BBC Host: Men Only Rape Because Women Get Them Wound Up

A BBC radio show host named Nick Conrad has stepped in it big time by arguing that rape only happens because women get men so worked up into a sexual frenzy that they simply can’t stop themselves because they’ve been “whipped up into a bit of a storm.”

“I think women need to be more aware of a man’s sexual desire that when you’re in that position that you are about to engage in sexual activity there’s a huge amount of energy in the male body, there’s a huge amount of will and intent, and it’s very difficult for many men to say no when they are whipped up into a bit of a storm,” Conrad said during the Monday broadcast.

“It’s the old adage about if you yank a dog’s tail then don’t be surprised when it bites you,” he added.

Conrad argued that feminists had “hijacked” the discussion about rape, and that they had neglected “that very important part of the argument.”

“In their fury against men and masculinity they actually forget to stop and say if you tease, if you jump into bed naked with a man, if you give him all the signals and then he acts upon them, then you are partially responsible,” he said.

“If you don’t wish to give out the wrong signals it’s best probably to keep your knickers on and not get into bed with him.”

Right. Because that’s how rape usually happens, amirite? Not only is this spectacularly wrong and sexist, it’s quite insulting to men. I would suggest that if Conrad really believes this, no woman should ever date him. The BBC has done precisely nothing about it.

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  • Sastra

    So women only “tease” when they coolly and deliberately jump naked into bed with a man and then proceed to give him “all the signals” including, presumably, consent?

    Good to know. This will resolve a lot. Thanks, Nick.

  • John Pieret

    The next step, of course to to insist that women wear burkas so that the sight of an ankle or a woman’s hair won’t raise any man’s sexual desire to the point he can’t help raping her.

    I thought better of the BBC.

  • marcus

    Yeah, because we’re just bags of testosterone with no conscious will of our own. That certainly describes me, just one big insistent out-of-control penis with something almost human attached.

  • http://en.uncyclopedia.co/wiki/User:Modusoperandi Modusoperandi

    To be fair, slut shaming sounds much classier with a British accent.

  • LightningRose

    If anyone is interested, this butt ugly asshole’s email address is:

    conrad@bbc.co.uk

  • Abby Normal

    I find it much more difficult to resist the huge amount of will and intent to beat the ever-loving crap out of a misogynistic asshat spewing pro-rape apologetics than I ever had resisting the urge to fuck someone against their will. If I ever do snap and put someone like Conrad in the hospital I hope I’ll at least have the strength of character to admit I am solely responsible.

  • bushrat

    Her mouth said No, but her eyes and all those other signals said Yes, Judge. Besides she really turned me on when she was trying to push me away andpleading for me too stop. You know she shouldn’t have been talking tome if she didn’t want to whip me into a sexual frenzy, that’s like blood in the water right there.

    Innocent!

  • scienceavenger

    But, but, but, I thought it wasn’t rape unless it happens between strangers in the dark of night with the rapist beating the shit out of his victim. Now he’s saying it starts with the woman getting naked.

    It’s all so confusing.

  • http://mostlyrational.net tacitus

    I thought better of the BBC.

    Conrad is just a local radio show host, not a major national figure. I doubt more than a few hundred people heard his comments live — only one person actually complained to the BBC before the local press got hold of it.

    Not defending anything he said, nor the BBC’s response so far (they have reprimanded him, and it’s not over yet, since OFCOM may investigate), but it’s hardly the same as, say, a major CNN anchor doing something similar.

  • eric

    if you jump into bed naked with a man, if you give him all the signals and then he acts upon them, then you are partially responsible,” he said.

    So, Nick, if you get into bed naked with a woman, give her all the signals, and then she pins you on your stomach and shoves a broomstck up your anus, you are partially responsible, right?

  • http://en.uncyclopedia.co/wiki/User:Modusoperandi Modusoperandi

    eric “So, Nick, if you get into bed naked with a woman, give her all the signals, and then she pins you on your stomach and shoves a broomstck up your anus, you are partially responsible, right?”

    The worst part is afterwards, when you can’t stop dusting everywhere you go. Still, it’s a good excuse to pull up the carpet and bring back those hardwood floors.

