Reflections of Grace 134: Toxic “Christians”

[display_podcast]Have you ever been deeply disillusioned by someone whom you thought was a friend but turned out to be a controller or manipulator and when you didn’t comply with their demands they dropped you?  Do you think because we are to seek to love everyone with God’s unconditional love that means you should allow them total access into your life?Actually real genuine love has many boundaries.  To enable someone to treat you with anything less than respect is actually enabling them … [Read more...]

Reflections of Grace 133: Those Spiritual Black Holes

[display_podcast]Have you ever had a time when you felt like you were in a spiritual black hole?   I have. The pressure seemed unbearable. No sense of God‘s presence. No sense of anything going on around me.These are the times, sorry to say, when I tend to question God’s love for us.  But then He demonstrates to me that He was there all the time. I call these times “faith experiences.”I have come to believe the black holes are needful in order to know that we have the shield that can … [Read more...]

Reflections of Grace 132: Can I Consider It Pure Joy?

[display_podcast]Feeling sorry for myself one day, I started asking myself some hard questions.   Have I been caught up in looking at the depth of pain and the depth of trials and sometimes pure craziness in my life, and thought, “Why the heck me, Lord”?  Have I not sown into your Kingdom?   When is my time coming?Yes, I am really being transparent here.“Haven’t I served you all my life?  Why so much suffering?  Starting from my childhood of abuse and ending up here, years later… sti … [Read more...]

Reflections of Grace 131: Do We See a Pattern?

[display_podcast]“How do I break this pattern in my life,” A commonly asked question with clients who are looking for change.“You have to step out of your comfort zone, that familiar, cozy place of dysfunction, and be willing to purposely change; make new decisions.”  I coached.With his head down, looking up at me, and a smile on his face, “Surely that should be easy, but I am afraid I will fail, ” he said.“Do you want to stay on this merry-go-round of failed relationships?” I q … [Read more...]

Reflections of Grace 130: Seven Traits of A Chronically Unhappy Person

[display_podcast]Being a Life Purpose Coach has opened my eyes to so many things in my own life. One of those things I have learned is that I am responsible for my own happiness-no one else is responsible for me.  So, I often coach about happiness being a choice and the one responsible for your happiness is YOU!Six years of coaching has shown me there are some definite characteristics of a chronically unhappy person.  It may take a few sessions but invariably it becomes clear to me the a … [Read more...]

Reflections of Grace 129: Masks of Inferiority

[display_podcast]Most of us deal with fear by trying to be someone we are not.  We try to transform our image by presenting ourselves as someone other than who we really are.I did this for years.  I called it the Imposter Syndrome.Many of us try to reinvent ourselves, seeking healing and transformation over and over again, through impersonating who we want to be, not who we really are.This is most often because we don’t love and accept ourselves.But in the end of this mas … [Read more...]