On Marriage, Church, and Sticking Around When Things Get Hard


In both marriages and churches, sometimes the challenge is to stay in the aftermath of serious hurts and major betrayals. More often, the challenge is to stay when things have become dull and predictable and exhausting. [Read more...]

Our Alleged “Contraceptive Mentality” is a Straw Man That Needs to Die

The way forward on abortion requires seeking common ground with those on a different side of abortion debates, and paying more attention to stories of individuals (realizing that such stories rarely conform to stereotypes) than to questionable “mentalities” that make it far too easy to categorize and then dismiss the valid concerns of those for whom these debates are far from hypothetical. [Read more...]

Big Gifts of a Small Life: Meeting God in Sticky Floors, Carpools, & the Needy People I Call My Own

We must believe that it’s necessary to go on with small acts of daily care even as the world seems to spin out of control. [Read more...]

Seven Favorite Posts on Disability, in Honor of the ADA’s 25th Anniversary

On the 25th anniversary of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA), I’m sharing seven of my favorite and most widely read posts on disability. [Read more...]

Suspicions Confirmed: Local Volunteer Does Not, In Fact, Have a Life

I’ve been on a wonderful family vacation and recovering from the whirlwind end of the school year. I’ll be back to regular blog posting next week. In the meantime, I had the opportunity to report on this bizarre news story. Enjoy.  West Suburbia, Conn.—In a shocking revelation, Lila Dougherty, who for years successfully masqueraded as a [Read More...]

On a Difficult Anniversary, Making Room for the Better Stories


I will always remember that terrible June day in 2009. But I’ve reached a point now where I can breathe a little easier than I used to. I can think of all the other stories I can tell about my girl, and that she can tell about herself, stories that matter just as much as the story of her accident, if not more. [Read more...]

How Technology Has—and Hasn’t—Changed the Experience of Having a Baby

Leah on September 12, 2001

What has changed since I had my first baby is that the divide between public and private has become far murkier; we must choose more deliberately between engagement and solitude, attention directed outward and inward, and fight to give ourselves fully to each pursuit at the proper time. [Read more...]

“Why don’t you just adopt?” is the wrong question to ask infertile couples. Here’s why.

Besides making people feel defensive for experiencing the fundamentally human urge to conceive and bear a child (a defensiveness that makes helpful conversation difficult), the question “Why don’t you just adopt?” glosses over some important truths about adoption. [Read more...]