I have no comment on the election

I'm glad it's over, and hope and pray that the barking dogs will stop barking very soon.In its aftermath, I'm left with an overwhelming desire to go on a pilgrimage.I want to see beautiful things. Not just see them, actually, I want to eat, breathe, and drink in beauty. And by beauty, I don't just mean good pasta and ice-cream, or a lovely slice of peach in the evening sun. I mean something that's been touched by grace--a drop of God's blood on the steps he walked to Calvary, a fiber … [Read more...]

The Grace of Subordination


*Before bedtime, I make rounds to find out where all of my children have landed. They have a distinct bedtime, but there's still a lot of shifting that occurs once the lights are out. I've found children bundled up in a nest in the closet, lying horizontally across a shelf with the linens, crouched down in the narrow space between the wall and their beds, and occasionally, nestled up with each other.How do they do this? I always wonder at the seeming effortlessness with which they sleep, … [Read more...]

Indecency: In the eye of the beholder?

My extended family is half Catholic, half Protestant. When the Catholics get together, there are numerous children and babies. As a consequence, there's a lot of breastfeeding going on. A couple of the women have mastered the art of breastfeeding with one arm while walking around the kitchen preparing food. Others prefer to sit around talking, often with the men, while nursing a child. We're discrete about it--not exposing more than necessary to get the job done, but most of us have lost … [Read more...]

How to like women

In conferences, my daughter's third grade teacher mentioned that the girls in her classroom have developed a small kingdom with hierarchy and ranks that cause distractions in class. She laid out the structure for me like this:Queen Bee--rules the roost Sidekick--supports her Banker--controls the currency--keeps track of information, gossip and tattle tales Floaters--move among the different groups Wannabes--strive to the upper tiers through negative immitation and the … [Read more...]

Joining the Conversation on Faith

Well, here we go. A fresh start. Many of you may know my old blog, Betty Duffy. I've loved it long, but over the past year or so, Elizabeth Scalia's offer to let me blog here at Patheos has become more and more attractive. Having a personal blog on which to post one's thoughts and ramblings is very cathartic, but after four or so years, it seemed I had said everything I wanted to say there. I had expressed all my opinions. I had made some good friends. I had documented several years of family … [Read more...]