A Kindness

I hadn’t been to Adoration in a long time. Since we moved and have to drive long distances to get there, and since I have a lot of kids, I’ve let the habit slip. Last week, my mom had a couple of my kids in town, so I covered her Holy Hour with my two oldest and the baby.I knew the baby would be all over the place, but assumed we’d be the only ones in the Chapel, and it wouldn’t be a problem. I did not expect the problems to arise from my boys, who are old enough to know that it’s inappropr … [Read more...]

Quick and Dirty

I've been reading War and Peace for most of the Spring, and finally finished it this week. It was worth it, though I had to take breaks from it periodically when things were moving too slowly, then I'd cheat on it with something quick and dirty that I could finish in a few days. It's made for a very fun summer so far. The quick and dirty list: Jeffrey Eugenides, The Marriage Plot, which had fun literary themes with college students trying to impress each other, a … [Read more...]

A Paradoxical Feminism: Tolstoy on Marriage

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From the First Epilogue of War and Peace:  "Natasha had married in the early spring of 1813, and in 1820 already had three daughters, besides a son for whom she had longed and whom she was now nursing. She had grown stouter and broader, so that it was difficult to recognize the slim lively Natasha of former days in this robust motherly woman. Her features were more defined and had a calm, soft and serene expression. In her face there was none of the ever-glowing animation that had … [Read more...]

Divesting Myself of Fifty Percent of My Belongings

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So Betty, How is that plan to give away fifty percent of your belongings going?Well, it's going. I  have given away the equivalent of one kitchen garbage bag per week in items that are not actually garbage. This week so far I have a stack that includes seven issues of Poetry magazine, a children's melody harp without strings, six or seven clothing items, and a bunch of my daughter's shoes that no longer fit (including a pair of Real! Wooden! Shoes! from Holland). My husband would say that … [Read more...]

Lest ye lead anyone into sin…

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It's summer time. People are wearing fewer clothes, and the modesty debates have begun. Skirts vs. shorts for keeping cool, and what about bikinis? I say, fine, let them wear bikinis, let them wear whatever they want, as long as they pair them with some of these:Pervert deflecting hairy stockings, Ladies, because we wouldn't want to lead anyone into sin. … [Read more...]

Lucky Ducks

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It's June. I've been on vacation, and my sister has been in town, the kids are all out of school, and I have no idea what's going on in the world. Except for this:I read Simcha Fisher's announcement of an upcoming big announcement last night and went to bed feeling like a loser because I thought for sure she was going to tell us she signed a book contract with FSG or got her life story optioned for a sitcom, and I thought, "I don't know if I can stand to know her good news, because it … [Read more...]

Don’t Swim Alone

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It's that time of year again, when everyone shares the article about how drowning doesn't look like drowning.It's true.A couple years ago, my son and I almost drowned together on the first day of our summer vacation. Below is the post I wrote about it on my old blog. I'd also add the warning that there should always be more than one adult on the beach. I'll never take the kids swimming alone again.   There's something conspiratorial about packing a … [Read more...]


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