Karva Chauth – A Modern View On The Ancient Ritual

As I sit facing my PC, my henaed fingers are striking on the key board making my pink coloured glass bangles jingle sweetly. My pink chiffon saree with floral embroidery, slides off my left arm, as I loosen the strap of my high heeled sandals to concentrate on this post of mine. It is Karva Chauth, the festival hugely glamorised and popularized by Bollywood. So I am in my traditional best, sharing the customs and rituals associated with it.I don't hesitate to say that I am, well ehmm (!!), a … [Read more...]

ABP Ananda Utsav 2010, Pasadena, USA: A perspective

There is something about Bengali cultural programs in the US. They are my dad’s way of remembering good times of yester years, not mine. There is something else too. The organizers of such events, though young at age, are still under the notion that it takes 3 months to reach India by ship from the US so one would do this maybe once in a lifetime. You would want to know why!You see, the elements of such events are mostly a borrowed concept from the age when people would be able to hear a m … [Read more...]

Man, Woman and the Marriages in Indian context

Recently, I have seen a spate of failed marriages in India and amongst Indians abroad. The traditional framework of marriage is under stress and that is visible in how easily and regularly the separations and divorces are happening. Even in cases where the marriage is intact, there may be interest of a spouse outside his/her marriage. Why is this happening?When one looks at the situation, it is fairly obvious that the reasons seem very common. The lady feels she wants more freedom and more … [Read more...]

The Chai Story

My day begins with a cup of tea; well actually it begins with the ritual of fixing that perfect cuppa. Out come the tea set and the tea-cosy. Boiling water is poured over tea leaves and allowed to soak in the tea pot to bring out the flavour, not a minute more, not a minute less. Not too milky, a dash of sugar and the perfect brew is ready.For the husband and me, it is almost like an initiation of the long day ahead. Sipping our tea, we pore over the newspapers (we read three of them), have … [Read more...]

Why Are YOU In Your Marriage?

Indian Marriages, all over the world, are seen with so much awe. Moreover, the rituals and ceremonies as shown in movies which are further popularized by celebrities have all created such a hype around Indian marriages.Indian marriages are like the perfect case studies, which are taught and sold throughout the world. People project marriages as something like a scratch-proof, metallic flower vase. Beautiful, complete, unshakable, unbreakable and always so alive as the flowers in it. Its … [Read more...]

Live In Relationships – An Indian Woman’s Perspective

In the last few years, education for the girl child was widely promoted by social and religious groups and also Indian government, in terms of financial assistance, and the result is there in front of our eyes. A whole generation of confident, English speaking, trousers clad women are India's active workforce - in traditional and not so traditional roles like DJ, RJ, film direction, event management, call centre executives, stewardesses, even petrol pump assistants etc. Although, this amounts … [Read more...]

Bhaai

The first thing I asked when I saw him was, Maa, is bhai a boy or a girl? I was disappointed that he didn’t look like a doll I was expecting. He was thin, gangly and cried all the time.Even though he was my long-awaited sibling, I just couldn’t get myself to love him. In one stroke, he had taken away all the attention from me. All of a sudden, my Maa and Baba were just not mine anymore. I was expected to share their love – God, I so resented it.He was a bright naughty baby, hopelessly attac … [Read more...]

Raavana Is In My Soul

I wrote this some time back :Its Dussehra or call it Vijaya Dashmi. The same story is going to repeat itself once again this year too. I had been reading it since my school days - Burai par Achchai ki jeet ka tyohaar - victory of goodness over evil.The jubilant crowds gathering at local parks to watch the three brothers go up in flames, the same burning of effigies and lots of fireworks. The fatal arrow aimed towards Ravana will burst him to pieces, yet another time.This time, I am sad. I … [Read more...]


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