Duke Porn Star Student Still Fighting Back

The young Duke University student who has been savaged for doing porn to pay for college is still being defiant and fighting back against the appalling behavior toward her. In a new XOJane article she reveals the name she uses in porn and her picture, then delivers a blistering rebuke to the assholes mistreating her.

I didn’t expect today to happen.

My decision to do porn to pay for college was a private one I made, and then I was outed to my university classmates by another Duke student who had seen me on the Internet a few months ago. After promising me he would respect my privacy, he proceeded to reveal who I was to the entire Greek system, which is when all of this controversy first began. I started to be harassed. He started to be applauded.

Isn’t that always the way? The porn performer is to be shamed. The porn consumer is to be celebrated.

Yep, that’s how it is. Tens of millions of people watch and enjoy porn, almost certainly including all those frat boys tormenting her, but she’s a horrible person and they’re fine, upstanding pillars of the community.

In my own personal life, I am devastated to reveal that many of those closest to me have unleashed similar cruelty. Many have simply shut me out. Some of my best and oldest friends have told me that I deserve anything negative or horrible that comes my way — and that terrible things are what I have brought upon myself when I decided to do porn.

To this I would ask: What about the people who consume porn?…

Do you really think you are better than us? Perhaps ask your husband or boyfriend or son or brother (or your wife or girlfriend or daughter or sister) if they have ever watched porn. Do they also deserve bad things and terrifying threats against their safety? No? Then look at the double standard you are employing. Look at the hate you are so comfortable inflicting upon the performers but not on the consumers who drive the industry’s success and profitability.

You can bet that every single one of the assholes abusing this girl would, if they met a male porn star, by high-fiving them for being studs. But she’s a whore and a slut. Same old bullshit double standard. Here’s some of what she’s facing:

You should slit your wrists and die, you stupid bitch

We are going to throw garbage at her every fucking day!!! let’s do it GREEK FRAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The school should either expel her, or we will take matters into our own hands and make this fuck up suffer. cheers!

FUCK YOU!!!! IF I SEE U WALKING ON CAMPUS I WILL KICK YOU IN THE FACE!

And of course, when she called the police to report these threats they just blew them off. If this is being done by Duke students, the university needs to investigate and start handing out expulsions. They are the ones bringing shame to the university, not her.

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  • StevoR : Free West Papua, free Tibet, let the Chagossians return!

    Tens of millions of people watch and enjoy porn, almost certainly including all those frat boys tormenting her, but she’s a horrible person and they’re fine, upstanding pillars of the community.

    .. Who send death threats and cyber bully and behave in the most hypocritical, ungrateful, cruel and generally fucked up manner imaginable towards a brave young woman who has done them no harm and committed no crime.

    Good on this young Duke University student – more power to her and less (none ideally!) to her haters.

    when she called the police to report these threats they just blew them off.

    Are they really able to ignore death threats and threats of harm so easily? Don’t they have a duty and a legal responsibility to act here? (Not a lawyer but seems obvious.)

    If this is being done by Duke students, the university needs to investigate and start handing out expulsions. They are the ones bringing shame to the university, not her.

    I second both those sentences.

  • http://www.ranum.com Marcus Ranum

    Are they really able to ignore death threats and threats of harm so easily?

    Of course. Cops are part of the good ole boy network. They’d probably cheerfully arrest her and give her a strip search, but protect her? :(

    The university’s administration should be ashamed for not stepping in with a zero tolerance policy.

  • countryboy

    To cite Fark, Duke sucks. Apparently the local cops do too.

  • garnetstar

    I read that Duke has done an investigation of her behavior! And determined that she’s done nothing to warrant expulsion or sanction from the university,

    That’s the first response: expel her. Because her presence, unlike those of bullies, stalkers, and porn consumers sullies the university.

    It’s too bad for them that, by working at a legal job, she’s done nothing worthy of expulsion. And, I wonder if it’s occurred to them that, since they’re charging students $60,000 a year, many students will need to work to pay their fees?

  • raven

    It’s a free country. And it is no one’s business but hers.

    I’d like to think that this wouldn’t happen on the west coast. Duke has a history of this sort of thing. But I don’t know that for sure these days.

    In my university back in the dark ages, we had two Playboy center foldout Playmates as well as their photographers doing montages of the local area colleges. No one cared!!! Someone might have but I never heard of it. They were minor celebrities and famous for 15 minutes if that.

  • raven

    since they’re charging students $60,000 a year, many students will need to work to pay their fees?

    Oh Cthulhu, is that what they are charging these days?

    My state heavily subsidized U. had tuition at $800 the first year. And I know it provided a better education than Duke, judging at least by the few Duke graduates I’ve run into.

    $60,000 a year This is obscene!!! It is a crime against young people!!!

  • pocketnerd

    Tens of millions of people watch and enjoy porn

    More likely hundreds of millions. Possibly billions. The annual gross of porn is estimated at somewhere between 12 and 14 billion — and that only counts porn labeled as porn, not plausible-deniability T&A films like Girls Gone Wild and the stuff you find on late-night Skinemax. And the hardcore smut goblins with several shelves crammed with pr0nz (and organized alphabetically by fetish) are actually a small part of the market; most of the industry’s revenue comes from sporadic consumers.

    Let anyone among you who has never watched a spank flick be the first to throw a stone at her…

  • http://timgueguen.blogspot.com timgueguen

    It’s strange how just about every other aspect of human activity can be done for money without rancor. But do sex, or anything related to sex, for money and out come the clubs and knives.

  • eric

    Back in the days, Duke was my first choice. Didn’t get in. Very glad about it now.

