Blending Your StepFamily: The Differences Between Helping and Enabling Irresponsible Stepchildren

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[display_podcast] Each of us should continue to learn to love each other as Christ has loved us.  And, I can’t think of a better place to learn how to really love than in a stepfamily.  It’s a daily choice to choose to love others as God has loved us.  It’s a growing process but that process begins with wanting to please God by loving the ones He has sent us.  And that always begins with our family whether it’s blended or not.  You and I both chose to marry our spouses and we knew they had kids. … [Read more...]

Blending Your Family: Know When to Seek Help! – Helping Children Cope with Divorce, part 2

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[display_podcast] Children’s response to going through the divorce is as varied as the kids themselves.  Some have a very hard time with it while others seem to take it in stride.  My son, who was four at the time of our divorce, took it quite well.  He never showed signs of anger and seemed quite content.  In fact, as an adult, he has remarked how he felt it was for the best and never regretted the divorce.  He saw his dad and dad’s family often and everyone loved on him, I am grateful that he … [Read more...]

Blending Your StepFamily: Helping Your Child Cope With Divorce – Your Recovery Counts, Too!

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[display_podcast] If you have ever flown, you know the emergency instruction to parents traveling with children is to first put the oxygen mask on yourself so you can then put it on your child.  You won’t be much good to them if you pass out from lack of oxygen.  You must take care of you so you can then take care of them.  So it is with coping with divorce.  You must take care of yourself so that you can be there for them. Your own recovery is vital to your children.  If you can be calm and em … [Read more...]

Blending Your StepFamily 57: Premarital Expectations

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[display_podcast] We all have them. In first marriages when you add children after the marriage, it’s natural to work out your roles, who does what and when. But it’s a different story in blended families where you have two separate households that may have been operating quite differently from one another. What are your expectations for the new household? You each have them and you better talk about them. The man may want a mom for his kids and he may expect her to do all of the cooking, cle … [Read more...]

Reflections of Grace 89: Life Purpose Coaching 26: Sugar Coated Anger


[display_podcast] Sometimes our communication and conflict management patterns can be out of whack.   This can be for a variety of reasons based on our background and learned behavior.  Those patterns can change with some insights, skills and relationship help. You have to want it to change.  It is always about a choice, isn’t it? So, if this post helps you see your own passive-aggressive behaviors, you will understand why others find it difficult to be around you, trust you, and respect you … [Read more...]

Blending Your StepFamily: Healthy Perspectives Lead to Healthy Families

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[display_podcast] From Pam Rohr, author of Blended but not Broken - Hope and Encouragement for Blended Families: Let’s talk about perspectives today, what is perspective and how does it influence our attitudes and decisions.  Is the glass half full or half empty, it boils down to your perspective. To quote Rick Riordan:“Humans see what they want to see.” I recently heard of a study that really explains the importance of perspective.  In the experiment, children were divided into two group … [Read more...]