Reflections of Grace 119: Feelings or Faith?

[display_podcast]About 25 years ago, through years of denial, spiritual abuse, and unresolved childhood abuse issues, my life broke apart in huge chunks and floated away on a sea of despair.  I lost my first marriage, my home, myself, my church, and my children moved out…and did I mention I lost myself?…all within a few months of each other.Then I entered the wasteland of devastation and loss and an overload of “feelings”.How can I describe the feelings?It was like being on a … [Read more...]

The Daren Streblow Comedy Show Mini-Cast 140: Arguing with Six-year-old, Steve Geyer & Bob Smiley

[display_podcast]Arguing with a six-year-old is like nothing else in life. There are simple “argument rules” that they simply don’t abide by. For instance, when entering into a debate, each statement you utter should be backed up by reality. But, they are unaware of that restraint.Also, in a six-year-old’s rationale, they can begin, substantiate and end an argument with one word: No. Here’s what I mean: “Dad, give me $1,000”“Son… I can’t give you $1,000. I don’t have it to give.” … [Read more...]

Blending Your StepFamily: Helping Your Toddler Through Your Divorce

[display_podcast] Babies begin to learn from the ages of 6 – 8 months that they are a separate being from their parents and others.  Before now, baby probably could be passed around from one person to the next without any fuss.  But as he is learning to distinguish between himself and others, he may develop stranger anxiety.  So before you leave baby with someone new, make sure he feels comfortable and secure.  Babies of separation and divorce seem to have a harder time of accepting the trans … [Read more...]

Blending Your Family 32: Helping Children Cope with Divorce Part 2 – Knowing When to Seek Help

[display_podcast] Children’s response to going through the divorce is as varied as the kids themselves.  Some have a very hard time with it while others seem to take it in stride.  My son, who was four at the time of our divorce, took it quite well.  He never showed signs of anger and seemed quite content.  In fact, as an adult, he has remarked how he felt it was for the best and never regretted the divorce.  He saw his dad and dad’s family often and everyone loved on him, I am grateful that he … [Read more...]

Blending Your StepFamily: Helping Your Child Cope With Divorce – Your Recovery Counts, Too!

[display_podcast] If you have ever flown, you know the emergency instruction to parents traveling with children is to first put the oxygen mask on yourself so you can then put it on your child.  You won’t be much good to them if you pass out from lack of oxygen.  You must take care of you so you can then take care of them.  So it is with coping with divorce.  You must take care of yourself so that you can be there for them. Your own recovery is vital to your children.  If you can be calm and em … [Read more...]

Blending Your StepFamily: Signs of Domestic Abuse

[display_podcast] From Pam Rohr, author of Blended but not Broken - Hope and Encouragement for Blended Families: Last time I shared part of my story about being married to my first husband and the abuse I suffered.  Today, I would like to look at the signs of abuse, how do you know if you are in an abusive relationship?  For those of us who are in one or have been in one, it’s not all abuse, right?  That’s why we stay.  We see some good in our partners’; we believe or want to believe them when … [Read more...]