Natural Family Planning Isn’t the Only Ethical Option for Christians: Why I Chose an IUD

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As I cradled my third newborn in his first hours of life, I was seized by a single, overwhelming thought: Never again. I could not possibly have another baby. My “never again” was more than a wearily satisfied observation that our family now felt complete. My “never again” was a desperate plea, tinged with panic, [Read More...]

Rethinking Margaret Sanger, Contraception, & How We are All a Moral “Mixed Bag”

A mixed bag. We are all a mixed bag. This is Theology 101, a most essential bit of Christian doctrine: We are all deeply flawed—“all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3;23). And no matter what our flaws are, God’s grace is sufficient. I thought of this as I watched my friend and colleague Rachel Stone’s words being misconstrued, twisted, and blasted by fellow Christians yesterday. [Read more...]

Remembering One of My “Cloud of Witnesses”

My “cloud of witnesses”—people whose stories have influenced my life, shown me what is important and led me in the way I need to go—is full of regular, imperfect people whose influence was also somewhat haphazard and unintentional. [Read more...]

The Perfect Pair of Boots and the Essential Work of Parenting

I wonder if, as our children grow and their increasingly complicated needs outgrow our capacities to easily meet them, the physical care we offer actually becomes more important, not less. We love people by engaging in basic acts of care for them. That is the essential, sometimes undervalued, foundation of parental love. It’s also the essential foundation of Christian love. [Read more...]

14 Blog Posts from 2014 That You Need to Read

These are the posts written in 2014 for which I had immediate recall because they were so wise, moving, funny, or all of the above. [Read more...]

On Assisted Suicide and Chronic Pain, Sex and Prayer, DNA and Ice Buckets: Top 10 Posts of 2014

The 10 most-read blog posts of 2014—a list that provides a good snapshot of topics I regularly cover, such as genetics, chronic pain, medical decision making, parenting, and Christianity. [Read more...]

Let’s Stop Bashing These Christmas Traditions

I’m all for trashing traditions that give us only glitz, gluttony, and maxed-out credit cards. But many of the traditions that get a bad rap, including these five, remain cherished by our family each year. [Read more...]

Feel Like Everyone Wants a Piece of You?: A Guide for More Wholehearted Living for Moms


The core message of Wholehearted Living is that while our families and responsibilities will sometimes pull us in a million directions or make us feel that we’ve handed out so much of ourselves to other people that there’s very little left for us, we can take a few minutes each day to nurture quiet and engage in meaningful reflection. [Read more...]