When in Doubt, Blame the Parents: Do Parents Cause ADHD?–UPDATED (AGAIN)

There's an article circulating from Psychology Today about Why French Kids Don't have ADHD by Marilyn Wedge, Ph.D. With a few exceptions, the "share" comes with a comment like "Americans always want the quick fix" or "Parents should learn to say no."  I agree with both of those statements in general. The problem is that neither of them really follow from the evidence presented in the article.Dr. Wedge asks the question: "Is ADHD a biological-neurological disorder? Surprisingly, the answer t … [Read more...]

New From Korrektiv Records!

Well, here's something fun:Through the wonders of modern technology, I have been able to collaborate (in a very small way) with author/songwriter Matthew Lickona, and a few very talented musicians to sing back-up vocals on the first song release from the Korrektiv Records Album, "Good Country People." “Play Me” – the first single from the musical collective Good Country People.Vocals: Mary Ann CarrBackup vocals: Betty DuffyMusic: Bill WilsonWords: Matthew Lick … [Read more...]

Making Friends, Loving Enemies

*It was thirty degrees at the soccer fields on Saturday morning, and after a couple of hours in the wind, I retreated to the car to wait out the end of the games. I was parked next to an extended passenger van, with three or four kids in it, who had removed their shoes and were doing flips over the seats. They were presided over by a short, freckled fifth grader, whom I've seen around town, occasionally with his mother or father and several siblings. I've often thought I should make friends … [Read more...]

The Best of Both Mothers

With my parents out of town, I went to the farm to feed the animals. I brought my homeschooler's supplies and my laptop so that we could all get some work done while the four-year-old played outside. There are a hundred acres of woods and fields, a little creek, and some trails. My oldest fed the chicks, let the dogs out to run and threw some hay to the cows and horses, then sat down to do school. I too sat down to discern my next move. Pray? Write? Do a quick little check of what's going on in … [Read more...]

Overcoming Insecurity in Marriage

A reader asks: You wrote in chapter 4 of the book Style Sex and Substance: "I hung my life on my husband's fidelity, but I knew he would go to work and see prettier, more outgoing women than I."  This is exactly my case!  I stay at home with my two young children while my husband travels for work.On top of that, my husband told me he is attracted to a woman he works with.  I was very glad that he felt he could share that with me.  But at the same time, it made my fear take hold of me, and I … [Read more...]

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The Soul of Good Manners

At times, it feels like it's the only conversation the world wants to have with a mother: You have how many children? And are you done? It's what your doctor wants to know, and your dental hygienist, and your hairdresser, and your check-out person.On my post from last week titled The Repulsive Truth, Maureen commented: "I’ve also been blessed with four and have responded with a bland, “You never know,” when asked the dreaded question by a stranger or acquaintance. I’d really love it if w … [Read more...]