Blending Your StepFamily: Helping Your Toddler Through Your Divorce

[display_podcast] Babies begin to learn from the ages of 6 – 8 months that they are a separate being from their parents and others.  Before now, baby probably could be passed around from one person to the next without any fuss.  But as he is learning to distinguish between himself and others, he may develop stranger anxiety.  So before you leave baby with someone new, make sure he feels comfortable and secure.  Babies of separation and divorce seem to have a harder time of accepting the trans … [Read more...]

Blending Your StepFamily: How Divorce Affects Your Baby

[display_podcast] Studies have shown that divorce does affect children.  But as parents, we want to minimize the bad affects of our divorce for our kids.  We are going to take a look at the different developmental stages for kids and address how we can give the best care and support to our children, so they can develop healthily in spite of the divorce. Our role, as parents, is to help our child so that he does not regress emotionally and developmentally to an earlier stage of life.  So, when t … [Read more...]

Blending Your StepFamily: The Differences Between Helping and Enabling Irresponsible Stepchildren

[display_podcast] Each of us should continue to learn to love each other as Christ has loved us.  And, I can’t think of a better place to learn how to really love than in a stepfamily.  It’s a daily choice to choose to love others as God has loved us.  It’s a growing process but that process begins with wanting to please God by loving the ones He has sent us.  And that always begins with our family whether it’s blended or not.  You and I both chose to marry our spouses and we knew they had kids. … [Read more...]

Blending Your Family 32: Helping Children Cope with Divorce Part 2 – Knowing When to Seek Help

[display_podcast] Children’s response to going through the divorce is as varied as the kids themselves.  Some have a very hard time with it while others seem to take it in stride.  My son, who was four at the time of our divorce, took it quite well.  He never showed signs of anger and seemed quite content.  In fact, as an adult, he has remarked how he felt it was for the best and never regretted the divorce.  He saw his dad and dad’s family often and everyone loved on him, I am grateful that he … [Read more...]

Blending Your StepFamily: Helping Your Child Cope With Divorce – Your Recovery Counts, Too!

[display_podcast] If you have ever flown, you know the emergency instruction to parents traveling with children is to first put the oxygen mask on yourself so you can then put it on your child.  You won’t be much good to them if you pass out from lack of oxygen.  You must take care of you so you can then take care of them.  So it is with coping with divorce.  You must take care of yourself so that you can be there for them. Your own recovery is vital to your children.  If you can be calm and em … [Read more...]

Blending Your StepFamily: Healthy Perspectives Lead to Healthy Families

[display_podcast] From Pam Rohr, author of Blended but not Broken - Hope and Encouragement for Blended Families: Let’s talk about perspectives today, what is perspective and how does it influence our attitudes and decisions.  Is the glass half full or half empty, it boils down to your perspective. To quote Rick Riordan:“Humans see what they want to see.” I recently heard of a study that really explains the importance of perspective.  In the experiment, children were divided into two group … [Read more...]