My Kids Are All Gone, and I Don’t Miss ‘Em

Forty-eight hours. That’s how long I have without one. single. child. in my home requiring food or their missing sandal or an arbiter for sibling warfare or a warm body at which to aim a stream of nonstop chatter. Well, I had forty-eight hours as of 4 p.m. yesterday. I’m already down to 29 hours. [Read More...]

I am Pro-Choice, But Jezebel Does Not Speak for Me

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My friend and colleague Amy Julia Becker wrote a lovely post on the Christianity Today women’s blog making the simple but vital observation that life for people with Down syndrome is not tragic and hopeless, but rather just as full of “good and bad things” as other people’s lives. Besides offering a glimpse into life in her [Read More...]

College Hookup Sex is Built on a Troubling Ethic of Achievement at Any Cost

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After reading Kate Taylor’s New York Times article on the culture of casual hookup sex at elite colleges, I had to fight the urge to call my two daughters into the room issuing dire warnings of the world that awaits them in college. The world Taylor describes, in which driven young women drink their anxieties [Read More...]

A Reminder of How Much I Have Forgotten

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Originally published on my previous blog on July 23, 2011. For two weeks, while the kids took swimming lessons every day at a local outdoor pool, a friend and I camped ourselves in a shady spot just next to the park’s wading pool. I had a front-row seat to the parade of infants, toddlers, and [Read More...]

Resurrection Year: Learning to Live, and Thrive, with Life as It Is Given

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Our Western cultural attitudes are not well-equipped for failure. We are a culture of optimists and fixers, holding fiercely to the notion that “pain is gain.” We want to believe that any problem can be overcome, any broken thing fixed, with hard work, a strong will, smart decisions, and hefty doses of modern technology. Christians can [Read More...]

Everyday Resurrections (& a New Bench)

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This post is very slightly edited from its original version published last August. You’ll note that I now have a new, much more attractive and comfortable bench to sit on as I work and keep an eye on the dog and soak up the sun.  I spend several hours a day sitting on this bench [Read More...]

Have One Child or Many, Just Don’t Plan on Getting What You Expect

Whether you choose to have one child or many, the children you end up with, and your willingness to embrace them no matter how they differ from the children you expected, will be the most important outcomes of your childbearing decisions. [Read more...]

Because He Cleans the Shower Drain: A Father’s Day Tribute

Sometimes I fall into the trap of believing that I already do everything anyway, that the minutiae in my head and the chores that I do on auto-pilot and the ways I most naturally interact with my kids are clearly the only minutiae and chores and interactions that matter. But they’re not. [Read more...]


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