  • http://www.facebook.com/den.wilson d.c.wilson

    What basis would they have to expel her? Unless she filmed porn on campus or in some way identified herself as a Duke student, nothing she did could impact the university’s image,

  • magistramarla

    The first thing that struck me about this is that the real crime here is that tuition is so high that any undergraduate student has to work full-time at any job to pay for an education.

    The “job” of any undergraduate student should be to concentrate on his/her studies.

    I sadly watched my son give up his GI bill benefits for much the same reason.

    In order to receive those benefits, he had to maintain a full-time student status.

    However, that money barely covered tuition, not the many other fees and expenses of college.

    He had to work full-time, and his grades suffered. When he was offered a great job in another city without the college degree, he went for it. He makes an excellent living now, but we are upset that he came so close, but never finished that degree.

  • matty1

    @11 Would it be possible for him to finish the course on a part time basis once he has enough savings? It sounds a disgraceful situation and that your son deserves a chance to show if he can earn that degree.

  • Gvlgeologist, FCD

    Many years ago, I went to an Ivy League school as an undergraduate. The year after I finished (I think), Playboy did a “Women of the Ivy League”, and just about everyone was delighted. There was also a Girls of the ACC in 2004 (http://www.scanof.net/view_news.php?head=4969) [warning, NSFW]. I wonder if these young women were harassed in the same way.

    The other issue, as garnetstar and raven mention, is the absurd costs. My family had very little $$ for me to go to an expensive private school, but I have to say that Penn was very generous with financial aid, and gave it on need-based criteria. Actually cost my family less than if I had gone to my state school. I constantly hear how much harder it is now for students to afford college. Teaching at both state university and at community college level here in Florida, most of my students HAVE to work to afford it.

  • Rick Pikul

    @pocketnerd

    and that only counts porn labeled as porn, not plausible-deniability T&A films

    It also doesn’t count the massive amount of free porn that can be had with very little effort.

  • http://www.pandasthumb.org Area Man

    You can bet that every single one of the assholes abusing this girl would, if they met a male porn star, by high-fiving them for being studs.

    Unless he were gay…

    I’m not so sure that this is a double-standard sex thing as much as it is an elitist thing. You’re a Duke student, you’re in a frat, and you probably think you’re the future king of the world. If some slut can equal your accomplishments and pay her way by doing something that you and your dudebros would do for free… well then just how special are you really?

  • David C Brayton

    The first thing I thought when I heard about this story was “Oh my god, She’s gonna get raped. Or worse.” Those comments did not surprise me at all. It is a terrible state of affairs and I don’t see it changing in my lifetime.

  • gopiballava

    The double standards about sex are amazing.

    I had a guy telling stories about sleeping around. Then, he seamlessly segued into complaining about women who sleep around. I gave him a confused look, had him confirm to me that he was single, and said that, personally, I wouldn’t be looking down upon women who were willing to sleep with me. In fact, I would positive *encourage* the idea that it was good for women to sleep around with people like me.

    I did see a glimmer of comprehension in his eyes, but I don’t know if he was ready to change his attitudes.

    If you’re an un-married guy, you really shouldn’t be critical of women who have pre-marital sex unless you want to be celibate.

  • http://www.facebook.com/KacyRay kacyray

    The guy who outed her, Thomas Bagley, is apparently a member of the adult site “Facial Abuse”.

    The owner of that site, Mike Kulich, was good enough to ensure everyone knew about it, too.

    An outing for an outing. Sounds like justice to me. And the open letter that Kulich wrote to Bagley was priceless.

  • http://www.facebook.com/KacyRay kacyray

    Apparently Bagley is remorseful.

    “She told me that I ruined her life. As much as it was her decision to go into the profession, it was her decision who to tell. I certainly would take it back. I would take pretty much that whole night back,”

    I don’t know. Sounds like a case of forced empathy… as in “I’m sorry I did this to you since now I’m having to go through it too.”.

  • http://www.rodlamkey.net reverendrodney

    How will the guy who outed her, Thomas Bagley, explain to his parents his being a member of the “Facial Abuse” porn site except to say that he intends to follow in Newt Gingrich’s footsteps? He broke a promise to a woman and he’s into, um, well, we all know what Newt likes.

  • http://accidental-historian.typepad.com/accidental-historian/ Geds

    gopiballava @17: If you’re an un-married guy, you really shouldn’t be critical of women who have pre-marital sex unless you want to be celibate.

    Hey, I’m an unmarried guy who is celibate. I’m all for anyone and everyone having sex whenever, with whomever, and wherever they please (with reasonable restrictions put on that last category, of course). My whole thing is, “Just leave me out of it, thanks.”

  • pocketnerd

    Thus Spake Zaragopiballava:

    If you’re an un-married guy, you really shouldn’t be critical of women who have pre-marital sex unless you want to be celibate.

    I find it darkly amusing to watch people in the “manosphere” tying themselves in knots when they insist both of these premises are true:

    (1) Women withhold sex from guys because they’re big meanies and use their monopoly on sex to control society. Being “incel” (MRA-speak for “involuntarily celibate,” e.g. “not getting as much sex as I think the world owes me”) is a terrible injustice, so women should have sex with every man who ever glances at them. Because evolution. And sexual market value. Or something.

    (2) Women are far too promiscuous with far too many men, and should be more chaste. Because evolution. And sexual market value. Or something.

    In other words, each and every woman is both too slutty and not slutty enough, and she deserves to be punished for it both ways.

  • slavdude

    Gvlgeologist, FCD @13:

    Yeah, I remember that. The issue came out my freshman year at Brown, which was also recovering from a small scandal involving some women students running an escort service–to help pay their tuition bills, which were much less then than they are now for the same stuff.