Blending Your StepFamily: Helping Your Toddler Through Your Divorce

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[display_podcast] Babies begin to learn from the ages of 6 – 8 months that they are a separate being from their parents and others.  Before now, baby probably could be passed around from one person to the next without any fuss.  But as he is learning to distinguish between himself and others, he may develop stranger anxiety.  So before you leave baby with someone new, make sure he feels comfortable and secure.  Babies of separation and divorce seem to have a harder time of accepting the trans … [Read more...]

Blending Your StepFamily: Helping Your Child Cope With Divorce – Your Recovery Counts, Too!

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[display_podcast] If you have ever flown, you know the emergency instruction to parents traveling with children is to first put the oxygen mask on yourself so you can then put it on your child.  You won’t be much good to them if you pass out from lack of oxygen.  You must take care of you so you can then take care of them.  So it is with coping with divorce.  You must take care of yourself so that you can be there for them. Your own recovery is vital to your children.  If you can be calm and em … [Read more...]

Blending Your StepFamily 44: Wisdom From A Six-Year-Old

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[display_podcast] Welcome to Blending Your Stepfamily!  YOU are the reason I am here.  I love your family, I understand the “differentness” of a step family and I really want your family to come to a place where everyone knows where they fit.  Stepfamilies have to negotiate and renegotiate their relationships.  And success is felt when the family members come to acceptance of those relationships.  You may never have the same bond or love with your stepchild as your own child but when you come to … [Read more...]

How Divorce Impacts Teenagers: 13-18 Years Old

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[display_podcast] We have been discussing how divorce effects children differently, depending on their ages.  It’s so important to be aware of this when a family is experiencing divorce, in order to help your child cope in ways that are most beneficial to them in their age group.  Today we will discuss how divorce impacts teens, ages 13-18 years of age. As teens grow so does their desire to be independent.  They still need you however.  Though it may seem they are rebelling against you and what … [Read more...]

Blending Your StepFamily 42: Parenting ‘Tweens During A Divorce or Separation

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[display_podcast] Children ages nine-to-twelve, often referred to as Tweens, are able to speak about their feelings and they understand the reality of their family situations.  When their parents separate or divorce, they usually try hard to handle their feelings of sadness, anger and anxiety. They may handle things very resourcefully and disguise their feelings from everyone. Many become active in play as a way to cope. Some may also help out with new responsibilities or otherwise “manage” thin … [Read more...]

Blending Your StepFamily 41: Parenting 6-8 year-olds During A Divorce or Separation

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[display_podcast]Six to eight-year-olds are in the stage of self-discovery.   Despite all of their own accomplishments and feats, kids this age base much of their own self-image on how they and others perceive their parents.  A child of this age desperately needs to see the good in his parents in order to define himself as good.  Just as he draws power from knowing his parents are well thought of, so too, he can be very hurt by any hint that they are not.Children of this age perceive cri … [Read more...]