle there are women that struggle too. btw this is a amazing article

  • Rodney

    I lost my wife (ex-wife now) because of my addiction to pornography. She is a very beautiful woman, whom I loved (and still love) very much. I am living proof of how destructive pornography is to your own life – physically, mentally, and spiritually – not to mention your marriage. It kills a marriage because the wife thinks that she has to live up to an unrealistic standard of how a wife is “supposed” to look, as well as how she is “supposed” to act in the bedroom, which eats at her self-esteem. It gives the husband unrealistic expectations of how his wife is “supposed” to look and act. He starts to believe that his wife should look and act like the women he sees. It kills a marriage because trust and honesty is lost. The husband has to act deceitfully, hiding and lying to prevent his wife from finding out about his activities. This is what ultimately killed my marriage. It became easier to lie about it each time, which made it easier to lie about other things. It hardens the conscience. It hardens the heart. Pornography warps the mind into believing that it “needs” more and more and more to achieve the same effect. It truly is an addiction. It destroys the self-esteem of the man, too. He starts to believe that he worthless. He lives in constant shame. He begins to live in constant fear, always needing to be on guard to cover his tracks so as to not get caught. It prevented me from being able to function in normal life situations. I would withdraw from my wife, especially when she refused sex, but also out of fear and shame. My addiction had physical manifestations. Sometimes, I would not shower for days or eat very little. I would sleep less to be online more. My addiction also had obvious spiritual manifestations – I ultimately stopped going to church, again out of fear and shame. I can say that I have finally been able to overcome this addiction through the strength that only God can provide. Nevertheless, I have lost the woman that I love. I lose time with our son that I will never be able to get back. I regret the day that I ever got started. I would encourage anyone to get counseling, prayer, and support if they are currently struggling with pornography, especially if married. I wish that I had when it could have made more of a difference.

  • I also have realized the issue I have. I cant believe It is the point where I may have lost the part of my life that means the most to me. I an truly sorry for the pain I have caused to the beautiful woman that I love as well as to the my kids. It is a addiction in which I need help. I know this now more than ever. if people read my comment, please understand the most important step is knowing and understanding that standing by will do nothing. If not take care of, it will ruin every part of your life, especially the parts that you cant live without.

  • gina

    I am in your ex wife shoes and it kills me inside everyday
    but I stay with my husband because I love him but truth is I wish
    that he’d stop with his pictures movies & etc.
    I wish he’d see how badly it hurts me

  • April Carico

    Pornagraphy can be an addiction, just like alcohol or shopping, if you let it warp your expectations for your spouse or eat up all your time and focus. But there is nothing wrong with getting turned on by a sexy picture or video. This can lead to very hot and intimate time with your spouse! The bible has to be considered and interpreted carefully- I really am sure that lusting after something is the same as actual consummation! If that were true, everyone would be doomed in God’s eyes. I’m sure God understands that we are sexual creatures and as long as it is not destroying our relationships, occasional viewing of porn is not harmful, destructive, or a sin. But when you feel like you have to lie or hide, consider why. Could you not share your desires with your spouse? This would bring you closer. Sex is normal and healthy part of a marriage. Just don’t let it alienate your spouse from you, instead of letting it drive a wedge between you.

    P.S. I absolutely love all your articles on marriage! This one did not seem as factually accurate as most of your work in my own opinion, but I still love you guys. Keep up the excellent work! You are helping so many relationships. Thank you guys:)