  • http://cycleninja.blogspot.com cycleninja

    The BBC has done precisely nothing about it.

    That is unbearably discouraging.

  • http://drx.typepad.com Dr X

    So you can’t really blame a guy he needs to sprinkle a hypnotic into a woman’s Jell-O shot. Or maybe if I guy is riled up, he should just take the drug himself?

  • beezlebubby

    So, it’s okay to rape someone just because you’re all het up? Jesus, what an asshole.

  • cptdoom

    He basically, except for the naked and in bed part, just described the rape scene in “The Accused” starring Jodie Foster. Her character is suggestively dancing and flirting with one man, and when he tries to go further, she resists, first gently and then more forcefully, but he refuses to respect her wishes and it turns into a gang rape. It’s one of the most horrifying scenes ever put on film, and it is fascinating to me to see people’s different reactions of when the actual rape begins. However, I’ve never met anyone who believes the character deserves what she got because she’s “fired the men up.”

    Basically what this doofus is saying is that women, at some point, lose the right to say “no.” But how can that be? What kind of lover, even assuming the woman was a willing participant up to some point, ignores her is she says to stop or something is wrong? It’s sick.

  • http://dontlinkmebro F [i’m not here, i’m gone]

    Sexual Frenzy: The one and only emotion men apparently cannot control with their iron will.

  • forestdragon

    Interesting, since I’ve read some accounts by convicted rapists who clearly said that they went hunting for victims – no ‘sexual frenzy’ bullshit there.

  • Jackie the social justice WIZZARD!!!

    I wonder how many women wound him up to the point he had to rape them?

    Has anyone asked him? He seems convinced that happens all the time and isn’t wrong. He assures us that men can’t help it, yadda, yadda. He’s a man. How many times has some bad ‘ol woman not given him the sex he feels she owes him, so he just took it because that’s what he believes men do?

    Don’t tell me that saying rape is A-OK doesn’t make this man a rapist. I know it doesn’t. But, when men start talking about how all men do it and women have it coming, I assume they are rapists. If he talks like a sexual predator, he’s most likely a sexual predator.

  • teawithbertrand

    “quite insulting to men,”

    Yes. As a man, I’m insulted. Also disgusted and outraged. And ashamed to share a gender with this prick. It seems to me I’ve often heard this “men rape because they lose control of themselves” bullshit argument from many in the party of “personal responsibility”.

    @11

    MO, this is why I always mention you when recommending Ed’s blog to people.

  • http://en.uncyclopedia.co/wiki/User:Modusoperandi Modusoperandi

    teawithbertrand “@11 O, this is why I always mention you when recommending Ed’s blog to people.”

    Small world. I do the same with you. I’m all “Hey, you see that guy? Look out for that guy.”, which is mostly on account of your deplorable habit of touching all the sandwiches at the craft services table before taking the one you want. You know you’re going to take the turkey and mustard on white. We know you’re going to take the turkey and mustard on white. Stop leafing through all the other sandwiches and just take the turkey and mustard on white already.

  • gog

    @teawithbertrand

    For right-wingers, responsibility for an injustice always travels away from the source of the injustice.

  • John Pieret

    tacitus @ 9:

    Not defending anything he said, nor the BBC’s response so far (they have reprimanded him, and it’s not over yet, since OFCOM may investigate), but it’s hardly the same as, say, a major CNN anchor doing something similar.

    That makes me feel somewhat better about the BBC. As to CNN, much less Faux News, my expectations are so low that whatever disgusting behavior of their anchors or the network response simply can’t be classified as disappointment.

  • mickll

    So-what Nick is basically saying is that men are just rabid dogs with no sense, empathy or self control.

    Er, cheers Nick!

  • Crimson Clupeidae

    Let’s hope this asswipe never goes into a strip club….

  • matty1

    To give a bit of context, he was trying to defend Ched Evans a convicted rapist who on his release was allowed to return to training at the football club he used to play for and was apparently on the verge of getting his job back.

    The idea that a man should be rewarded for rape with a well paid job where he would be seen as a role model by young boys caused outrage, resignations among the wealthy club patrons and even a threat by one of the sponsors to pull out and the pressure worked.

    http://www.bbc.co.uk/sport/0/football/30054475