My Church Bells Rang in Celebration of DOMA’s Defeat

Photo courtesy of the Rev. Curtis Farr, St. James's Episcopal Church, West Hartford, CT

Last Thursday morning, the bells of my Episcopal church pealed to celebrate the Supreme Court’s rejection of the Defense of Marriage Act. In my house in the days since, we have been playing Macklemore and Ryan Lewis’s song Same Love at top volume. The opening strains of the song, which indicts the notion that homosexuality is [Read More...]

[Snapshots from Oak Ridge] Banishing the Bugs

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For the past few springs, my lilies have been infested early in spring by red lily leaf beetles, which, if left alone, will destroy lilies and related plants. I have resorted to hand picking of beetles off my plants combined with a good spray of insecticide just once early in the season, at a time [Read More...]

[Me & My Naturopath] When Nothing Works

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This is the third post in which I discuss my efforts to deal with chronic arthritis pain through naturopathy. Read the first and second posts here and here.  So. I went to a naturopath in March hoping—believing—that something would help. Knowing that other people with OI (and many other conditions) swear by acupuncture for relief, [Read More...]

Everyday Resurrections (& a New Bench)

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This post is very slightly edited from its original version published last August. You’ll note that I now have a new, much more attractive and comfortable bench to sit on as I work and keep an eye on the dog and soak up the sun.  I spend several hours a day sitting on this bench [Read More...]

[Snapshots from Oak Ridge] It Bloomed After All

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I’m starting a simple Friday tradition of posting a snapshot from the environment in which I write here on Oak Ridge Lane. This idea came because, as I sit outside on my bench writing, I find myself wishing I could share the sunlit beauty of my garden. Of course, what is possible in June will [Read More...]

5 Truths About Blogging (IMHO)

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As always happens when conflict and controversy and hurt feelings come gushing forth from the normally tame river of words that constitutes my writing life, I have done a lot of thinking in the past few days. I have been thinking about what I wrote and what I meant, about when to speak up and [Read More...]

Have One Child or Many, Just Don’t Plan on Getting What You Expect

Whether you choose to have one child or many, the children you end up with, and your willingness to embrace them no matter how they differ from the children you expected, will be the most important outcomes of your childbearing decisions. [Read more...]

A Book to Help Us Be Informed Listeners on the Israeli-Palestinian Conflict

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Whether we’re telling stories or absorbing facts (or ideally, doing both), we are called to be compassionate listeners. Dale Hanson Bourke’s book, The Israeli-Palestinian Conflict: Tough Questions, Direct Answers is a vital tool for that endeavor. [Read more...]

The Latest Mass Shooting Didn’t Even Make the Front Page

I was leafing through the New York Times last Saturday morning when, deep toward the back of the front section, I came upon this article about a gunman, armed with an assault weapon and nearly 2,000 rounds of ammunition, who shot and killed four people in Santa Monica. (The death toll has since risen to [Read More...]

Because He Cleans the Shower Drain: A Father’s Day Tribute

Sometimes I fall into the trap of believing that I already do everything anyway, that the minutiae in my head and the chores that I do on auto-pilot and the ways I most naturally interact with my kids are clearly the only minutiae and chores and interactions that matter. But they’re not. [Read more...]

I Have a Kid Hangover (But Manage to Write Anyway)

The past thirteen-plus years for me have been one long exercise in welcoming the messy, noisy, needy people who are my children. They make it hard to get anything much done, especially writing. But without them, I’m not sure I’d have much of value to write. [Read more...]

Instead of Judging Our Fellow Parents, How About Offering Empathy & Respect?

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Parents love to judge each other for all kinds of perceived failures. Here are some common ways in which parents judge other parents harshly—and suggestions for replacing judgment with empathy and respect. [Read more...]


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