Rios: Christians Must Prepare for ‘Martyrdom’ Over Gay Marriage

Sandy Rios of the American Family Association told an audience of Christian right followers that if the Supreme Court overturns state laws against same-sex marriage, they will have to prepare for “martyrdom.” Because something something CROSS-DRESSING MEN WILL INVADE OUR BATHROOMS! BE AFRAID!

“Homosexual marriage is going to bring about the tip of the spear of the battle we’re going to face,” Rios said Thursday to a gathering of religious right activists and pastors.

Right Wing Watch reported that Rios warned participants that “your wives, your sisters, your children who now are going to be forced to go into public restrooms and share them with men dressed like women.”…

She warned that Christians would be faced with a choice as soon as next month if the Supreme Court struck down laws banning same-sex marriage.

“If they do, every single person in this room is going to be forced to make a choice, and I’m just telling you: Even if you don’t want to engage in this battle, you will and your people will, and you’d better stand,” Rios warned.

She told the Christian activists to “stop playing it safe,” telling them the Bible encouraged bold action.

“You must prepare for martyrdom,” Rios said. “I don’t know what it’s going to look like, but it’s coming.”

It’s tempting to say, as I have in the past, that these people just crave persecution. But the truth is actually the opposite. They don’t crave persecution, they crave the perception of persecution. They want to think they’re being persecuted, to pretend to be persecuted, without actually being persecuted. That’s the best kind of persecution, the kind that doesn’t actually exist, because it allows you to claim some kind of moral authority without any actual suffering.

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  • johnwoodford

    I think it was Fred Clark who pointed out that these are people who want to claim that they’re in the Defining Struggle for This Generation, and that they’re losing, so they can cheat and not feel badly about it.

  • Sastra

    This bizarre concern about homosexuals or transgendered going into the bathrooms of the genders they identify with doesn’t even make sense from their own warped perspective. If they’re worried that someone will leer suggestively at them or a loved one while they’re going potty or whatever, wouldn’t this help to solve that “problem?”

    Or do they think heterosexual men will now decide to wear dresses and go into the women’s bathroom just on the chance they might glimpse something? Makes me wonder what stage of mental development they’re stuck in.

  • http://www.thelosersleague.com theschwa

    I cannot wait. I have been stockpiling about 2 dozen or so Crucifixion-Ready (TM) crosses so that I can do my part in the persecution that will be declared once the SCOTUS rules for them wicked gays! Sure, my heteosexual marriage will dissolve as a matter of law, but it will be worth it to to take my anger out on God (who I know is real, but deny) on those Christians!!

  • John Pieret

    Sastra:

    Or do they think heterosexual men will now decide to wear dresses and go into the women’s bathroom just on the chance they might glimpse something?

    Yeah, they really believe it or, perhaps more accurately, they believe their target audience can be made to believe it.

    Makes me wonder what stage of mental development they’re stuck in.

    Fear. Every thing is changing … they are losing their privileged place where they could just say “that’s against God’s law” and society would back down and let them have their way. Of course, society has been changing as long as there has been a society and people have been reacting with fear to the changes just as long. But there has also always been an imaginary “golden age” when everything was right. When that changes they react with fear.

  • Larry

    “I don’t know what it’s going to look like

    I do. It’s going to look exactly like it does today.

  • http://onhandcomments.blogspot.com/ left0ver1under

    Considering the history of those with similar ideology to Rios (e.g. Randall Terry and Scott Roeder) the only way such people are going to be “martyrs” is if they get the death penalty after murdering gay people, which what they seem intent on inciting. Again, anti-abortionists make a good analogy, since it was they who incited the murder of doctors.

  • http://en.uncyclopedia.co/wiki/User:Modusoperandi Modusoperandi

    To be fair, men going in to the women’s washroom will be pretty bad. The secret will be out then. Not that secret, but the secret that ladypoops don’t smell like roses.

  • samgardner

    Or do they think heterosexual men will now decide to wear dresses and go into the women’s bathroom just on the chance they might glimpse something?

    I suspect you need to throw out any kind of rationality when considering what these people are afraid of.

    So, I’m guessing their feat it’s that homosexual men will go into the women’s bathrooms to prey on girls. That gay men aren’t attracted to women isn’t something that they can wrap their heads around. For them, gay men are essentially deviant monsters.

    I’m speculating really. I’ve never been a part of their culture, so this is just based on what they put out there.

    It must be horrible being one of the Christian right.

  • ZugTheMegasaurus

    I like how all of this handwringing and worrying about the poor wimmins in the scary bathroom is never, ever, ever directed toward women themselves. It’s always “your wives, your sisters, your children.” The really fucked-up part about it is what it implies about the men who are the intended listeners: they will hear that straight men are devious perverts who will pounce on the first possible opportunity to victimize women, AND THAT SOUNDS TOTALLY REASONABLE TO THEM. Me, I hear horrible slander of those men, but I’m a angry manhating feminazi, so what do I know?

  • marcus

    MO @ 7 You must think that we’ll believe anything!

  • noahsarkive

    Rios warned participants that “your wives, your sisters, your children who now are going to be forced to go into public restrooms and share them with men dressed like women.”…

    One of Ed’s many talents is decifering head-far-far-up-your-ass wingnut speech.

    Good luck with the above. I read it a couple times and still have no idea what the fuck Rios is talking about.

    Can someone explain?

  • http://en.uncyclopedia.co/wiki/User:Modusoperandi Modusoperandi

    noahsarkive, the Romans martyred Christians by forcing them to hear a man pinch one off in the stall beside them, due to all the gay marriage.

  • eric

    I liked Jessica Williams’ take on it on the Daily Show last week. Won’t somebody please think of all the women who use men’s rooms when the line for the women’s room gets intolerably long? You might want to consider who the “most likely offenders” are going to be before you make it a felony to use an opposite-gender marked washroom.

  • lofgren

    “You must prepare for martyrdom,” Rios said. “I don’t know what it’s going to look like, but it’s coming.”

    “Oh, not me, of course. I’m far too important. But the rest of you should probably be prepared to be martyred.”

  • sugarfrosted

    TBH Gendered bathrooms are a dumb idea anyway. Especially the single occupant ones.

  • http://en.uncyclopedia.co/wiki/User:Modusoperandi Modusoperandi

    sugarfrosted “TBH Gendered bathrooms are a dumb idea anyway. Especially the single occupant ones.”

    Ungendered ones sometimes don’t have a urinal, which is you want men to use when you don’t want pee on the seat. Plus women’s ones sometimes have a baby changing table, which confuses me as they always come out with the same baby they went in with. I’ve even seen “family bathrooms” which I can only conclude lead to sizeable psychiatric bills in the kids’ future.

  • http://www.facebook.com/eo.raptor.3 eoraptor

    Samgardner @8.

    Actually, I think you’ve got it backwards. They talk about the delicate wimmenz, but what they are really afraid of is a homosexual man coming into the men’s room and leering at them. Oh, and that the straight guys will like it. I don’t mean that as a reference to closeted gays; I mean they fear that deep down inside, they’ve got a little of the gays, and they can’t stand the idea that a gay person might cause that little nugget of locked-away fear to… um… erupt.

  • scienceavenger

    @11 I read it a couple times and still have no idea what the fuck Rios is talking about..”

    It’s pretty clear once you remember a few premises in the way people like Rios see the world and bathroom ettiquette:

    1) All this newfangled gender identity talk is about behavior, not orientation or attraction.

    2) Everyone, deep down, is heterosexual

    3) Those with a potential sexual attraction should not share a bathroom.

    So to her, anyone with a penis who enters the ladies room is breaking the rules, regardless of that persons sexual identity. He’s a man, he’s going to want women sexually, end of story. This is additional humorous to me given that the one argument I’ve seen from the anti-gay crowd that actually does have some merit is that homosexual men shouldn’t share the bathroom with other men (violating rule #3 above, to which many people still adhere). But of course she can screw up even that and instead focuses on the female-gendered/male-bodied person in the ladies room, which only reveals her ignorance of our rainbow of sexualities.

    The answer to all this hullabaloo is of course to recognize that the premises behind our gender-segregated bathroom system were false, and to simply have one bathroom for everyone, with private areas for people who are more comfortable with them. But I doubt the Rios’ of the world would be able to do that without their 18th century mnds exploding.

  • lorn

    Sastra @2:

    “If they’re worried that someone will leer suggestively at them or a loved one while they’re going potty or whatever, wouldn’t this help to solve that “problem?””

    In my opinion the problem has never been about a heterosexual guy getting leered at by homosexuals. The driving emotional content is the fear that the heterosexual guy might respond sexually and take the gay guy up on his implied offer. The fear is that they will enter a bathroom straight and an upstanding member of society and they were emerge arm in arm with a boyfriend on their way to pick out drapes. The fact that gays are no more likely to be on the prowl than straights , or that relationships and sexuality really don’t work that way, has no bearing.

  • lofgren

    I think trying to figure out the precise cause of their discomfort is probably fruitless. It is all of these things and none of them simultaneously. It’s enough to know that gay and trans people are icky and less-than-human. Any attempt to treat those people decently by our society must be opposed at all costs.

  • David Eriksen

    I wonder how Sandy would feel knowing that the main bathroom in Baghdad ER was unisex. Sure, it took a little getting used to but I don’t think there were any problems aside from the smell (couldn’t flush paper products, urinal just went to a drain in the floor). Sure it was gross but we all got to be gross together in a unified miasma of eye-watering scents.

  • Lady Mondegreen

    Plus women’s ones sometimes have a baby changing table, which confuses me as they always come out with the same baby they went in with.

    I just peed myself laughing. Where’s the Ladies’ Room?

  • magistramarla

    LOL – I have been experiencing unisex bathrooms in Italy. The first one that we encountered was in Venice. I was washing my hands when a very handsome young black man walked up to the sink next to mine, smiled at me and said “Bonjourno”.

    I smiled back, wished him a good day, took my husband’s hand and walked out of the restroom. There really doesn’t seem to be as much body-consciousness here in Italy. I’ve found that easy to get used to, but I’m sure that many Americans would freak out.